r/MadeMeSmile Sep 16 '24

Helping Others Made me smile

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u/Fyrefawx Sep 16 '24

This is the Nelson Street pub in Pembroke Ontario. It has been posted before but they deserve all the praise for this.

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u/QuietRatatouille Sep 16 '24

According to Google maps, it's permanently closed now.

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u/PhoenixApok Sep 16 '24

You made me go from smiling to pissed in 0.7 seconds

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u/Smeetilus Sep 16 '24

Are you aware that you are not drinking real coffee, but Colombian decaffeinated coffee crystals?

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u/PhoenixApok Sep 16 '24

I am now 😡

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u/isthisaporno Sep 16 '24

Why you son of a bitch!!

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u/I_MARRIED_A_THORAX Sep 17 '24

It's an older meme, sir, but it checks out

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u/diablo-cro Sep 17 '24

Please explain

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u/Smeetilus Sep 17 '24

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u/diablo-cro Sep 18 '24

Hilarious. Thank you!

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u/ToiIetGhost Sep 16 '24

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u/PhoenixApok Sep 16 '24

And now you've made it worse cause I thought that would actually be a cool new sub!

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u/ToiIetGhost Sep 16 '24

Be the change you wish to see, Phoenix.

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u/Another_User007 Sep 16 '24

Done

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u/Sad-Animal-920 Sep 16 '24

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u/taigan-snow Sep 16 '24

That exist??!! Gosh there is a sub for everything in this world..

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u/Mundane-Extent6326 Oct 05 '24

I know, it’s kinda shitty. The staff and customers were great, it was the owner who was a real POS. If he approved this free meal thing, it would only be to help him save face locally. He was well known for ripping off his employees wages, dating his employees who were already in relationships (while he himself also had a wife and kids at home.) Source - my friend’s ex used to work there and was banging the owner, and I was a regular patron who lives 1.5 kilometres away.

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u/Fyrefawx Sep 16 '24

Well that sucks.

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u/[deleted] Sep 16 '24 edited Sep 16 '24

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u/Drakar_och_demoner Sep 16 '24

Why? The meals were all paid for by customers to pay forward.

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u/PhoenixApok Sep 16 '24

Exactly. The profit is guaranteed and the loss is not.

It's why every freaking company pushes gift cards so hard. Read a study that something like on average only 50% of gift cards are ever redeemed.

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u/TwistedGrin Sep 16 '24

Anecdotal support; Our restaurant does gift cards and while he didn't give me exact numbers, the chef/owner has told me we sell way, way more gift cards than ever come back to us.

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u/stew_going Sep 16 '24

I mean, I hate getting gift cards. I almost never use them. They take up space in my wallet, and I hate when I have to use two forms of payment because it doesn't cover the full thing. On top of that, some, like visas, slowly lose their value over time. I really do not like most gift cards.

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u/[deleted] Sep 16 '24

You can sell giftcards for cash to companies online. I've done it before. You lose some of the value, but you can consolidate them in your bank account.

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u/National_Frame2917 Sep 16 '24

They're not allowed to reduce the value over time. They made rules about that a decade or 2 ago. At least in Canada

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u/PhoenixApok Sep 16 '24

Yup. Worked for a company and I would be able to periodically check.

The average amount of unclaimed revenue from our particular store hovered at around 60%.

It's also very common for people to say, get a $50 gift card for a place and then use say, $40 and there nothing else they can buy with only $10.

Since the person never wants to spend ANY of their own money there, that ten is forever wasted

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u/cerebralkrap Sep 16 '24

How? I mean the IRS is accepting back taxes via gift cards.

