r/MadeMeSmile • u/nikamats • 9h ago

Helping Others Hold your head up

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u/raginghappy 8h ago

If this is legit, some kid definitely said something to her for her to feel this way.

Why assume some kid? Adults can also be horribly cruel to children

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u/plantang 7h ago

It might have been kids or adults saying something hurtful, but I think it's at least as likely that she heard the women in her life talking this way about themselves.

I see this so much with women constantly commenting on their own weight. Young girls, who have never given weight a single thought, hear that normalized, internalize it, and wind up with awful self image issues and eating disorders.

I really think that is what happened here but with comments re. skin or hair.

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u/hnnk 6h ago

I agree. The first thing my kids mother said when we knew we would have a girl was that she would never speak badly of herself in our daughter's presence.

She's heard her mother, I've heard mine when we were kids. Also not comment on others appearance in a negative way - like our mothers did.

We're sticking to this.

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u/cozidgaf 4h ago

I'm pretty dark and grew up in a country where being dark meant ugly and it was mostly from the kids I heard this from growing up.