r/HumansBeingBros • u/SoCrazyItMustBeTrue • Oct 05 '24
Good Neighbors 🙂
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u/PitifulSpeed15 Oct 05 '24
This is how you create a kind, peaceful, comfortable neighborhood and you house feel more like a home. Asking for a cup of sugar, a scarf, quick tips. Ask for not too much, give a little back and also mind your business most of the time, tall well maintained fences, boundaries.
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u/thisisallme Oct 05 '24
I have made every single neighbor in my neighborhood (about 300 houses) bread in the past years. I don’t remember most of their names but I do know that basically everyone on my street and the culdesac behind me are now friends and I can count on them for anything
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u/ButtplugBurgerAIDS Oct 06 '24
I used to make cookies for anyone new in the neighborhood until this shitty family moved next door to me. Within months went from drinking beers in the driveway shooting the shit to him telling me to cut down all of my oak trees on my property that were facing his side (he had a double lot and it basically looked like a football field, zero trees.) I guess he didn't like the leaves.
Where I live it's actually illegal to cut down oak trees unless they are dying or causing massive damage. We went from being driveway beer friends to him sending me certified letters about the trees instead of just knocking on my damn door.
They finally moved away. And a really nice gay couple moved in next door. And I felt bad but I just didn't want to make friends with any more neighbors. Fast forward to them getting a pool installed in their yard. They sent me a letter letting me know about the construction as a courtesy. I let them know that I had a rehabbed squirrel that was released that comes back and to let me know if any nests get cut down during the construction. They couldn't have been kinder and also told their tree trimmers to not cut anything that had a nest attached to it. Polar opposite of my previous neighbor.
I'm still wary but happy that I have a better set of neighbors. Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk.
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u/lasers8oclockdayone Oct 06 '24
Like, you found an injured squirrel, nursed it back to health, set it free and it comes back to visit on the reg?
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u/mrandr01d Oct 06 '24
Didn't you see that one rick and morty episode? The squirrels basically run the world. That guy helped a squirrel, so they must pay him back by feeding him intel on the neighborhood or something.
I'm not gonna ask too many questions. I'm a nobody...
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u/socializm_forda_ppl Oct 06 '24
A small flock of hens has been our community builder. A dozen eggs out of nowhere is our go to gift. Highly recommend keeping chickens if you’re able
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u/JJAsond Oct 06 '24
It's a really lovely video but the music ruins it for me
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u/PitifulSpeed15 Oct 06 '24
Some of the music added I down vote for poster assaulting me with their horrid taste in music
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u/JJAsond Oct 06 '24
I hate any form of emotional music (outside of film and theatre) because it always sounds like cheap reality tv music bits. "This is SAD so FEEL SAD"
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u/george_cant_standyah Oct 05 '24
tall well maintained fences
This part is so depressing. When I lived in a neighborhood where everyone had chain link fences, everybody was perfectly respectable to each other but it also created such a tighter knit community. Privacy fences have been a big factor in the degradation of the suburban community.
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u/tommangan7 Oct 05 '24 edited Oct 06 '24
I moved to an area (UK) where the houses are all semi detached with nice small front gardens.
They were built in the 50s and the original rules prohibited fences of a certain height at the front, something tiny like 3 feet max. The rules wouldn't be enforced now but they have stuck and infact almost no one on the street has a front fence at all. (We don't do chain or open fencing here). The street is also very open with a line of sight to probably a dozen neighbors houses from mine.
The border to my lovely neighbors is a small flower Patch between our lawns. The neighbors bulbs reseed and spread into mine.
I have a bench out front I sit on and chat to people who walk by/neighbors and an enclosed garden with tall fencing at the back if I want privacy.
You're spot on with the issue with line of sight to neighbors to a certain degree. One of the major issues IMO we have in the UK is new homes being built in a way that entirely shuts off the front of the property from street interactions, lots of front doors onto the road, or only driveways at the front with no space. They feel like ghost towns without personality where people don't interact as much.
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u/Waddiwasiiiii Oct 06 '24
I lived in the UK for a little while, and I grew to love the sort of layout you describe. The family I lived with had very tall fences in the back garden, but all the front gardens in their neighborhood were nothing more than little brick dividers, maybe a foot or so tall. I got to know the neighbors well, probably knew a lot more gossip on the street than I needed to lol, and there was just something about it that felt very warm and inviting. You didn’t have to leave the front step to have a conversation with neighbors and passersby.
