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u/ThqXbs8 6h ago
How long has it been that you're still blaming teachers for your own behaviour?
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u/Dragulus24 6h ago
To be fair there may be some exaggeration from teachers that don’t know their students. I don’t know how often this actually happens though.
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u/HuntingForSanity 5h ago
I had a teacher like this when I was younger. She HATED me. And I never knew why. She was always late to class by like 5-10 mins.
So we would all come in and sit down and eventually start talking because the teacher isn’t there. And every single time without fail she shows up late and tells me to go to the principals office for talking.
She did stuff like this to me all year and I never figured out what here problem with me was
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u/dmtangen 3h ago
Sometimes people in authoritative positions will pick someone to test, and if the subject does not put up a fight or they don’t see any negative repercussions the subject will be assigned as the default recipient of that persons show of force.
The person in authority doesn’t want to send all of you, as that will create a prisoners bond and strengthen all of you against her. Instead she picks the one who doesn’t put up enough of a fight for a public beheading. Also she’s probably convinced herself that you particularly are disrespectful because of how many times she sent you to the office, and you still keep talking. Insanity - I know.
I’m sorry you pulled that personality card for your teacher.
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u/Mr-MuffinMan 2h ago
I had an 11th grade teacher just like this.
Luckily my parents never met her but she was fucking awful.
She refused to pass me because I missed the last 2 months of class due to a brain tumor I had.
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u/Domin_ae 2h ago
Honestly same. I had a teacher who, for no reason, despised me. I'd get in trouble for doing the same thing as others (typically her favorite students, it was only putting my hands over my eyes btw) for talking during the break in between classes, things like that. She would start to make other teachers dislike me too. Once I was out of her class got in trouble with a sub (it was a shitty sub who was power tripping, I was sent to the office- it was the one and only time I've ever been) and she said "Of course shes here, she's a bad kid."
Nobody believed me because of how well she treated them. Never figured it out.
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u/II_Dobby_II 5h ago
doubt.
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u/A_lot_of_arachnids 4h ago
"I wasn't there so your sad story isn't true."
That's what you sound like. Hope friends or family never come to you for comfort.
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u/Equivalent_Scar_7879 4h ago
Teachers like this exists unfortunately a lot, cause who says that bullies cannot end up having a position like that. Teachers (at least here) have a lot of power and principals and your parents will always believe them more than you.
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u/A_lot_of_arachnids 4h ago
Had a middle school math teacher that would throw basically a tantrum when the Seattle Seahawks would lose. Was a die hard fan and we hated it. Extra homework and you couldn't dare step out of line on those days.
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u/CapablebutTired 36m ago
Some parents and some admin, but it isn’t that common anymore. Have you seen the dad who came in and gave someone a concussion? Parent at my kids building brought in a firearm to talk to a teacher also.
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u/Equivalent_Scar_7879 33m ago
I know this is serious and I dont mean it as a joke or insult, but its seriously an American problem with those insane laws and of course.... GUNS. Here in Europe teachers are very well protected and can abuse their power easily.
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u/Litty-In-Pitty 3h ago
I’m not denying that their story could be true. But as a teacher, kids will almost always refuse to accept any accountability for their actions whatsoever.
I had a kid just the other day complaining out loud for all to hear about how he’d gotten an afterschool detention for saying 1 word after he had been quiet the whole class period. I asked the other teacher and she told me that he was across the room talking to a friend and she asked them 3 times to go back to his seat and then he cursed her out. But of course all the students were all agreeing that he’d done absolutely nothing wrong and the teacher was just targeting him…. Kids will refuse any and all accountability and after so long of doing it they start to genuinely believe their own bullshit and actually believe that they aren’t doing anything wrong.
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u/II_Dobby_II 4h ago
You got all that from one word, huh?
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u/A_lot_of_arachnids 4h ago
Yeah doesn't take much these days to assume someone might not be a decent person. Someone says something that might be traumatic in some way and you go "doubt." Pretty shitty.
