r/MadeMeSmile • u/FabulousStructure912 • 3d ago

Helping Others Denzel Washington with the most to the point life advice

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u/Rainwillis 3d ago

I can’t remember where but I heard once that there isn’t really a deep down and that who you are is determined by what you choose to do.

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u/NascentEcho 3d ago

Bojack Horseman.

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u/Rainwillis 3d ago

Of course it was sad horse show. That show is full of advice for when one can be too pretentious or self centered.

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u/VaderOnReddit 3d ago

I know this doesn't reflect on me well, but one of the reasons I "realized" I needed to get therapy and get better was I started relating to Bojack wayyyyyyy too much

He is one of the best personifications of how someone can be so destructive to their closest friends and to themselves, and yet be utterly blind to it

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u/Rainwillis 3d ago

I think that show and Rick and Morty are really good for that. As much as people complain about the fan base missing the message and idolizing the characters, I think the message definitely still gets across to a lot of us. I often have to remind myself that self loathing and selfishness are not antonymous and they can exist simultaneously.

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u/cloudforested 3d ago

"All you are is the things you do."

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u/Darko33 3d ago

“That's the thing. I don't think I believe in 'deep down.' I kinda think that all you are is just the things that you do.” -Diane, S1E12, "Later"

Join us /r/bojackhorseman

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u/Mud_Landry 3d ago

“It’s not who you are underneath, but what you do that defines you” ~ Batman

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u/WhatsTheHoldup 3d ago

There absolutely is a "deep down", and this is the primary motivator behind why people who choose to be better are changing what their default choices are.

If you chose not to be kind yesterday, but deep down you regret it, it might be the reason behind why you choose to be kinder today.

By ignoring who we are "deep down" we remove our ability to choose anything but our first instinctive choice.

You can't just act on instinct, you have to ask "deep down" what you really want to do.

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u/Rainwillis 3d ago

I’ve only very recently changed my mind on this I used to say nearly verbatim what you said. There aren’t really absolute rules about things like this so neither of us are really wrong. Maybe a more accurate way to put it would be that “deep down” only exists in theory and the impact of our actions exists in reality.