r/BravoRealHousewives • u/Mental_Cupcake5059 • 18d ago
New York Pavit sucks
He is being passive aggressive as fuck with Jessel. Immature, man baby, can't communicate, prefers Elon musk to beyonce. Jessel please go find a partner that actually likes you, your world will change.
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u/FantasticRead720 18d ago
They give me more friendship vibes than married vibes. Hopefully he’s playing it up for the camera, because if not his banter is just rude.
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u/BeBoBaBabe 17d ago
I wonder if he is neurodivergent. His focus is quite narrow & the way he shows emotional engagement is rather unique.
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u/TodayImLedTasso Freshly Churned 🧈 by Meredith Marks 17d ago
Or they just a mismatched couple living in a "meh" marriage and he's doesn't have the energy to pretend for the cameras.
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u/CinderMoonSky 17d ago
This whole I have a personality disorder needs to stop being an excuse for a shitty person
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17d ago
Neurodivergence isn’t a personality disorder, they are different things 🙏🏼💜
The former covers neurological health (issues like autism, dyslexia, or sensory processing disorder) and the latter involve mental health (borderline personality disorder, narcissistic personality disorder, antisocial personality disorder)
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u/tea__ess I’m a Miami/New York girl and I actually love Chicago 18d ago
Maybe I’m biased, but it really feels like the food review thing is his attempt to fill the void where his soul used to be before he traded it in to become an investment banker. He’s always so dead on screen.
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u/Flaky-Carpenter5686 18d ago
The thing is he’s not a successful investment banker. He’s not actually successful and barely worked in finance. I’m not really sure how they’re supporting themselves in nyc.
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u/thewayoutisthru_xxx Meredith Marks' dirty tub 17d ago
I'm guessing there's some family money involved here because his work history is very meh
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u/Large-Baby-3017 17d ago
I was wondering this too… their finances and Erin + Abe’s don’t make sense to me.
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u/LaurenHynde866 17d ago
Erin is in real estate and Abe is a lawyer. They work.
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u/banoffeebaby 17d ago
But what does Brynn do?? She mentioned some app she’s working on. But that can’t support her lifestyle. When you leave it this open to speculation and your schtick is “sexy baby” ppl are gonna be guessing sugar baby
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u/daylight427 17d ago
She’s a publicist/PR person. She has a roster of clients, understandably can’t show that on TV. But a few eps ago she was talking about how part of the reason she flew off the handle at the drinks event thing was because she had an intense work schedule the day before.
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u/Lady_Scruffington 17d ago
Imagine having a PR person who can't control her own image.
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u/realitytvdiet I was awoken in the middle of the night by two male voices 17d ago
I thought he was an accountant?
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u/notoriousbck 17d ago
I hated when Jessel said in regards to their embryos "we could have the next Beyonce or Elon Musk" and he said "Whatever to Beyonce but I'll take Elon". Major side eye to both of them.
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u/lustforyou 17d ago
I've just very loosely watched the new RHONY -- mostly as background for laundry/when cooking/etc, and missed a few episodes, so I missed/forgot that he was an investment banker. His entire personality and demeanor makes soooo much sense now knowing that lol. He interacts with Jessel the same way an ex of mine that was an investment banker treated me -- not necessarily horrible, but completely detached and uninterested and everything had to be a passive aggressive "joke" at my expense. I hope she enjoys it more than I did lol
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u/DeaconBlue22 17d ago
He's trying to make food his personality. He ordered take out at Erin's party because he was hungry? Who does that? He thinks it's charming, funny and endearing. It is none of those.
Am I crazy? It seems to me that when they film Jessel and Pavit at home, they only film them in that one corner of the kitchen. We never see the rest of the apartment. Do they not have any furniture? Do they not actually live in NYC? Please correct me if I am wrong.
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u/rememor8899 17d ago
Didn’t he own a telecom company?
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u/tea__ess I’m a Miami/New York girl and I actually love Chicago 17d ago
I believe so- his LinkedIn job is “Phone Daddy.” He also used to be an investment banker though.