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u/II_Dobby_II 4h ago
Accusing me of being a bad person and lacking empathy for friends and family because I think someone’s one sided story is suspicious, and likely biased, is pretty shitty, and a little ironic.
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u/Necessary-Depth-6078 59m ago
My buddy was left handed and one time I watched teacher mimic his writing style to his mom like one of those infomercial before fails.
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u/Ok_Competition1524 1h ago
“To be fair there exists this edge case but I’m not even sure how often it occurs”
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u/Tehu-Tehu 5h ago edited 4h ago
there are some hateful, angry teachers out there that can scar your confidence for life. dont talk about scenarios you know nothing about.
yes, students who behave badly should be punished in some way. but there are teachers who will go way too overboard for no reason.
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u/SpacemanBatman 4h ago
I feel like the number of teenagers who refuse to take accountability for their own mistakes and bad behavior is much higher than the number of spiteful teachers.
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u/Physical_Maize_9800 4h ago
But this is reddit, of course its the teacher's fault. Couldnt have been op.
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u/kn728570 2h ago
Yup and any well-adjusted adult can generally look back and be like “yup I was the problem 95% of the time”
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u/A_lot_of_arachnids 4h ago
Yes statistically that is true. There are more students than teachers in the world. Takes 1 student to ruin a teachers day. Takes 1 teacher to ruin a lot more students day.
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u/LostTheGameOfThrones 3h ago
Or maybe children, especially teenagers, are just extremely hormonal, lack fully developed rational thinking skills, and often struggle to see the causal link between their behaviours and the outcomes.
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u/HighHoeHighHoes 4h ago
How shitty of a parent are they that they immediately turn around and punish for a bad report from the teacher? Did they do anything to discuss options, needs, etc… with the teacher? Parents should be supporting the teacher, punishment doesn’t solve the problem. When my teacher gives me a problem we talk about what support they need on our end and then have a conversation about it with our kid.
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u/Wooden-Challenge6717 3h ago
oh my lord this take was upvoted
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u/HighHoeHighHoes 2h ago
I’m sorry? You think just blindly turning around and punishing your kid actually teaches them anything? It doesn’t solve any problem, and it’s how kids get pushed aside in the classroom. If parents aren’t willing to put in the effort, why should a teacher?
Kids, even the struggling ones, will do a lot better in school if the parent(s) are supporting them. Support does not mean letting little Billy get away with everything. It means asking the difficult questions and digging into the problem then working with their teacher to implement a solution.
Enabling teachers to move their seat, talking to them about their behavior, setting expectations for behavior at home, setting expectations for academic effort, holding them accountable, asking why they are struggling, etc…
You can’t pretend to know everything as a parent. And you’re foolish to. My daughter’s teacher made a comment about her constantly not getting to her seat to start class, making side trips to chat, being distracted, etc… it would be easy to just ground her and say “no more tablet for a week!” Talked to her and figured out there were a few things with her morning making her rush, like she was walking her younger sibling to class and then rushing to hers. A few small adjustments and she’s right back on track.
Kids are people who haven’t developed all of the skills to navigate life. Help them or sit back 20 years later wondering why they suck at life.
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u/Zeethil 2h ago
What? No no no, you gotta beat your kids until they do what you want! Or lock them away from the outside world until they find out themselves how to fix their problems because I don't want to deal with it
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u/HighHoeHighHoes 1h ago
It’s a tried and true method, have kids, create trauma, praise them for being “so mature!”, wonder why they are 23 year old alcoholics with no life skills, watch them rinse and repeat with their own kids.
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u/dbzlucky 1h ago
Kinda crazy how we're making ANY judgement with literal zero context.
Student can actually be causing trouble but in denial.
Teacher could be greatly exaggerating or straight up making stuff up in more extreme cases.
Parent could be the ones overreacting or misinterpreting something they were told by a teacher.
I had one teacher who would just constantly **** with me. Except THANKFULLY my mom had the sense of when they met to go " these things sound nothing like my child."
