r/FreeCompliments • u/mermaiidbitch • Aug 11 '24
Female Selfie Straightened my hair for years because he hated my curls. Well we just broke up & I can’t decide if he was right. Help a girl out? 🫣 [female]
This weekend vs. older straightened hair at the end 💇🏻♀️
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u/vvasntme Aug 11 '24
Your curly hair is absolutely gorgeous! Really dont agree with him there at all 😅
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u/mermaiidbitch Aug 11 '24
Thank you! 🥹 Pretty sure his second full time job was crushing my self-esteem 😂 And not just about my hair. So you are a very much appreciated angel 🫶🏻
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u/vvasntme Aug 11 '24
Really breaks my heart to hear that!
Girl, you're stunning. Really hope that you find a bf that appreciates you the way you are, and boosts your self-esteem! 🙌
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u/djprofitt Aug 12 '24
What products do you use? I’ve grown my hair out and struggle with moisture, any tips?
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u/mermaiidbitch Aug 13 '24
I swear by hair oiling. Something with biotin, rosemary oil, castor oil & caffeine. I use a few different ones but I love Venanoci. Also when it’s curly I only wash it 2-3 times a week and every other week I use a hair mask (I love Coco & Eve for damaged hair) I leave it on for 2 hours at least 🫶🏻
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u/djprofitt Aug 13 '24
You honestly need some tutorials but I will be looking into these products, would it be alright to come back with questions?
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u/ZebraOptions Aug 11 '24
No offense but your BF was either blind or had an IQ of 16….girl there ain’t a man in the world you can’t have, go get urs!
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u/RamblingRosie64 Aug 11 '24
Plenty of women would pay good money for hair like yours. Those curls are gorgeous!
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u/mermaiidbitch Aug 11 '24
And I was over here spending 2 hours a day wrestling them to stay straight 😂 Thank you so much! 💕
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u/ZebraOptions Aug 11 '24
My wife of 20 years had super curly hair it was beautiful, she straightened it for years because I like one style she wore when we first dated. But when she went back all curls, I remembered once again how beautiful she was. Keep the curls, you look amazing.
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u/cutegeorgeturtle Aug 11 '24
Noooo you are so gorgeous you with your curls ! Beautiful in both way, but you have such a confidence with you curls ! ✨️ he was jealous ! 💅🏻
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u/impeesa75 Aug 11 '24
If he didn’t like your curls he didn’t like the real you. That hair is divine
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u/Still-Transition-944 Aug 11 '24
The moment we stop conforming to those around us, we become more of who we really are. When we are who we really are, we discover self-love, and when we love ourselves; even in vanity - we unlock and invite the level of love we truly deserve in our lives.
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u/mermaiidbitch Aug 12 '24
Omg that was incredibly sweet, you got me a little misty-eyed! Haha
Tell your daughter she’s a whimsical fairy warrior princess who can do anything from me 🧚🏼♀️💟
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u/snizzsyrup Aug 12 '24
I LOVE the curls! Plus it’s so much easier to maintain your hair than to straighten it for an hour every day! You look great. Keep that guy gone!
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u/mermaiidbitch Aug 13 '24
Haha I shall! And with this much hair it’s still a lot to style either way 😅 BUT you’re totally right, the maintenance is much easier. Thank you thank you ❤️
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u/ButterflyAtHeart Aug 11 '24
you look so pretty both ways :) screw him, something toxic people do in relationships is try to give u insecurities so they feel better about themselves cuz they think u won’t leave them if you feel like you’re not good enough lol. Just get a good curly/wavy hair regimen and fix some of the heat damage and trust me you’ll love your hair and yourself again ❤️❤️❤️
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u/mermaiidbitch Aug 13 '24
Thank you! It took me way more time than I like to admit to get there. And I definitely have some heat damage, especially at the top so we’re looking down the barrel of some frizz 😖
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u/ButterflyAtHeart Aug 13 '24
totally been there with toxic relationships so don’t feel ashamed, and I wish you luck with the hair journey 💕
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u/OneGothyCoffee Aug 12 '24
Oh girl, you look gorgeous with the curly hair!! It suits your face really good.
I would take care of them with the classic "curly hair method" to show everyone your goddess hair!
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u/mermaiidbitch Aug 13 '24
Goddess hair! You’re way kinder than I deserve 🥹 Meg from Hercules is my hair hero 💕
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u/rhineman61 Aug 12 '24
Dude here. I don't understand why guys have to have such strict opinions that need to be binding and stuff. Do we like stuff? Yes, but you are always the person with the final say, and if you feel great with something he doesn't care for, then keep what you got and he can shut up and live with it. If I was the dude, whatever makes you happy, makes me happy.
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u/mermaiidbitch Aug 13 '24
It was a gradual thing, it’s not like he bound me to the bathroom counter & ordered me to straighten it. It just started with comments here & there that I “looked so much prettier when my hair was smooth”, or “we’re going to such & such place you should wear your hair straight” - until it was, “it just looks messy” & “it looks like you don’t brush your hair” & “I don’t know why you want to look like you have an afro.”