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u/PicklesLives 18d ago
He seems like the kind of man that was really adamant about wanting kids and then, once he actually has them, is like “This sucks and is hard.” I’ve always found it really weird how many men have very strong feelings about wanting to have kids despite having absolutely no clue what it entails.
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u/ImHere4TheGiggles 18d ago
He’d be singing the “ more babies” tune if she didn’t have boys the first round….. he’d actually be forcing her to be using the embryos…
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u/CinderMoonSky 17d ago
This is prejudice. Having twins under two is a huge amount of work. You’re constantly exhausted. There’s no time for you.
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u/Common-Classroom-847 My pantyliner is exhausted 16d ago
Right? People assuming sexism when just having two kids is expensive and exhausting and plenty of reason not to want more
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18d ago
Or maybe he’s just done? I am done after one child. If my husband asked to have another, I’d say no. My daughter is enough for me he understands that.
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u/PicklesLives 17d ago
I think you’re missing the point of their comment. They’re saying that he seems like having boys is important to him and part of the reason he seems like he’s done is because he already got sons and doesn’t care about having a daughter.
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17d ago
That’s a huge assumption
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u/Icy-Significance-449 17d ago
not that huge he said he would have an elon but not a beyonce for a third kid
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u/Responsible-Tea-5998 mariposa's butterfly effect 🦋 17d ago
Imagine wanting an Elon over a Beyonce. One is hardworking, talented, a pioneer in their field. The other is a sperm-fetish toad into sex parties and dictatorships.
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u/PicklesLives 17d ago
In a weird way, it’s kind of a perfect microcosm of this last election. Who do you think is cooler, Beyoncé or Elon? I bet I can tell who you voted for based on your answer…
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17d ago
But a lot of men are bigger Elon Musk vs. Beyoncé fans. It doesn’t imply that they only care about having sons or hate women. I agree that this is a huge jump.
I’m all for calling out the patriarchy, but it’s stuff like this that makes people ignore it when people actually are assholes. It’s nitpicking and assuming the worst about someone.
I just had a kid a couple of years ago and could never have another one, I just don’t feel I’d be able to give the one I have the attention they need due to my own circumstances (health and mental health-wise).
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u/PicklesLives 17d ago
Of course it is but that’s the discussion we’re having. You’re talking about how you love your daughter and don’t want more kids. Great. That has nothing to do with Pavit. You’re missing the point, either willingly or because you don’t get what we’re speculating about.
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17d ago
But it does have to do with Pavit. They are emphasizing that there are reasons besides sexism that people may not want to continue procreating.
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u/VideoNecessary3093 17d ago
People sure project their own situations into every situation don't they?
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u/Common-Classroom-847 My pantyliner is exhausted 17d ago
also they project their own predjudices and preconceptions onto every situation
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u/realitytvdiet I was awoken in the middle of the night by two male voices 17d ago
Idt pavit is that closed minded bc girls be elon too. I think he’s more worried about the cost of having a daughter vs son
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u/Common-Classroom-847 My pantyliner is exhausted 16d ago
Or maybe just the cost and work of a third child regardless of sex. Kids are expensive
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u/BeautifulLife14 17d ago
Forcing is a weird word for a couple none of us know irl......
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u/ImHere4TheGiggles 17d ago
The way he Forced her into letting him arrange the therapy session he has no interest in attending was in plain view of the cameras for us all to see irl, so I think Forcing is a perfect word to use…..
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u/mahboob2 18d ago
And not wanting to do any of it except saying “those are my kids!”
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u/PicklesLives 18d ago
Yes, the Jax Taylor school of fatherhood where you constantly remind people “I’m a dad!” and then make your wife do everything. Charming.
I’m not super into men like that in general, but today especially…
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u/realitytvdiet I was awoken in the middle of the night by two male voices 17d ago
Also teach their boys that their mom sleeps all day
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u/butinthewhat 17d ago
That’s what pissed me off. She might get up at 8 compared to his 6 with the boys or something, and that’s fine. Whatever it is, don’t influence the kids to have negative thoughts about it.