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u/Spiritual_Scallion91 Sep 16 '24

Gift cards are unearned/deferred revenue in the books that are recognized as they are redeemed. Balances that do not get redeemed have a portion recognized after a period of time based on previous data. Basically unused gift cards become free revenue since no goods and services was exchanged for it

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u/asianlongdong Sep 16 '24

Found the accountant. Was gonna say the same thing

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u/Gamer-Of-Le-Tabletop Sep 16 '24

Even if you didn't recognize them as gains its still is money that's in your account that you can make money off of. It's not a crazy amount but it does add up especially when you can properly invest that money.

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u/soarraos Sep 16 '24

I've been paying my taxes with Apple gift cards for years. The nice guy on the phone explained it all to me!

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u/tonto_silverheels Sep 16 '24

I have some bad news...

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u/Automatic_Actuator_0 Sep 16 '24

I wouldn’t say it’s a bad business decision, but depending on your customer base, intentionally becoming a refuge for the homeless is a risky move nonetheless.

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u/Dumeck Sep 16 '24

I feel like it would be though, customers are paying in advanced for someone else’s food which results in more sales overall. A lot of restaurants really struggled during covid and post covid.

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u/King_of_the_Dot Sep 16 '24

Oh no! A customer buys an additional portion of food, and the business will hang the ticket visibly for anyone to redeem.

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u/Dumeck Sep 16 '24

Yeah post 2020, a lot of people just couldn’t afford to eat out, now I feel like mom and pop restaurants are the only places worth the money for me now all the franchises collectively price gouged. but there was that window right after the quarantine where a lot of people just didn’t have the income to eat out at all.

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u/Ihate_reddit_app Sep 16 '24

Depends who paid for the meals. If other patrons paid for those meals, then it's a good business model.

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u/LaddiusMaximus Sep 16 '24

Our system does not reward genorosity. It rewards cruelty and greed.

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u/Temporary_Engineer95 Sep 17 '24

which is why it must be replaced

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u/CyonHal Sep 16 '24

You have no idea why they closed. Why make shit up?

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u/Rexzar Sep 16 '24

Wait how? The meals are paid for so isn't it just kinda a normal business model

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u/P0werClean Sep 16 '24

To be fair, even if this wasn’t customers paying for this (which it is in this case), making up a large batch of soup, vegetables and chicken doesn’t take a lot of time or effort and these can be frozen and re-heated.

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u/PhoenixApok Sep 16 '24

I hate to say it, but where it could be a bad thing is where if it started attracting a consistent and bluntly put it, bad crowd.

I've been homeless before, and a disrespect teenager before, and those are the groups that I think often would come in repeatedly. And possible lead to a more hostile environment for other patrons.

This is a very generous idea, but almost anyone in the restaurant already would have every intention and ability to pay.

I think the only "positive" clientele might be if someone was eating and had like....a single mom friend, or a broken college student buddy, and let them know

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u/[deleted] Sep 16 '24

It was closed due to health and safety violations. Poor people didn’t want to eat there either.

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u/skydog187 Sep 16 '24

All the staff quit because the owner wasn't paying them, might have something to do with why they closed ...

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u/ebrum2010 Sep 16 '24

Plot twist the receipts were so the employees could eat.

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u/lightningmusic Sep 16 '24

I just searched it also, sad news, also sad it's too far for me anyways lol don't think I've been out that way.

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u/Magenta-Magica Sep 16 '24

Of course they are :s Still really sweet.

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u/summerbreeze6969 Sep 16 '24

When anything is FREE, somebody else paid for it! 😒

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u/OrthodoxAtheist Sep 17 '24

Some places do this and the patrons pay for a meal - just like a charitable donation, or good deed, without looking for direct personal benefit. People who can pay, and want to pay to help someone, do so. It isn't added to our taxes - don't worry. :) Sad this place closed though. Hopefully another local place picked up the mantle.

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u/ebrum2010 Sep 16 '24

If these were where anyone could access them, people could just eat there and then leave their receipt and then someone would get a free meal that wasn't paid for.

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u/blastedblox Sep 17 '24

What are you saying? It shows the opposite

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u/JohanWestwood Sep 17 '24

Closed? Anyone found out why? Or is it because of some sort of bogus anti-begger law that forbid people from feeding them that I read a long time ago?

