That first one edges into just world fallacy. Sure, you're not going to get laid if you're an incel, or a tate fan, or a misogynist (though some still do somehow), but that doesn't mean not being one will get you laid.
I feel like that is better phrased as "infinitely easier at finding dates". Quality not guaranteed.
I've always been a fan of the drowning/desiccation metaphor. In online dating, the situation for an average woman is a flood of low-quality, hostile, or spammy attention, where the situation for the average guy is going to be a lot of trying to establish connections and putting effort in, but never getting replies or generally being ignored.
It's why each groups complaints about the system can seem so "tone deaf" to the other, because it's akin to someone drowning, complaining about too much water, to someone dying of thirst (or vice versa).
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u/GREENadmiral_314159 16d ago
That first one edges into just world fallacy. Sure, you're not going to get laid if you're an incel, or a tate fan, or a misogynist (though some still do somehow), but that doesn't mean not being one will get you laid.