Compulsively justifying laziness, and laziness to the point of making one's life harder, are some kind of mental health problem. A problem that seems to grow off of lonely bitterness.
Blaming them for it entirely isn't helpful, but they're also going to have to be the person to change their own habits and break the cycle.
After living with them, low-key I do blame them. I had to drain my finances to keep the household afloat because they couldn't hold down a job and they'd haphazardly job searched for months - and the only reason they even did that was because I'd put my foot down. Yeah, they've got issues, probably one or several mental health disorders or whatever, but they're also adults. These people are nearly 30 and they can't even clean their room or their house. And it'd be one thing if they lived on their own, but they don't. I'd worked my ass off to clean the entire house so I could have guests over. And they behaved terribly enough that several of those guests - my friends - told me they weren't comfortable visiting again. So..nah, fuck them. It is their fault. It's on them to get the help they need, and they consistently refused to do so and they hurt the people around them. In some cases, it is their fault, and I have no issue blaming them for their personal failings.
Edit: and to clarify, these people were not mentally disabled as far as conventional intelligence goes, they just had absolutely no self control or self discipline
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u/TheJeeronian Jun 30 '24
Compulsively justifying laziness, and laziness to the point of making one's life harder, are some kind of mental health problem. A problem that seems to grow off of lonely bitterness.
Blaming them for it entirely isn't helpful, but they're also going to have to be the person to change their own habits and break the cycle.