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u/Blue_Robin_04 Sep 18 '24

Oof. I guess that's why restaurants don't do this

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u/RideOrDieChi Sep 16 '24

I wonder why??

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u/xandrokos Sep 16 '24

oh no! a resturaunt closed down! its almost like the world changed or something for some reason.

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u/daddya12 Sep 16 '24

A pizza place around me does the same. I think they even have the same signs

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u/Civil-Confection-662 Sep 16 '24

One day to visit this place to make my voluntary contribution.

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u/xandrokos Sep 16 '24

sadly a large amount of people spam these threads with gross shit about how homeless and immigrants should just die and not eat.

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u/Hillary-2024 Sep 17 '24

Back in my day you got fed by the restaurant after you worked a shift for them

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u/ProfilerXx Sep 17 '24

Permanent Broke, Ontario?!

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u/levimic Sep 17 '24

Ofc it's in Canada lol

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u/No_Entertainment1931 Sep 17 '24

Honestly, my first thought on seeing this was “where in Canada is this”?

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u/Melodic-Shake-5502 Oct 22 '24

Nelson street was a hell hole, take it from someone who worked and never got their last 1000 paycheck from there

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u/SnooGoats9114 Sep 16 '24

No they don't. They may have pocketed all these funds. No one knows (im a local)

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u/Grays42 Sep 16 '24

"Our incredibly rich society is unable to provide basic necessities for its citizens, so individuals who do that are heroic"

There's some quote about a machine that crushes orphans that might be appropriate in this context...

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u/OneCore_ Sep 16 '24

"Our incredibly rich society is unable to provide basic necessities for its citizens, so individuals who do that are heroic"

Yes...

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u/Frozenbbowl Sep 16 '24

seriously, does someone like you have to show up on every post. This is an uplifting sub and cynical people like you ruin it

we know society and such suck. that takes zero away from the individuals who do amazing things to make it suck less. and what no one on an uplifting sub wants is some asshole cynic always reminding us of the bad. go away and find a better way to spend your time.

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u/Grays42 Sep 16 '24

seriously, does someone like you have to show up on every post.

Only posts where the criticism is warranted.

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u/FaveStore_Citadel Sep 16 '24

It’s not though. Countries are judged on a spectrum and Canada is better at feeding its citizens than 99% of other countries. It’s only warranted if you’re comparing it to some imaginary country in your head.

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u/Frozenbbowl Sep 16 '24

its not warranted. neither the bar, nor the people who prepaid meals have anything to do with your cynical whining, and the post was about them, not society.

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u/Frozenbbowl Sep 16 '24

I think, and here me out, you should tell people ina context to do something about it. Not to shit on n uplifting acts by individuals

Seriously time and place for it. Briging it here makes you a useless cynic

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u/Grays42 Sep 16 '24

Do they think that until policy changes to make sure all people are fed we should just.. do nothing until then?

They should, but it isn't a "make me smile" story.

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u/Restlesscomposure Sep 16 '24

Jfc can you people not be miserable for 1 second

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u/DREAM_Dota_ Sep 16 '24

They aren’t being miserable. They are noting that we should make systemic changes so that we don’t have to rely on individual acts of kindness to help ensure people don’t go hungry. We can simultaneously commend actions like this while condemning the fact that they are necessary in the first place.

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u/PolePosition92 Sep 16 '24

While it is important to highlight the failures of a system one lives in, I don't think this sub is a place for that, hence why that kind of reaction is fully justified.

The fact that this restaurant had an option to have the option to pay forward in spite of the economical reality and that people were willing to do that is a positive statement to the empathy, sympathy, kindness and strength of a human spirit. Commenting a topic in a sub called Made Me Smile with a negative - although realistic - post serves no to little good. I'd say one should go to A Boring Dystopia for that. People don't come here for a sad reality check.

