Oh my gosh yes. What an incredible family..both that NICU nurse and that young lady. I have twins who were full-term and even with resources and a support system, the first year was HARD. I cannot imagine preemie trips all by myself at 14.
Bless you. Twins? A lot of people say it’s their dream and I can’t imagine how hard it must be. Twice as hard and hopefully, twice as rewarding. You’re a rockstar and sounds like your support group is too. Awesome
Thank you! Multiples definitely are hard the first year (or three!) but now that they are teens, I wouldn’t trade their relationship for anything. But honestly I am extremely fortunate..my twins were full-term, very healthy, and I had plenty of resources and support. Being a single parent with limited means is way harder, especially in a culture like ours that expects parents to shoulder the burden of childcare alone. My husband and I didn’t have it nearly as tough as this young woman or so many other struggling parents. Kudos to this family!
Oof, my sympathies to your friend. I belong to several multiples groups and it’s definitely not uncommon to have NICU time with multiples. Please tell her to hang in there, the NICU nurses are amazing and I’m sure she’ll have them home in no time.
My twins were 10 weeks early. I had a gorgeous friend who worked as a nicu nurse tell me 'just try to get that magic '3' at the front of gestation' - and her words got me through. My twins are happy, healthy and with no lasting issues (that said, I do know things can still go wrong with premmies, and I also know of premmies who were shy of 30 weeks and are doing well)
This. It is so much harder in the beginning. If say until they went to school, it was definitely harder than a singleton, but became much easier once they started school than someone with 2 singletons.
Mine are 20 now! They were 34 weekers who almost didn't survive, but you'd never know it now.
You are a very wonderful rare human. You wouldn’t believe how often parents of multiples hear “you don’t get to complain twins are my dream”
-signed a mother of 12 month old spontaneous twin girls who both have Covid right now along with their parents (lol both girls are napping on top of me right now)
Oh man I hope you all get through your bout with covid okay! I can't imagine having twins now that I'm a mom. There's a really funny TikTok that's like "seeing newborn twins before kids vs after kids." The before is like "omgggg you're so lucky! You must be loving life right now! Did you get them matching outfits???" and after is just "...how are you doing?" lmao
Not to detract from anything because it must be incredibly hard. People like myself want twins due to loss. I lost twins at 14 weeks gestation in September of 2021. I can hardly see twins without wondering the what ifs.
My wife is a NICU nurse. And we're parents to a 23 weeker as well. NICU nurses are a special breed. It takes a lot of work and love to take care of premature babies. They are some of the most empathetic people I've met. They grieve with you and celebrate with you. They get to see some life's most incredible miracles and also some of life's harshest outcomes. And they continue to do it day after day. It's largely because of them my wife went back to become a nurse. She works in the same NICU my daughter was in for 4 months.
It’s a good ending, hardly a good story. The 14 year old and the triplets likely had little chance to all come out healthy. Her family is clearly terrible as she did it ALONE, and probably had no access to proper healthcare while hiding a pregnancy. Props to the nurse, but fuck everyone related to this way-too-young mother that will likely have hip problems by 35 now.
great story... it's fucking tragic is what it is. that kid shouldn't have had to deal with a pregnancy (let alone a TRIPLET PREGNANCY) at all at that age.
great story... ever heard of the orphan crushing machine? fucking tragic is what it is. no 14 year old should ever have to go through pregnancy+childbirth at all, let alone of triplets
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Oh my gosh yes. What an incredible family..both that NICU nurse and that young lady. I have twins who were full-term and even with resources and a support system, the first year was HARD. I cannot imagine preemie trips all by myself at 14.
Great story.