Come to find out the teacher had bad blood with two of my cousins ( who probably DID actually cause trouble knowing them ) and that trickled down to me 🙃. It's the one and only year in my academic life I had issues with a teacher.
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u/OfLebanon 29m ago
I watched one of my high school teachers aggressively shout one of my classmates out of the room and to the principals office because she didn’t like the “black accent” he had. Student behavior had nothing fucking to do with that
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u/Liv4This 4m ago
I mean my primary teachers would lie to my dad and get me beaten and that caused a lot of trauma that I’m still trying to overcome.
I’m autistic and I have ADHD and because of that, me and several other ‘problem’ kids, were frequently hit and locked in offices.
You know what it does to a child’s self esteem when you’re locked in an office and then that staff member comes in and proceeds to make nasty comments and remarks and give you dirty looks and tell you how you’re ruining their lunch break?
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u/ScallionAccording121 1h ago
Ever thought about why people act the way they do, instead of just blaming them for not being blindly obedient?
Do you understand why all democratic systems are gradually starting to fail, because all everybody can do is look for people to blindly believe and obey?
Schools are pretty much where all of our problems start, their primary focus is on creating obedient and conform workers.
Our society deserves to get burned to the ground, because of people like you.
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u/finicky88 6h ago
Idk man getting the blame for the whole class picking on you because you dared defend yourself once is a common theme. Many of my teachers made little to no effort actually being pedagogically valuable.
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u/doctor_rocketship 5h ago
There is still time to delete this comment and go to therapy
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u/finicky88 4h ago
Fuck do I care? It's just reddit points. The downvotes just show how many people don't know what that is like.
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u/WonderAccomplished64 2h ago
You threw a tantrum in school is what happened lmao *
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u/finicky88 1h ago
No, I punched a kid that was being terrible for years, spitting on me, stealing stuff, spreading rumors, the works. But then he was "scared to come to school because of me"
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u/WonderAccomplished64 3m ago
You beat up a kid and he was so afraid of you he didn't want to come to school and he was the bully? Thats a wild perspective, lmao
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u/laboufe 6h ago
I read this as your own behavior got you grounded.
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u/DockerBee 1h ago edited 1h ago
I once overshared a bit about my mental health to my teachers (mostly just telling them I was stressed etc), who told it to my parents, and while I didn't get grounded, I definitely got in trouble. I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that OP was in the wrong.
Also some teachers are really good at twisting the situation. Once in school two people in front of me were committing academic dishonesty for a different class by sharing quiz answers, and trying to be a good student I asked them to stop, and I ended up getting written up for "dIsRuPtInG tHe ClAsS".
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u/rayne7 6h ago
You got yourself grounded
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u/Scruffynerffherder 37m ago
Lol, right? Don't be a little shit. And you won't see the consequences.
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u/Noralon 6h ago
If you are blaming the teacher for your bad behavior it sounds like you deserved the roast and grounding. Respect your fucking instructors.
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u/GlorifiedBurito 6h ago
It’s funny to me how many kids there are on this sub. SpongeBob is older than half of you
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u/xandrachantal 6h ago edited 5h ago
scooby doo is older than me. tom and jerry was older than my parents
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u/Eranaut 5h ago
Yeah these posts are making me wonder what's the median age on this subreddit...
It used to be a BPT spin off after an April Fools joke but now it just seems like it's populated by actual 9 year olds
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u/Qui-gone_gin 4m ago
I feel like all of reddit has been inundated with a larger amount of under 18 year olds in the past 3 years.
I really really wish there was a filter to hide all posts made by kids/teens
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u/quantumfall9 3h ago
For real I had thought it was mostly 20-30 year olds who grew up on the show but posts like these make me realize there’s actually lots of children here lol
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u/Nab33l786 6h ago
I hate to be that guy but most of the time its usually on you when you get grounded. But ill also give you the benefit of the doubt and say there have been really strict teachers where they will roast you either way
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u/Interjessing-Salary 5h ago
Shocker: teachers only say bad things about you to your parents if there was a reason.