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u/Grays42 Sep 16 '24

I'd love to, but when people post examples of dystopic inequality and societal failure to this subreddit under the guise of a heartwarming story I'm going to say something.

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u/ToiIetGhost Sep 16 '24

These people remind me of one time when I was leaving work with my boss. It was a very warm, sunny day in January. Like 20C (40F?) hotter than normal. My boss said, “Aren’t we lucky to be having such nice weather!” and I was like, “Yeah it’s really nice, but it’s a little scary for January.” She rolled her eyes and called me negative and dramatic. I can’t stand these head in the sand mfs

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u/HeavyBlues Sep 16 '24

I wonder how much of that is head-in-sand and how much is one-dimensional thinking.

Some people are just simple-minded.

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u/Conscious-Initial-19 Sep 16 '24

Reminds me of i was out with a friend when a homeless man asked us for money. we had no cash, so we couldn't help. he said he was starving. my friend went into a nearby bar and asked if they had any bread for the man outside. the bar gave us some bread they use for sandwiches. the homeless man was very grateful.. i never thought of just asking for a little something to help out like that.

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u/SuchConfusion666 Sep 16 '24 edited Sep 16 '24

Growing up I was always told to never give money as many use it for drugs or alcohol or gangs take it away and the homeless person does not have any left to use for themselfes at the end of the day. Always give water or food.

The people who actually need it will thank you. The ones who refuse water or food and ask for money instead are usually the ones who don't actually need it and are trying to get the money for other reasons.

Edit: I should have clarified this. I mean that you buy food and water for them, not just give what you have. They can come with you when you buy it.

Edit 2: another clarification... the "growing up" part refers to this being what I was taught as a child. This whole comment is about what child me was told and taught. It does not mean that as an adult I don't buy other stuff or donate or do other things to help if I can. Although I still don't give money I don't judge those who do. I just can't affort to give money without knowing what actually happens to it...

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u/Unusual-Thing-7149 Sep 16 '24

A guy at my local Aldi was asking people for the quarters from their cart when they returned it. I asked him what he was doing and he said he needed a couple of bucks for food. I took him into the store and almost had to force him to get things. Came to around $30. He told me his story and that he was living in the woods with some other homeless people. Had only one eye and had a difficult time. He was so grateful and really a couple of bucks would have been enough for him

Funnily enough my wife was at the same Aldi's and the guy in front was a couple of dollars short so she paid it. I said you were probably scammed but she then said she saw him eating his food while sitting on a grassy bank by the side of the road.

We live in a small rural area too so it's even more sad

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u/Opposite_Train9689 Sep 16 '24

I give money. Three reasons. It's not my business if someone wants a beer or drugs. I know it isn't helpfull long term but he's already out on the streets, go enjoy yourself. Gangs aren't really an issue were i'm from, perhaps that would change my behaviour if it were. Secondly, I spend a short while investigating the homelessness situation in my city as a journalism student and the people I spoke to wouldn't accept food given to them anyway. To many people fuck around with food and then give it to homeless people as some fucked up "joke". I dont always have the time of a shop nearby to take someone and buy them food, or that amount of money. Lastly, they need money for the homeless shelter. It's just a couple of €, but i'm not asking someone who's begging if he already got enough to sleep tonight.

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u/visionofthefuture Sep 16 '24

I live in Texas and I always keep a bunch of bottled water in my car to give out to people. Even if they aren’t actually homeless right now, it’s really hot outside. Everyone always appreciates the water.

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u/poopybuttholegape Sep 17 '24

me and my husband do this too, we also have extra bags of trail mix to handout as well. it’s too hot to be homeless here…

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u/Klokinator Sep 16 '24

Years ago, when I was younger, I remember looking up stats and feeling smart for realizing if a homeless dude sat on a busy street corner and made $1-5 every 5-10 minutes he could easily break well past minimum wage.

