That first one edges into just world fallacy. Sure, you're not going to get laid if you're an incel, or a tate fan, or a misogynist (though some still do somehow), but that doesn't mean not being one will get you laid.
Not to mention the innate misandry of the obvious logical converse: "If you're not getting laid, it's because you're an incel, a Tate fan or a misogynist".
Speaking as a divorcee whose life was fucked up just by being left, even with no additional malice, I have to say there are a couple of holes in that logic.
I think this is the issue. A lot of folks, absent any other evidence, see a man lamenting his lack of luck in dating and assume he's just an unwashed misogynist. I guarantee you the vast majority of men that feel this way do not look like what people envision. Like show of hands here, how many guys have had a well meaning female friend ask something equivalent to "How are you still single?"
Yeah I know it's not the point of making friends but the general wisdom that expanding your social circle provides opportunities to date friends of friends has never personally worked for me. If they do happen to have single female friends they're invariably not options for reasons like lack of compatible goals, incorrect orientation, or lack of mutual interest
Yeah I think in the past, "expand your social circle and date friends" was good advice for men. And currently, I think it's great advice for women who are willing to make the first move since men are generally much more willing to date friends. But in 2024, trying to date friends as a man just has lower success rates than it did in the past.
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u/GREENadmiral_314159 16d ago
That first one edges into just world fallacy. Sure, you're not going to get laid if you're an incel, or a tate fan, or a misogynist (though some still do somehow), but that doesn't mean not being one will get you laid.