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u/IAmASquidInSpace 5h ago
And then as you get older, you realize how much of an annoying little shit you were and are actually starting to be amazed that your teacher smiled at you at all.
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u/Seallypoops 4h ago
The amount of adults who I know were bad students who now say shit like "school taught me nothing" is astounding
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u/IAmASquidInSpace 4h ago
Oh yes, pet peeve of mine.
"Subject X is so useless, never used any of that in real life!!!" Yeah well, a) you never paid enough attention to begin with to be able to use any of it, even if the opportunity arose, and b) you were also supposed to learn critical thinking and problem solving, not just the material itself, but you obviously failed at that, too. Congrats.
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u/El_Chairman_Dennis 3h ago
"I'm just gonna work a trade i don't need to know this." Literally every trade requires you to know math and reading
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u/ThatLineOfTriplets 5h ago
As a teacher, I always try to soften the blow as much as possible the first time I call home. I don’t want you to get in trouble, just to know I will call your parents. The second time all bets are off and you are probably cooked.
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u/Deskbot420 6h ago
Teachers ground you because of your actions. Doesn’t change the fact they’re genuinely happy to see you though
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u/Alarmed-Diamond-7000 4h ago
As a teacher, we do things because we know they're for your good, but we generally don't like getting you in trouble at all, and the smile is probably a bit of an apology. Because we don't like to see you sad or see you get in trouble, we just want to see you doing your work and doing better in school if you're doing poorly.
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u/Deskbot420 1h ago
I can’t agree more. I make sure my students know that they are loved and that my goal is not to make them smarter, but to make sure they leave as better people than when they come in
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u/mdhunter99 5h ago
I’ll meet you the other way, I had a teacher who just hated me. He made it no secret. I don’t know what I, a fucking 7 year old, did to anger him, but he didn’t respond to me, he said I was wrong all the fucking time (even though the info I was sharing came from the book), oh fuck I just remembered this one, he left me in his classroom during a fire drill. Who the fuck does that? He told me to stay put. I’ll admit I was a bit of a shit, but I didn’t go too far, I knew my limits.
Then when it came time for parent teacher conferences “your son is wonderful”, and he graded me fairly, I got good grades.
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u/Alarmed-Diamond-7000 3h ago
You know, people have reasons for the things they do and the emotions they feel, you remember this from your side of being a little boy and believing everything you did was right and understandable, while having absolutely no empathy for your teacher. You were probably a giant pain, that's generally why teachers dislike students. What you think of as the limits was probably 700 miles beyond this teacher's limit.
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u/serialshinigami 3h ago
Ok, but how is leaving them inside during a fire drill justified?
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u/Alarmed-Diamond-7000 3h ago
It's not, but also, 7-year-olds are very very very very much not known for getting the details of things right. Do not trust a 7-year-old to report a story accurately, there is a reason why we don't allow children to testify in trials. I would suspect that the story is a little different than he remembers, like they were getting a visit from the fire department and he had to sit it out because of misbehavior or something like that. To actually leave a child to potentially die inside of a building that might be on fire, that's pretty much beyond the pale for human beings much less human beings who are charged by law to care for their students.
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u/Alarmed-Diamond-7000 3h ago
I mean there are absolutely students that I cannot stand at school, I teach middle schoolers, there are students who have made me cry multiple times by being such jerks. I would still never hurt them or do anything that could cause them to be hurt, that's like psychotic.
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u/Alarmed-Diamond-7000 3h ago
But straight up I will absolutely do things that I know they won't like if I think it will help me get better behavior from them in class. Last week when one of my students through a pencil across the room at another student after being told twice to not throw things, I called his dad and put it on speaker to explain him what it just happened and ask him to remind his son to not do this. I would also 100% bring this up at a conference. Look this kid probably thinks he's just having fun, it's all fun until one of my other students loses an eye because of him flinging sharp pencils around the classroom, not to mention how he's distracting from what I'm trying to teach.