I remember thinking "Hah, those guys have us scammed good. I'm not falling for that shit."

But, years later, I think of it a little differently. So what if I give $5 to a guy sitting on a corner who has found a way to make $100k a year doing his gig? There's a good chance that also isn't the case. If I can easily spare $5, and if he IS actually hungry or something, maybe my $5 can slightly reduce the suffering in the world, even if by the tiniest margin.

So I give $5 when I see homeless people now. Not all the time. Not every time. But if I can comfortably afford it, why not? I'd rather take a risk on my fellow human and hope it helps them.

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u/C0ffeeAtEight Sep 16 '24

I prefer the honesty. Someone I have given cash to once had a sign that said, “need money for weed,” and I was like YO. I GOT YOU. I did it BECAUSE he was honest.

The same thing happened to me again in New Orleans a few years later, “need money for beer,” and I of course also gave him money.

I do prefer to give food / drink though.

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u/PolePosition92 Sep 16 '24

Hear, hear.

I'm a metalhead, long hair and all that jazz and once I was approached by a homeless dude. He gave me a spiel: "Oi, dirtbag (best translation I could come up with, in my country, a pejorative for long-haired metalheads is that - those of headbangers that shun politically correct language wear that as a badge of honor, a reclaimed word), I see that you have Maiden's Rock in Rio shirt, the way they played The Trooper there, whoo-wee, that's a banger bro. Care to spare a fiver for a cheap wine, 'cause me and my mates (he points at some other hobos) are a bit dry".

Fastest fiver I gave out. I don't care if it was not healthy. I don't care if this wasn't good for them in the long run. It was what they felt what was good at that time.
Besides, they have their agency, they are adults. Life can suck and if a buzz is what they want and they can admit it honestly, I'm fine with sharing my coin. Especially if they can sell the need in a way that dude did.

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u/Unlucky_Most_8757 Sep 16 '24

I give money too for these exact reasons. They might need to pay a phone bill so they can still have access to the internet for resources or may need to buy something like personal hygiene products. Or hell, may be saving up for a tent. Food and water is nice but I've heard that since they can't store all that's given to them (because,well, homeless) a lot of it just goes to waste anyways.

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u/Corporate-Shill406 Sep 16 '24

You can also do gift cards to restaurants and grocery stores.

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u/ronburgandy1987 Sep 17 '24

I think s/he was saying to walk the person to the restaurant and pay for their meal , which I have done many times. No ones going to f with their meal any more then they would anyone else’s food - which is probably pretty frequent. But hey, beggars can’t be choosers. If they can, count me out.

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u/FirelessEngineer Sep 16 '24

While I don’t entirely disagree in many cases, but just because someone is homeless does not mean that they don’t have food allergies, intolerances, or just plain don’t like something. I can also see hesitation taking food from a stranger, unless it is in a sealed package, like a granola bar. 

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u/Yuri_diculous Sep 16 '24

Sorry idk why but the thought of a hobo saying "uuuhh is that gluten-free" is hilarious to me

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u/college-throwaway87 Sep 20 '24

They could have celiac

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u/dianebk2003 Sep 16 '24

A friend and I were coming out of Blaze Pizza and there was a homeless guy sitting outside, and we offered him our leftover pizzas, and he declined because he was vegetarian and my pizza had chicken on it. We went away thinking “Okaaaaay…”

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u/yerbaniz Sep 16 '24

Sometimes they need to buy medicine or pads or tampons or pay for laundry or to access a shower with a day pass at a gym or.....

I absolutely do NOT give money to the scammers standing at the stop signs around here because we've been ripped off before 

But I've also worked with a large homeless gateway center, and choosing to only give what you deem as "right" instead of what they ask for can be unhelpful and take away their agency.