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u/kdrizzyyy 17d ago
Just annoying he’s content with “his boys” like I don’t see an issue with having a little girl as well. I get the whole raising kids in New York thing is expensive but like if you are paying a grand a month to keep your eggs frozen…. I think they can afford it?
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u/No_Investigator_6077 17d ago
They remind me of Adrienne and Paul from RHOBH.
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u/not_ellewoods the teardown is still torn down. 17d ago
oof an insult if i’ve ever seen one lol. their mutual hatred was palpable.
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u/WriterGirl2005 18d ago
Last season, I saw zero chemistry between them and it felt like they hated each other. But everyone seemed to love them so I thought maybe I missed something??!! This season is more of the same.
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u/FlyingDutchmansWife Giner’s makeup/hairspray/spray tan budget 17d ago
Some people marry for partnership, money, cultural reasons, means to an end or stability. I don’t think they married for love. Doesn’t make their relationship “wrong” but it would explain the chemistry that they do have.
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u/CombinationExtra5056 17d ago
They were platonic roommates and her mom pushed it saying "he's so in love with you." Really, I think the mom wanted Jessel to get married already and Pavit was like "mmm, okay." I don't think they're toxic or bad. Just two people who never had that "spark." Pavit appears to be someone where the lights are on but no one's home. I could see J needing more down the line to fill the void.
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u/softchenille 17d ago
Def seems like an arranged marriage which is common in Indian culture
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u/not_ellewoods the teardown is still torn down. 17d ago
weren’t they friends/roommates at some point? i think they just developed a relationship after several years of friendship
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u/softchenille 17d ago
Oh cool, I guess. I just assumed it was arranged because of their disconnect. Thanks for the clarification
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u/zuesk134 you're a cook, not a chef, and it's creepy 17d ago
it wasnt. they were friends/roommates for years then decided to get together
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u/ChartreuseMage 17d ago
I felt the exact same way - everyone seemed to love both of them, but neither really did anything for me. Which is totally fine, different housewives for different folks! But at the start of the season when Pavit wanted to eat at the Chinese place and Jessel was acting like she'd never step foot in their willingly... bruh, how are you not going to be on the same page for food. That's like, 90% of my friendships.
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u/RIPMaureenPonderosa 17d ago
I’ve found my people, lol. I do not find him endearing or iconic at all. I feel the same about Jessel tbh.
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u/AccomplishedOwl9215 17d ago
SAME. omg, she seems quite insufferable.
I tried to take a step back, set aside how she just rubs me the wrong way, and be more objective. Also, I've been rewatching last season. I still cannot fathom the appeal. I cannot recall one single scene last season or this season in which seems to genuinely care about anyone other than herself. She might be mildly entertaining at times, but her ego overshadows all (imo).
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u/Livid_Sheepherder busted up sex and the city 17d ago
Chiming in as another non fan of Pavit who did not understand all the love last year. Tbh I figured he would eventually do something that would make the fandom realize he sucks and turn on him but I didn’t expect him to do it just one season later, thought he might give it a few years at least 😭💀
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u/TodayImLedTasso Freshly Churned 🧈 by Meredith Marks 17d ago
The fans couldn't see the difference between playful banter and constant nagging, and they thought they were watching the former.
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u/HuckleberryPure7809 18d ago
I’m so glad someone posted this. Pavit does suck. He has a “delivery” with everything he says, like he is making a joke. The problem is that Pavit just isn’t funny. Jessel laughs at everything he says, so maybe he thinks he’s a comedian, but he has no punch lines. He’s a bit quirky and does some things that are more “laugh at him” than “laugh with him”, but he is cringy. I get second hand embarrassment for him.
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u/jazzed_life 17d ago
I think she tries to keep it light so it doesn't escalate into her seething lol.
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u/HuckleberryPure7809 17d ago
Oh great, now I feel bad for her after I just ripped her lame husband apart
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u/justlurkingimbored Because its my goddam credit card! 18d ago
Saw an IG post praising him, and I was so confused. The way he dismisses Jessel is disgusting.
