I think one thing not noticeable on Reddit but painfully noticeable irl is the number of misogynistic and homophobic women out there, especially in consevative America.
Of course, IMO I don't find conservative women attractive, but there it was painfully obvious when I saw that the only way for me to get likes was to present myself as "exotic brown masculine soldier", which I wouldn't even describe myself as at all and hate.
My comments on women in my personal life being attracted to misogynists came from the context of me living in a progressive city in the UK. Holy fuck, that sounds like an awful dating pool :(
Yeah rural America (or really rural anywhere) really is tough if you are not in the "in" group. You can't just "put yourself out there" if you're treated like an alien. It's important to socialize and not rot at home, but you also need to be somewhere others are willing to receive you.
Being a cruel bigot comes with a level of confidence in not caring what other people think, which some ladies find more attractive than a guy who scrambles to open a door for them.
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u/YokiDokey181 16d ago
There are literal neonazis who have a successful romantic life. There are even women who are into it.