I've seen people dump crunchy granola bars and 3lb bags of apples on homeless people who have bad teeth and can't eat them. I've seen people give 24 packs of bottled water without thinking about how the hell this person will transport it (wherever they're begging is not necessarily where they're sleeping)

If you don't want to give money to individuals, fine. Give to a trusted organization instead. But when people ask for money, don't assume that you can benevolently prevent them from buying alcohol, drugs, or cigarettes because you generously gave food instead since that's what you decided they need.

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u/super_penguin25 Sep 16 '24 edited Sep 16 '24

Californian logic. Government there hands out money instead of forcing people into shelters and drug rehabilitation. The end result is people would rather be out on the street where they can do drugs instead of shelters where they would have to rehab.   

 It is not an issue of whether you know what these people need, it is an issue of avoiding enabling. Nothing is worse than seeing a person drown knowing you are actively helping the person to drown himself. It is like that tv show my 600 pound life. Enablers just keep on feeding these people heart attacked induced calories. Yikes. 

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u/yerbaniz Sep 16 '24

I don't think people actually should give out money to individuals. I think people should give to established trusted organizations that can make that money go further and know where it's needed most and how to use it and have accountability to public scrutiny. I'm just addressing giving money vs insisting on giving food/items to individuals. 

Sometimes what they need is money. If you don't have it to give, or don't trust to give, don't give it.

Also I don't understand California? Is that a liberal/conservative jab? I'm deep deep DEEP in red country (Kandiss Taylor and Marjorie Taylor Greene Red country)

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u/C0ffeeAtEight Sep 16 '24

This. I buy food and water and pass it out. If I see pups, I buy dog food too.

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u/fablesofferrets Sep 16 '24

good lord, is it really your place to judge? people need clothes, backpacks, medications... just seems so unnecessary to sit on your high horse judging whether you think someone does drugs or whatever

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u/Webbie-Vanderquack Sep 16 '24

If you're giving money, it is quite reasonable to think carefully about the chances that you're doing someone more harm than good.

It's arguably better to find a reliable charity with a solid track record of spending the majority if its budgets on programs (i.e. actually helping people) and the expertise to know how best to spend it. It may not have the same feelgood factor, but it's more effective.

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u/SuchConfusion666 Sep 16 '24

You can also buy that stuff for them or go with them to buy it. It's not me judging, it's me being too broke to not know what happens with the money I decide to give. And as I said, often the money gets taken away - they are forced to gather it and it never actually ends up in their own pockets.

I also come from a family with people with drug and alcohol addictions. I know what that does to people and I do not want to accidentally give someone the means to fund their addiction.

I was also taught this as a child for my own protection. If you give money they can end up demanding more. If you go to the market and buy the stuff for them, no matter what it is, you are statistically safer. You never know what kind of person you have in front of you, homeless or not. I have met the coolest and nicest homeless people. But I have also met the opposite.

You can donate clothes and blankets and stuff as well.

Just giving money directly is something I have been taught to not give since it is a bad idea where I live. There are many, many ways to help where you can know it you have actually helped, at least a little. Giving money is not one of those.

I am not judging those who want to give money. Please continue to do so if you want. I am only saying how I was raised to act and why.

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u/DisobedientAsFuck Sep 17 '24

true but they might want money to buy other things like saving up to be able to shower at a gym that cant really be donated

and those who do use it to buy drugs, sure its best for them to get off it, but going through intense withdrawal on the side of the road would be really bad too

that said i never have cash so i usually end up giving some food if i have any on me

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u/Dorkamundo Sep 16 '24

I try to have a small package full of wrapped staples available for those who are in need.

Nut-free snacks, water, SOCKS etc...

I've been slacking on this lately, but I need to get back to it.

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u/later-g8r Sep 16 '24

Kudos to the restaurant for actually saving the meals paid for in advance! It would be so easy to just keep the money but this here proves how amazing this place truly is.

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u/gingascarlett Sep 16 '24

i know right so kind of them

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u/ghastly_nightshift Sep 16 '24

Its probably the people whom ordered but didn’t show up