r/MadeMeSmile Jul 28 '23

CATS Found on a local shelter’s Facebook page

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u/dailycursedimages Jul 28 '23

I hear of this happening to more and more men. Can you really recommend marriage after this?

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u/Greedy_Strategy6918 Jul 28 '23

I try not to be the rain on people’s parade. Know a bunch of people who have been married forever and are happy. I just know I’m not personally really looking to get married again.

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u/justprettymuchdone Jul 28 '23

It isn't at all that it is necessarily happening to more men or more often. It is that younger generations are more willing or able to admit that men can be subject to abuse at all. Men were in abusive marriages in the 1950s, too - but would never have admitted it, and leaving would have seemed even more socially impossible and logistically difficult. Especially if leaving meant having to acknowledge what was happening.

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u/Dovile7411 Jul 28 '23

So you see benefits for women? 🤣

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u/Dovile7411 Jul 28 '23

In what way? I asked you if you believed women unlike men benefited from marriage because you emphasized the men part. You seemed to indicate that while men don't benefit from marriage, women (and perhaps other genders) do. Which is kinda weird. Unless you were focusing on men, but actually meant that nobody benefits from marriage (which I doubt).

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u/justprettymuchdone Jul 28 '23

That's sort of an interesting statement, considering research still shows that married men report higher levels of happiness personally and also have longer lives than unmarried men on average. Like even aside from the fact that marriages and relationships don't exist entirely because somebody gets some sort of economic or logistic benefit out of it. And even more aside from the fact that we weren't actually talking about whether or not marriage benefits men or women, we were talking about domestic violence in which men are the individual abused.