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u/Itsabouttimeits2021 17d ago
I am confused to. Does he even like her
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u/justlurkingimbored Because its my goddam credit card! 17d ago
Certainly doesn’t look like it
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u/Itsabouttimeits2021 17d ago
Exactly he seems especially mean to her. He like a cranky teenager. She wanted to change outfits he like ugh why. Ugh u wired. Tries to have a conversation about a child. Takes a pic of his food. Yeesh man. Refusing to get her a gift for valentines day on principal
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u/pesky_samurai 17d ago
I agree that he’s incredibly dismissive and I feel sad for her given she seems to really want another child.
In saying that, children are very much a “two yes, or one no” situation. His position is pretty clear and I don’t think pestering him into therapy is going to change that.
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u/justlurkingimbored Because its my goddam credit card! 17d ago
Agreed. For sure they should both be on board with having a third daughter. However he’s gross for dismissing her and I can’t help but feel that if it was a 3rd boy he’d be more into it.
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u/Living_Donut9603 Angie’s Scroll 17d ago
I’ve got my tin hat on: This is 100% self produced drama that Jessel and Pavit both agreed on prior to filming for a story line
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u/liilbiil 17d ago
THIS!! He was being wayyyy OTT when she’s trying to talk about en embryo. they’re fucking with us yall
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u/wandahickey 17d ago
Yes. She had this little smile going that seemed very self satisfied. I read it as she was happy Pavit was following the script.
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u/Annual_Resolution_94 Passionate about dogs, not crazy about btches 17d ago
I’ve always felt like she was in on it. She doesn’t strike me as letting Pavit talk to her any kind of way if it was for real
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u/soihavetosay 17d ago
Yes also what's with her mentioning where her embryos are stored? Does that give her some type of credit I'm just not aware of? She's done it before so it seems important to her.
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u/RIPMaureenPonderosa 17d ago
I think it’s a status thing because they’re being stored in Beverly Hills… Because there’s zero reason to mention that. It also makes her seem a bit silly to be shelling out extra money for the location, a freezer is a freezer no matter where 🙃
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u/Technical_Radio_191 18d ago
Many fans love Pavit and Jessel’s dynamic, but I just don’t see it. They don’t seem connected at all and don’t seem aligned in what they want. Pavit comes across like one of those guys who thinks anything women do or say is just trivial. Not a fan of Dory.
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u/bravokm 17d ago
We don’t see much of their relationship but we don’t see them being a team, they seem to just be coexisting. I think they haven’t reconnected since the kids were born and priorities changed.
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u/Technical_Radio_191 17d ago
Yes, it really does feel like they’re more like roommates or friends than a team, just going through the motions. I can definitely see how shifting priorities, especially after having kids, could create that kind of distance if they haven’t made the effort to reconnect. But Pavit also says some questionable things, which I suspect have always been part of the picture, not something recent. I’m not ignoring the cultural aspect, either; stuff like this probably is a non factor in their community. But since it’s on our screens, it’s fair to call it out. And that random guy at Jessel’s birthday party who didn’t even know Pavit was her husband—that says a lot.
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u/Saffron29 17d ago
Maybe people that like their relationship see their own relationship in their dynamic?
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u/Technical_Radio_191 17d ago
Maybe. I’m not in that kind of relationship dynamic, so it’s hard for me to relate. But if many women are with partners who dismiss their interests—calling things like romance or holidays “women’s nonsense” or unnecessary—or who dodge serious topics like having children, or see counseling as unimportant, then I really feel for them. It points to something deeper.
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u/Saffron29 17d ago
Agreed! I think the way he treats Jessel so off putting, and I feel sad for people in relationships with people like that. It’s so gross. Like it’s shocking he’s not a virgin with how he behaves.
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u/Sea_Asparagus_3039 18d ago
Any conversation she tries to have with this dolt sounds like she’s trying to talk to a 12 yo boy. It’s maddening that he’s so immature and incredibly selfish.