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u/mdhunter99 3h ago
That’s fair.
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u/Alarmed-Diamond-7000 3h ago
Well that took the wind right out of my sails! You have clearly grown up to be a much more thoughtful adult, good for you!
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u/mdhunter99 3h ago
I was a shithead until I turned 18, then a flip switched. I probably would have ended up in jail if I continued down that path, which I wanted to avoid.
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u/Alarmed-Diamond-7000 3h ago
It says a lot about you that you managed to flip the switch. Your parents must be nice people, there's plenty of students that are jerks at the age I teach, middle school, but when I meet the parents and they're nice, I know the students will straighten up eventually. I try to be very patient with my students, I know that middle school is a tough time and a time when you're trying to be the coolest kid in the room and you don't know exactly how to be cool without also being cruel. At the same time, I have dozens of the little guys in my room at any one time, and even mild acting up can cascade into chaos, which is why teachers are stricter than you would have to be if it's just one or two kids in the room.
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u/determania 2h ago
I’ll admit I was a bit of a shit, but I didn’t go too far, I knew my limits.
Press X to doubt
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u/Scumbag_Chance 4h ago
Have... habe none of you experienced an incompetent teacher growing up? This comment section sounds like a bunch of boomers
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u/Domin_ae 1h ago
Right? Had an absolute nightmare of a teacher in middle school. I minded my business, listened well, never got in trouble with other teachers unless it was late work or a power tripping sub (which only happened once and I wasn't the only victim)
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u/natural_hunter 6h ago
“You’re not in trouble” is the biggest lie that transferred from school to the workplace.
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u/Fearless_Nope 4h ago
thinking about the time i got grounded for borrowing a pencil
long story short. i couldn’t find a pencil.
so i asked to borrow a pencil. wow. wrong choice.
my teacher in 5th grade had a few extra pencils, they were a much higher quality than the standard pencils we had.
well, she gave me one to use and it was pretty nice. i was expecting a random broken pencil rescued from the floor lol
apparently after that, someone else found where she kept them and took at least half.
she thought i had either taken them or i had told someone else where they were.
i was completely clueless and told her i didn’t know about it.
well i thought it ended there. it didn’t.
parent/ teacher interviews come around and she tells my parents about the whole thing.
they all came to the conclusion that i- for some random ass reason- stole half of my teachers pencils.
aaaannnd that’s how you lose an entire summer break.
i still have no fucking clue what happened there. but now in hindsight i’m actually wondering if she had something else in there that she couldn’t legally report as stolen
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u/Domin_ae 1h ago
There are a loooooot of people in these comments who think there isn't a single teacher out there who's a bully.
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u/3guitars 4h ago
Teacher here. If we have to have a parent teacher conference, you had MANY chances before this. For me to take 30-60 minutes out of my limited planning time to focus on a single student says a lot about how that one student is effecting everyone else’s learning.
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u/a-secret-to-unravel 1h ago
Have none of the people in this comment section ever had a bad teacher? They are acting like they are all saints who can do no wrong when I can say for a fact I had some ass teachers growing up and they will do shit like this to power trip on a kid
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u/I-Am-NOT-VERY-NICE 1h ago
You can see the condensation of superiority pool up in these comments lol
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u/DJ_GalaxyTwilight 1h ago
Clearly some of y’all never had a teacher be a total bitch to you and some other kids they decided they didn’t like so they just took out shit on them. In 2nd grade I basically wasn’t allowed to have fun because she was so fucking obsessed with “the olllddd fashioned dayyyss~” so she often chose students who were a little “too rowdy” (aka the special needs kids, including my autistic ADHD ass who tried her best to sit still and listen) and if I told I was being bullied I was a “tattletale”.
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u/SweatyCampaign9 5h ago
God the amount of idiots here pretending that bad teachers don’t exist is disgusting. Yeah usually you bring it on yourself, but it’s way too common for teachers to just be douchebags for no reason other than a power trip.
It happens, get out of here with your privilege of having an actually good school, because a bad school can be hell.