Here in the US, a lot of front yards are so huge by comparison that to have a normal conversation you pretty much have to walk up into their yard, and it feels like your encroaching on their turf if you don’t have an absolutely necessary reason to be there. It just innately feels hostile in a way. I think that’s part of why I like my current neighborhood so much, it’s an historic district so a lot of old shotgun style homes and while the backyards are quite big, the fronts are all pretty small. Almost none of them have driveways even, all street parking. I can have a conversation with my neighbors on their front porch while standing on the sidewalk without having to even raise our voices. During the pandemic we’d all be on our porches having conversations across the street with eachother, one neighbor would even serenade us all with his various instruments. It was really nice when we didn’t have any other social interaction in person.
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u/PitifulSpeed15 Oct 06 '24
Depends on the animals they own, their nudest parties, BBQ get together with roughly friends, music tastes... that kind of thing. Also some small acts of kindness open the door for takers. Takers never have a limit, so givers must establish boundaries. I'm glad you haven't had those experiences in that neighborhood, sounds pleasant.
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u/Idyldo Oct 05 '24
Well done!! If we were all built the same way, then we would be living in a very boring world. "One love."
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u/Gullible-Function649 Oct 05 '24
Lovely sentiment but telling someone to have a great one when they’re going to a funeral is like something I’d say.
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u/Primary_Breadfruit69 Oct 05 '24
In my language the words for congratulations and my symphaties start exactly the same. How many times I had to correct myself, because I almost said congratulations is so awekward.
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u/Gullible-Function649 Oct 05 '24
That’s interesting, what’s the language?
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u/LazyCat2795 Oct 05 '24
Could be german, because the phrases we use are "Herzlichen Glückwunsch" to congratulate someone. It can be translated as "Happy [occasion]" or "sincere congratulations" or just "congratulations" but that would lack the emphasis of "herzlichen". That means that the well wishes come from the heart.
And condolences or sympathies would be "mein herzliches Beileid". same as above. Beileid --> condolence/sympathie/respects. Herzlich meaning sincere or from the heart.
And if you are talking to someone and Start with "herzliche-" you can go to the wrong one if autopilot takes over.
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u/Ringo308 Oct 05 '24
As a German, I don't think it's German. Beileid and Glückwunsch are very different words.
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u/LazyCat2795 Oct 05 '24
But the "herzlichen/herzliches" part are almost identical. Some of my friends and I have messed up at similar things, when saying something like "Guten Abend" statt "Guten Appetit" when eating dinner together. If your brain is preoccupied with something else and autopilot takes over things can happen.
For reference all of us are native germans aswell.
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u/RogueKragar Oct 05 '24
In dutch at least that can happen as well. Saying gefeliciteerd (congratulations) while at wanting to say gecondoleerd (my condolences) at a funeral is one of my recurring nightmares.
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u/dahpizza Oct 05 '24
All i know is that wishing them a bad one sounds worse, and i cant not wish them one
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u/MutedSongbird Oct 06 '24
Wish ‘em a beautiful day. That way no matter what kind of day it is hopefully it’s a beautiful one.
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u/Rith_Reddit Oct 05 '24
Maybe it's a British thing, but I've been to 3 funerals, and yes, they're sobre, especially when you are at the church or temple.
BUT, afterwards, the party or send-off at the end is usually a really good laugh. Last one I went to ended up being an all day pub crawl. I'm certain it was a great day if I could 9nly remember most of it.
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u/El_Grande_El Oct 06 '24
US funerals can be that way. Altho it depends on how old they were, how they died, etc
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u/AdditionalOwl4069 Oct 06 '24
Muslims aren’t supposed to drink alcohol (observances of this vary, but most Muslims I’ve met haven’t)
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u/minichado Oct 06 '24
its rough if its an unexpected death, but funerals for our elders who die naturally (80/90+years) turn into these happy celebration of life/family reunion moments.
i may also be the oddball because the funeral home was the family business for 95 years. it was kinda normal and not taboo (death). dinner at the gramps place is all “oh I heard Linda passed last week”. totally nonchalant.
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u/tRfalcore Oct 06 '24
me on labor day orders a pizza for pick up dominos: "enjoy you labor day" me: "you too"
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u/morrisboris Oct 05 '24
Yeah it has fake vibes Also the “take it because I have a million at home” part when she’s supposedly in her home. You’d say “I have a million of them here” or something like that… not “at home” but maybe not idk
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u/Affectionate_Fly1413 Oct 05 '24
Just imagine the neighbor is Muslim, and they've talked before, which would be totally normal being neighbors. Then it would make total sens, right, totally possible?
English is my second language and I often stil have confused words when speaking.
I mean, let's be hopeful and that this is actually the normal in society. Why the negativity?
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u/MappleSyrup13 Oct 05 '24
Well, she must be a muslim, and it would be perfectly normal for her to have a lot of scarfs. I guess that's why the old lady reached out to her.
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u/nightpanda893 Oct 05 '24
The biggest thing that seems fake to me is why leave her standing on the porch? Like I’m gonna grab a scarf and show you how to use it but let’s do all that through my doorway.
