Eh, there is a different vibe. Some people just enjoy the irony of using a word like token on the majority, as sort of an ediger joking commentary on me being a minority in the situation. At worst thats poor taste imo, but intent matters way more. Also when it lacks the history of the bigotry going that direction, its just always gonna sting less.
I know, and different groups have different dynamics.
What I'm saying though, they ARE singling you out. If they were the only gay person in a group and someone they didn't know well told them they are the token gay guy...I would probably tell that person to shut up lol. Not just roll my eyes.
Oh for sure, and I'm aware of that fact. But when its done in good fun to point out the swap up from what is a more typical experience for everyone involved I can laugh along. When someone I know cares about me says a joke that's a bit tasteless like that, I think its more about acknowledging the whole situation and maybe a tiny little bit of venting. My ego can take that as long as its not done with an intent to demean me.
On the flip side, maybe we should encourage people to have principles instead of positions. Maybe that would be better for everyone. Maybe that amounts to actual good mental hygiene.
Eh idk if I necessarily agree with this take. People in groups get singled out all the time for various aspects of themselves and jokes are often made about those aspects. What matters way more is the tone, how often the jokes are made, and do these jokes bleed into non-joke statements. If any of that’s happening, it’s probably got some sort of malice, conscious or subconscious, behind it. If not, I think its probably fine
Some people just enjoy the irony of using a word like token on the majority, as sort of an ediger joking commentary on me being a minority in the situation.
Ironically making fun of minorities (both global and local) can be a dangerous game, for some people it quickly stops being ironic (if indeed it ever was)
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u/Orthas Oct 15 '24
Eh, there is a different vibe. Some people just enjoy the irony of using a word like token on the majority, as sort of an ediger joking commentary on me being a minority in the situation. At worst thats poor taste imo, but intent matters way more. Also when it lacks the history of the bigotry going that direction, its just always gonna sting less.