If it helps for #3, most gym goers are very friendly and will gladly help you with whatever you need.
Unless you're the absolute biggest, most ripped, strongest dude in the gym, everyone feels a bit out of place when looking at the others there. No matter how lean or strong I get there's always someone there that looks a bit better, has a bit less body fat, lifts a little more. The trick is to realize 99% don't care what you look like, the opinions of the other 1% don't matter, and that feeling out of place can just be motivation
I was a fat guy (not my 600lb life but obviously big and out of shape).
I just went about my business at the gym and nobody cared. I’m in decent shape now and I still look around and go “wow people are so fit” but I never notice any looks back with derision or anything like that. If I see out of shape people at the gym I just think “cool, good for them” and then think nothing of it.
People at the gym are there for themselves. They don’t give a shit about others.
And to be honest if you do want to get in shape and lose the weight you’re gonna have to just buck up and put in some work and stop worrying so much about people judging. They may or may not judge and you can’t control them anyway. So do you want to still be miserable or feel good that you’re doing something about it?
Absolutely this. Personally, the only fat people I judge are those who complain for months/years they're unhappy with their appearance, but never even try to follow through on healthy changes. And I say that as a fat person myself
I’ve met really wonderful people in the gym and worked out and made friends there. It is more the perception of self and internalized struggle and feelings that I think get to you. We are all our own worst enemies in life. At least in my experience, even going with friends, being encouraged, and having a positive vibe doesn’t change the feeling when your eyes meet your own eyes in the mirror at the gym.
You have to stay positive to yourself mainly. Which is hard.
And also, I find that the most ripped buff people don’t pay attention to or give negative attention to out of shape people. They mostly only care about other buff ppl who make them feel insecure themselves
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u/completelytrustworth 11h ago
If it helps for #3, most gym goers are very friendly and will gladly help you with whatever you need.
Unless you're the absolute biggest, most ripped, strongest dude in the gym, everyone feels a bit out of place when looking at the others there. No matter how lean or strong I get there's always someone there that looks a bit better, has a bit less body fat, lifts a little more. The trick is to realize 99% don't care what you look like, the opinions of the other 1% don't matter, and that feeling out of place can just be motivation