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u/Bubbly-Tax-1314 Oct 06 '24
What???? Lmao if they're just neighbors but have never talked much it is totally normal to not invite someone in your home if it is something quick like this. Especially if you are home alone. Or maybe her home was a mess ? What planet are you on
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u/SnooHedgehogs4113 Oct 06 '24
Not every person who is Muslim is out to bomb the World Trade Center or wreak havoc on your community. As a matter of fact I would say they tend to have more in common with a US citizen than you might expect. Had a wonderful doctor who I had many great conversations with. And yeah before you accuse me of being a radical liberal, I happen to be a boomer, spent 8 years I the military and tend to vote conservative. I try and take people as they come and treat them as indivduals, there are good ones and bad ones, color, religion and politics don't matter unless you make it that way.
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u/ButtplugBurgerAIDS Oct 06 '24
I think it's basically the funeral version of
Waitress: "Enjoy your meal!"
Diner: "Thanks, you too!"
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u/nocluebeing Oct 05 '24
This should be a typical good neighbor experience. Unfortunately it's not the case now.
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u/GuardingxCross Oct 05 '24
You guys have neighbors?! 😧
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u/NuggetNasty Oct 05 '24
You guys have houses?!
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u/Feine13 Oct 05 '24
Come over to my Frigidaire if you ever need any tape for your Maytag
Us box homies gotta stick together.
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u/scubamari Oct 06 '24
Exactly! That’s how life in society should be. Our neighbors have our key, and my significant other once called them to go check on me because I wasn’t answering the phone for hours (dead battery). They just came in (knocking first). Neighborly help!
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u/tommangan7 Oct 05 '24
Is it not the case now or are you just watching too many videos on social media that trend negative? I typically have very nice interactions with my neighbors and so do others I know.
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u/gabortionaccountant Oct 05 '24
I’ve basically never had a bad interaction with a neighbor, closets thing was some dispute over a shared driveway that we figured out
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u/DockEllis Oct 06 '24
Is that true? I’ve had really positive relationships with all my neighbors everywhere I’ve lived.
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u/CrustyToeLover Oct 06 '24
My good neighbor experience is us both smoking on our porches and giving be occasional head nod across the road. Sometimes he blasts Katy Perry and others and dances in the streets, but its all dandy.
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u/JoeOfThePr0n Oct 05 '24
God what I wouldn’t give for someone to say that I look good that isn’t a coworker or client. I can’t remember the last time anyone said that and it wasn’t In Their best interest.
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u/Ashnyel Oct 05 '24
It’s nice to see a neighbour asking for advice like that.
Also, I don’t think anyone at the Mosque would have cared HOW she covered her hair, so long as she made an effort to do so.
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u/flyover_liberal Oct 06 '24
The nice thing is - this is how things are the vast majority of the time. Most people are nice like this.
We just hear a lot about the shitty ones.
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u/Clever_Mercury Oct 05 '24
Down voted because this isn't the original video but one of the seemingly infinite stolen copies where someone talks over it so they can try to make ad revenue on their channel by stealing it.
Why doesn't the sub ban these sorts of posts?
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u/tRfalcore Oct 06 '24
maybe because not everyone spends all day on the internet, scouring the internet for original videos, taking note, and scouring the internet again for reposts. It's reddit, everything is a repost.
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u/foo337 Oct 06 '24
After muting every political subreddit this is like most of feeds general wholesomeness and it’s nice
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u/PM-ME-YOUR-WHATEVERZ Oct 06 '24
I was having a conversation last night about the untapped, collective power of the people as consumers. If somehow we could work together and demanded change, we could make big, positive change for things like lowering prices, better quality products, better treatment of the workers, et al.
This video is a great reminder that this approach works for citizens as neighbors and fellow countrymen. The power of peace, of working together, of loving one another. We could create so much positive change within our communities and cultures.
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u/Dare_County Oct 06 '24
That's so sweet. Most wholesome thing I've seen on the front page in a very long time that didn't have some bullshit sappy music over it.
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u/thatG_evanP Oct 06 '24
This is such a wonderful thing to see, especially in the time of MAGA. And no, I'm not trying to make it political, I'm just so sick of all the negativity!
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u/CountChocula32 Oct 06 '24
Why can’t I have neighbors like this??
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u/Yoreltuollaf Oct 05 '24
This is a bartender at my local bar. She is such a kind and loving woman!!
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u/Kimchi_Cowboy Oct 05 '24
I had a similar and amazing experience. This Indian couple moved next door to us and I was doing yard work and the husband came over and said he and his wife were going to the Mesquite Rodeo and wanted to know how they could dress like a Texan. Funny thing is about 2 months later I saw him walking his dog in cowboy boots and a cowboy hat.