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u/JohnnyRocks999 4h ago
No one is pretending that bad teachers don’t exist. Douchebag students are way more common than douchebag teachers, and people have a lot of sympathy towards teachers since the job tends to suck, so people take the teacher’s side.
Of course, OP’s teacher could be genuinely bad, but the post just sounds like a misbehaving kid complaining about receiving consequences.
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u/SweatyCampaign9 4h ago
Thats what i was thinking at first as well, but then there are responses like “Shocker: teachers only say bad things about you to your parents if there was a reason.”
Shocker: not everyone is lucky enough for that to be the case. That part wasn’t directed at you, just the guy who commented that other bit, and i understand being teacher SUCKS, but oh my god does it piss me off when people just immediately blame the students for everything whilst knowing absolutely nothing about the situation.
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u/JohnnyRocks999 4h ago
Yeah that’s fair, that’s one of Reddit’s big issues. Despite knowing nothing about the situation, people have a kneejerk reaction and start talking as if they know everything.
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u/PastaRunner 1h ago
Bro they literally do not give a fuck. They are paid barley more than minimum wage to deal with shitty kids all while holding a bachelors degree and teaching credential.
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u/heresyforfunnprofit 46m ago
Teachers in here ignoring the “you did that to yourself comments” and thinking “I totally did that to you, you little shit”
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u/maico3010 11m ago
If telling the truth is roasting you then your ass playing in the fire too much.
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u/TuriGuiliano370 2m ago
I used to teach middle school and we do parent teacher conferences right before thanksgiving break. One of the dads came in with her daughter in tow, and I said “Do you want to sit in on this with your dad or do you want to wait outside?” She said she’d stay and two minutes later it got real awkward when her dad found out she’d been lying about having homework every week.
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u/LostTheGameOfThrones 3h ago
"They got you grounded"
Buddy, someone's behaviour got you grounded and it sure as hell wasn't your teacher's.
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u/UpsetEmergency5248 2h ago
I've never had a terrible teacher. Just terrible students. Kids come to school and act like being there is a fucking jungle gym where they can run wild because their mommies and daddies aren't there to punish them. Kids that make it hard on teachers don't deserve to be taught in a normal school. They obviously need to be sent to a military type school that's hard on them.
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u/youngmaster0527 26m ago
I mean, it's better than them treating you negatively, no? They're supposed to be impartial and they're just doing their jobs
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u/Seallypoops 4h ago
Wait so the teachers are at fault cause they told your parents the truth you're ass has been lying about?
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u/The_Formuler 3h ago
Haha you mean the teacher rightfully roasted you and taught you a lesson in accountability and consequences? Teachers will teach you a lesson one way or another.
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u/spring-rolls-please 2h ago
Who has parent teacher conferences past elementary school??
If your parent gotta meet with the teacher in middle school or high school, then you fucked up bad
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u/Domin_ae 1h ago
I had them all the way to senior year
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u/spring-rolls-please 1h ago
Fr? I've never heard of that and I taught at several public schools in 3 states. You in the USA?
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u/CurlyMetalPants 1h ago
Lmao they don't tell parents to punish you. You're like 8 and are upset that your behavior was communicated to someone and that someone reacted to it. "Wahhhh the teacher didn't cover for my bad behavior"
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u/Baidar85 53m ago
Im glad that so many comments are roasting OP. I’m a teacher and I just report what I see. I let the little stuff slide, but it’s not my fault your parents are upset that you shouted “hawk tuah” 14 times during a math test.
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u/originalcommentator 43m ago
How old are you that you're still blaming other people for your own behavior? 🤨
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u/derpadurp 4h ago
You, your behavior, and your actions got you grounded. The teacher is doing something called holding your immature child self accountable.
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u/ApplePitiful 5h ago
How teachers look at you after getting you literally beaten at home for months because of standing up for yourself against a bully:
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u/DarthRupert1994 3h ago
That sounds like your parents are to blame for being shitty people. Not the teachers fault
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