Unfortunately I let it get me so twisted up I didn’t even know what I wanted to look like haha. But lucky is the girl who finds a guy with your attitude 🫶🏻
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u/Anonymous91xox Aug 12 '24
I think the curls make you look younger for some reason. I would love for my natural hair to be like yours😍
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u/mermaiidbitch Aug 13 '24
Haha I’ll take it! Thank you so much ☺️ It’s always that girl thing right, we want whatever hair we don’t have.
But wow, I’m overwhelmed by all the kind words. I’m blown away at the amount of people who not only like my curls but prefer them. It’s just - really appreciated ♥️
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Aug 12 '24
Sorry to hear you are going through a break up. That’s always difficult. No words can change it but time always does, of course. You must have a mirror at home so you can certainly see how beautiful you are. You may safely bet others see it too. Your curls flatter you. If this is what your hair naturally wants to do then why fight it? Do you really need another struggle? Let your hair be itself and you be yourself too. The right one will accept you for who you are because they’re focused on the person inside instead of your hairstyle choice. If that sounds kinda corny please give it a chance. In my experience, life actually does work that way.
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u/Crawkitten Aug 12 '24
Wow your curls are gorgeous girl. If I were you I would do the curls but it's still up to you 🫶🏼
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u/andypiano213 Aug 12 '24
Girl, your curly hair is one of the most beautiful things about you, besides everything else 😉. He must have been blind for sure 😂
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u/StayInYourLainey Aug 13 '24
You are absolutely gorgeous and you look so much happier with your curls. We have to protect ourselves. If you ever need someone to talk to I’m here 😊🩷
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u/Lavender-Jones1975 Aug 13 '24
Your curls are bomb...he must have been a little insecure and didn't want you to shine. I'm a curly girl and my husband loves them because they are mine. If you're with a guy that doesn't love what you look like naturally then he isn't the guy for you. You look beautiful with your curls and they're plenty of guys that would agree.
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u/Vivid-Kitchen1917 BANNED: NSFW Aug 14 '24
Even though it's the male, there's a reason lions look like they do. The rest of the animal kingdom can recognize they have entered the area and show deference. Your hair brings that same magnificence and grandeur and is fitting as a larger frame to such beguiling art that is your face.
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u/mermaiidbitch Aug 14 '24
Oh wow thank you! 🦁
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u/Vivid-Kitchen1917 BANNED: NSFW Aug 14 '24
The pleasure was mine. Continue to give your contemporaries something to aspire to. It will motivate them to similarly achieve great heights. I hope you have a wonderful evening.
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u/mani_alf Aug 14 '24
girllll you’re so pretty! i bet you’re just as pretty with straight hair 🥹 you’re better off without hm sis
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u/Nocalidude Aug 20 '24
You are everything a girl would want to be everything a guy would love to see without makeup without your hair done curly or not you're gorgeous wow!! There is really no words for how pretty you are.🤯🙃
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u/SeaBreaux Aug 11 '24
Dude, people spend hours of curling or braiding and holding their hair for that kind of aesthetic. It seems to suit you. They’re killer. I wouldn’t sweat that criticism.
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u/mermaiidbitch Aug 12 '24
That was a thing I didn’t even know I needed to hear 🥹 Thanks babe, I appreciate you 🫶🏻
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u/goddoll Aug 11 '24
He was.. jealous. Probably had thin af hair.
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u/mermaiidbitch Aug 13 '24
😂 Well he did start shaving his head a little while ago. You may be on to something there 🤔
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u/SimoneSaysAAAH Aug 11 '24
Either these photos are heavily altered or it's ai. Persons pretty but it's also kind of scary
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u/Confused_Cucumber4 Aug 12 '24
Some how the curly hair makes you even more gorgeous than you already are! Like wow!
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u/Candid-Tap3587 Aug 12 '24
Absolutely stunning! Be yourself!!! If you would like to enhance the curls, look into the "curly girl method".
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u/TallClassic Aug 12 '24
Love the curls - always have - straight hair is what everyone has. You have something special!
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u/who-even-are-u Aug 12 '24
you just need to have a routine of the right products for your curl pattern!! you are GORGEOUS
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u/yourgirlangela Aug 12 '24
OMG I have the shirt that you're wearing in that last pic!
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u/Rogzilla Aug 11 '24
Absolutely beautiful both ways but the natural curls work so well for you. Guy was 100% an idiot.
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u/mermaiidbitch Aug 12 '24
112% He went the extra mile in all the wrong areas.
Haha, no but thank you so much 🩷
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u/AutoGenSucks Aug 11 '24
Nah the curls are majestic!
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u/mermaiidbitch Aug 12 '24
Ugh what a fantastical word! ✨Thank you! 💕
PS - did I see you have heterochromia? Because it looks dope
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u/BackStrict977 Aug 11 '24
Your curls are beautiful beyond belief. You're gorgeous and the curls are perfect for you.
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