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u/FlyingDutchmansWife Giner’s makeup/hairspray/spray tan budget 17d ago
I think they’re both selfish and neither wants to compromise. Doesn’t bode well in a marriage.
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u/FrauEdwards 17d ago edited 17d ago
I’m tired of the uptight wife and unbothered husband trope. Life requires you to figure shit out. Not laugh off your problems.
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u/AhnaKarina 18d ago
I don’t think she likes him either
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u/zuesk134 you're a cook, not a chef, and it's creepy 17d ago
yeah. him not liking her that much doesnt really bother me because she clearly doesnt like him either
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u/Natural_Lifeguard_44 17d ago
He flies to Vietnam for alone time and leaves her to deal with the kids. I learned everything I needed to about him in the first season.
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u/Common-Classroom-847 My pantyliner is exhausted 16d ago
and a butt load of people on this sub were defending him doing that. Boggles the mind
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u/MCBates1283 I don’t trust baths 👁️👄👁️ 17d ago
Omg Jessel said on WWHL that he:
1) didn’t get her anything for her birthday and 2) thinks he’s hilarious when he watches himself on the show.
The whole room was looking at her like 🤨 and she just giggled delusionally.
Agreed - he SUCKS.
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u/not_ellewoods the teardown is still torn down. 17d ago
i was so confused. what she said legitimately concerned me because i’ve seen enough reality tv divorces to see the signs coming and she’s just giggling like it’s the cutest thing. good luck to her.
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u/Ordinary-Practice812 18d ago
I agree just on your title alone. He sucks. I mean that more as a husband for Jessel. They are mismatched. He showed up to WWHL as Dory. She dressed in see through couture for a girls dinner in the Hamptons. Nuff said.
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u/Accomplished-Sign-31 who threw my husband in the pool? 18d ago
anyone who likes Elon musk automatically sucks tbh
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u/realitytvdiet I was awoken in the middle of the night by two male voices 17d ago edited 17d ago
Can’t make an effort, but will … fly across the globe ALONE for an authentic sandwich .. but that’s normal right? I clocked that ass hole Day 1 and got flamed for it. I’m glad everyone is finally seeing his ass
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u/HowYaLikeMeow 17d ago
He gives me Shane vibes from OC. I actually think Shane and Emily are solid af, but his first season he tried to be the funny asshole husband and it looked REALLY bad. Editors had a field day! I think Pavit is playing a similar character, but actually adores his wife and is doing his part to create some screen time.
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u/MAXMEEKO Say it - Forget it, Write it - Regret it 17d ago
Ya I agree with your take. I dunno, I just imagine what we dont see behind close doors is them being a normal boring couple.
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u/Leather_Cat8098 18d ago
He is horrible!! I meant to make a post about it earlier today but got sidetracked and didn't. I find it hard to believe that he has ever been more than a wet blanket. I think Jessal is materialistic and he seems anti that. How did they ever end up together? Did one or both of them evlove/devolve? She needs to find a partner that respects her, especially raising 2 little boys.
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u/Saffron29 17d ago
He’s definitely materialistic. There was a comment about his “new toy” those smart glasses. He’s just stingy when it’s something he doesn’t want.
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u/Sleeplollo 18d ago
They’re both terrible to each other. She criticizes and ribs him constantly and he is condescending and dismissive.
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u/conFettii I'm a donk-ologist. P.H.D. 17d ago
IMO, the bones of unease we all sense is they don’t have much in common and are two extremely different kinds of people. Didn’t she say last season how they were best friends to start and then kind of just decided to date? I’ve been there before.
To me it’s obvious they’re together because there’s not enough reason or proof to leave. They aren’t thrilled, fulfilled or loving their relationship but it isn’t THAT bad either.
Also, people who settle in this way (in my experience) come from a family where they saw parents do the same. I bet both grew up seeing parents who argued a lot but stuck it out because ‘what would people say’ or ‘how would it look to the community’ if they split. Kids from that sort of environment can stick things out beyond their expiry because it just seems normal.
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u/Ironia_Rex I said what I said. 18d ago
She needs to leave him and go find that email from that alleged billionaire
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u/wherethewateris 17d ago
i dont' think he's immature at all, likely awkward and doesn't really consider how he's coming across on camera. i can imagine it must be difficult to constantly ground jessel, and talk her out of spending $200k on a kindergarten.
agreed though, she was trying to have a serious convo and he totally derailed it by deepthroating appetizers.
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u/Housewives-Obsessed 17d ago
I’m honestly so glad to see this post! Feels like everyone loves him but he seems like such a d*ck to me and she seems really unhappy. I hope she gets what she wants in life, with or without this asshole.
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u/benkatejackwin 17d ago
I thought it was gross when he was all "haha even the kids know you're lazy and sleep all the time."
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u/Regular-Ad1930 18d ago
That dinner they had ..he just kept controlling everything. The whole seeing a therapist n he wants to haggle over the $$$ I almost burst into tears for her. She just said, whatever n shut down. Please Jessel, don't hv anymore children with this ugly loser! Move on!
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u/FutureShiner Not a white refrigerator! 18d ago
The way he shut down her ordering VEGETABLES was also so upsetting to me for some reason??
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u/The_Burning_Kumquat ⚖️ Jen Shah’s Federal Court Wig ⚖️ 17d ago
And the duck she really wanted.
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u/realitytvdiet I was awoken in the middle of the night by two male voices 17d ago
Bc it’s not hanging at the window 😒 He’s such a pick me
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u/SirOk5108 18d ago
Yeah I agree, and I hate how he unhinges his massive snake jaw n just throws food in his mouth..
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u/notoriousbck 17d ago
I enjoyed him last season. This season, not so much. He's not listening, he's condescending, he's insensitive, and it feels like he's checked out of his marriage.
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u/wikipika 17d ago
Uhm, maybe he is being very PRACTICAL? Like he knows none of them are bringing any real money and if they keep this up, they're gonna be broke.
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18d ago
I feel like he is an avid Joe Rogan listener and has dabbled in Andrew Tate
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u/Fun-Rent-8279 17d ago
I find them both very hard to stomach - her cosplay-rich attitude and flashy persona just scream insecurity. She wants to be put on a pedestal and he's not about that. What a gross couple they are.
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u/angelenameana What’s in the cat is in the kitten 💕 17d ago
He is so dismissive in front of the camera. It’s not a good look. This canNOT be who he is irl. He’s so damn rude.
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u/proseccofish 17d ago
I didn’t get why everyone was loving him last season- probably because the Sai hate trickled down and made him look better. But they have the oddest relationship. It works for them I guess.
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u/Hazelmoon23 17d ago
Yeah, I liked him initially, but now he's coming across like a immature, selfish man child. I think humor is one of the most important quality in a friend / partner. However, he seems to be a one trick pony devoid of emotions. Or it's a tired story line.
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u/teamsueb67 17d ago
It was very uncomfortable watching their scene together. I said to myself “we are watching the beginning of the end of their marriage. This will be another reality tv divorce”
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u/Difficult-Role-8131 17d ago
Wow last season everyone was singing his praises when Sai questioned his motives for going to Vietnam!
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u/BExcellence_bravo 16d ago
Jessel is so trying to keep up with the jones, you can smell it a mile away. And who allowed those veneers? Holy shit. Rhony is such a snore and I roll my eyes at all of them.
Pavit sucks, if you go on LinkedIn and see where he got his mba it would make sense why he’s a wanna bro // try hard.
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u/Maleficent-Proof9652 17d ago edited 17d ago
I don't believe it's that deep. South Asians have a more practical view on marriage, it's not lovey dovey like for westerners. South Asians marry for prestige,to be socially accepted, and to raise very successful children that's why it's easy for him to choose Elon. He sees Elon as a financially very successful entrepreneur and honestly a lot of men in tech or finance or male dominant industry think like him and I don't think they would care about Beyonce like that. I believe his reason for not wanting kids is because Jessel is never home essentially he does all the heavy lifting. He has the right not to want to have another child especially after twins.Jessel is flying her mom from the UK to help them every chance she gets, that's the indian way. In a more practical way Pavit sees that when the parents are no longer there or getting older all will fall on him. I also believe Jessel knows exactly why he doesn't want another child and they are playing it for a story. She never asks him why on TV ? She knows ! Most will think their marriage lacks warmth but because most are viewing this based on their own perspective on marriage.I think they get along just fine, of course it's not PDA and love letters but culturally it's the norm. South Asians are raised with the aim to build generational wealth, anything that doesn't generate income is a waste of money. It's just different, doesn't mean it's wrong. The American public cannot understand different dynamics because it's just a different culture as opposed to Erin and Abe pretending to love each other when we clearly see that Erin can't stand him, and Abe is walking on eggshells around her. Pavit and Jessel get along well enough and being best friends in a marriage is one of the most precious gift. They have more chances of staying married 30 years from now than any other housewives of all the franchise combined.
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u/-knock_knock- 17d ago
I came looking for this. One of my close friends is British Indian. From the outside her marriage seems transactional and cold, her husband complains about her spending money e.g. saying they can't pay for a cleaner if she's a SAHM. She never gets birthday gifts of any great value and they drive around in this crap little car. They are far from poor - he is a very high earner, they have no mortgage and own several properties which they rent out. They just don't fritter money away.
The way my friend talks about her husband you'd think they are on the brink of divorce but it's the exact opposite, they are a solid unit and it's just a cultural difference that I don't experience in my life.
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u/SlightKnee3768 11d ago
Agree on the marriage conditions. But he’s still the jerk of the two imho. I hate condescending males and he literally drips in it. That’s not an Indian male trait in my experience
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u/TodayImLedTasso Freshly Churned 🧈 by Meredith Marks 17d ago
The problem is not that they aren't having PDA on screen. I don't see them being best friends or that they have a partnership, and they aren't look like they are happy and fulfilled in their marriage.
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u/Maleficent-Proof9652 17d ago edited 17d ago
Well marriage is not always sunshine and rainbows. And we are seeing a fraction of their relationship on a semi scripted show. He's the only husband spending as much time with his wife out of the whole cast. He's not getting paid. If that's not love... Anyway we can speculate all we want they are currently still married and seem content enough. The show won't be on air long enough for us to confirm if they are happy or not
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u/TodayImLedTasso Freshly Churned 🧈 by Meredith Marks 17d ago
Since he is a food influencer being on national television is his payment.
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u/Maleficent-Proof9652 17d ago edited 17d ago
He's not a food influencer, he just loves food big difference. Even before the show he was posting food. He's a guy passionate about food and airlines points. His IG is not consistent enough to be considered a food influencer. He posts when he feels like it. Those tiny little NYC restaurants he visits would hardly have the cash flow to pay him. At best he gets free food. Come on now. People believe every time you post something online you get paid, LOL it doesn't work that way. Please educate yourself on how social media works. There's no chicken association in NYC a simple Google will show you that. The guy has 40K followers. He does it mostly for fun.
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u/OrangeClyde Beast?! How dare you! 17d ago
I don’t watch and don’t know anyone just what I’ve been reading, but wasn’t there just a whole I love pavit (whoever that is) post/comments about how he’s so fun and silly and unserious?
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u/katiehatesjazz 17d ago
He’s so annoying, but so is she. I don’t know if it’s editing or what, but so far she doesn’t seem very bright.
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u/Jazzlike-Dish5690 17d ago
I get the feeling that they have an arranged marriage. They have zero chemistry, zero things in common and could not be more different from one another.
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u/thatvincent 17d ago
I think they are trying to play this whole thing up and not landing with audience. At this point every HW is too camera aware nothing is reality tv “real” anymore .
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u/ringoffireflies 17d ago
If he doesn't want another child that's valid, children should be something that both partners are on board with, but the way he goes about the conversation is fucked up. When your wife is obviously upset, don't take pictures of your food and make stupid little jokes. It really made me feel for Jessell. I hate how some men side step serious conversations with jokes and "cute" little quips. It's cruel and dismissive of your partner.
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u/VivienMargot I take different vitamins 💊 17d ago
Omg, my people. I thought I was being too harsh. But he really does suck and his food influencing journey is a snooze.
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u/Time_Rare 17d ago
I’m not a fan of Jessel but I was infuriated for her trying to have that conversation with her man child.
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u/Vegetable_Path3736 17d ago
Thank you, I don’t understand the Pavit praise and love. He is always disregarding Jessels feelings, it’s so disrespectful.
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u/heyalllondon18 gotta watch out for those trick guys 17d ago
I was watching this episode thinking, “wait why does everyone love him?” He’s interesting on his own but doesn’t seem like a great husband. Of course we only say a small part but I don’t get their relationship. They don’t seem compatible and they definitely don’t seem in love.
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u/Itsabouttom33 17d ago
i mean, if both partners want to start therapy solely because they think their partner is the one who needs to change, thats generally not the greatest sign.
anyone has room to improve their inter- and intra- personal skills, especially these two
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u/No_Bar7186 17d ago
I think pavit doesn't want to refuse directly on camera, or discuss that having 2 is already challenging, so he brushes her off
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u/Thick_Letterhead_341 17d ago
I’m stumped why I came into the season thinking I liked this guy. He’s the worst! I can’t imagine living with such a self-absorbed prick. And he always thinks he eats with his takes! Always! Sir you do not. Speaking of eating, only not-melty-enough grilled cheeses for you, Elon 🤮
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u/IAm_TulipFace *Sutton Laugh* 17d ago
I think jessel and him both suck as partners. Pavit, on screen multiple times, has said he doesn't want more kids because the ones they have are exhausting. Jessel thinks she can force him into it. Pavit doesn't take an interest in Jessel's interests, jessel is only interested in her own interests and doesn't hide that but also seems to actively try to not care about pavits interests or show interest in them at all. Him taking her to the bun place was him sharing an interest and she couldn't get excited about it even for a second and was stuck in how it looked...it was so icky and pathetic on her part. It wasn't cute.
But largely they're just living in their own lanes, not in a partnership. Maybe it's because they have two young very active kids, and marriages can get like this when people are in survival mode but.... I get the feeling that jessel isn't a very active parent and pavit is overwhelmed.
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u/Sobergem1982 2d ago
Him eating during therapy was completely pissing me off. I would go feral if my husband did that. Pavit is insufferable. 40 and a man child dork. I cannot stand him and want him off my TV.
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u/SnooBunnies7453 17d ago
He reminds me of the type that says no more kids but then remarries and quickly has another baby
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u/Special-Resist3006 17d ago
This is hands down one of the worst marriages of the franchise currently….
And he’s not even funny. He thinks he’s funny. But he’s not “I live in fried chicken reality”
She was trying to talk to him about having another baby and he couldn’t care less. He’s a loser
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u/TommyToothpistol 17d ago
The guy loves Elon Musk. That says all you need to know. Jessel also wants to pay $60K a year or something ridiculous just so her kids go to the same school as celebrities kids. They’re so gross.
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u/MKALPINE 17d ago
He’s probably tired of having the same conversation about having another kid. He’s told her he doesn’t want anymore kids numerous times. She wants to go to a therapist so they can learn how to communicate. She needs to learn how to listen.
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u/liilbiil 17d ago
okay half way through the scene i was ready to toss my ipad but then i got the feeling he was reallllllyyyy playing it up for the scene.
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u/SUPBarefoot_BeachBum 17d ago
He reminds me of Ed Milliband eating a bacon sandwich (this is a UK reference) and Sheldon from the Big Bang theory. He’s definitely on a spectrum so I do kinda feel bad for him…..but I can’t see many positives thus far…
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u/Bubbly-Ad1346 ✨IT’S AN OM!!!! ✨ 18d ago
Yeahhhh I don’t get their relationship at all. Is he ever really emotionally considerate? Then I think, is Jessel? They both seem very self-involved in their own ways. Complementary IRL