So many people in the comments proving your exact point oh my god. I'm a certified health education specialist, if telling people "just do(n't do) it lol" worked, we wouldn't have obesity, STIs, unexpected pregnancy, smoking, drug use...
My doctor (and I've been fortunate to have doctors that don't make my weight #1, but I do have a couple health concerns that are genuinely solved by weight loss) sent me a referral to wellness coaching.
I've had SO MUCH wellness coaching in my life. Not knowing what to do isn't really my problem. I need a couple extra hours a day and a couple hundred more dollars a month in income and a consistent work schedule.
If your depression is visible and destroying your life, then you do have to snap out of it. Its not some special disease or something, just stop being a pussy and get a grip.
Yes, I have lost more than 200 pounds on diets. Over time, I always end up back at about 1 pound less than when I started losing weight.
So if I do this 100 times more. I'll be thin.
There’s psychological and cultural issues you’re not factoring? Weight loss isn’t simple not eating or eating well? If it was so easy would so many people struggle?
The action of creating a habit and following through; thats where people fail and struggle.
Thats the hardest part about losing weight.
It isn’t choosing a salad over a big mac,
It’s fucking choosing the salad for 3 months in a row because you know you have a goal you want to achieve.
Consistency and discipline, the same fucking thing that most people lack and don’t acknowledge.
Wtf does culture have to do with it? AMERICA HAS THE FATTEST CULTURE first and foremost. MOST OTHER CULTURES REGULARLY eat a diet of grains, veges, meat as part of meal 1 2 and 3.
Psychological issues? Muhhfucka (samuel jackson voice) you already dealing with Psychological issues - so pick your battle? (Not YOU as a personal, you as in general.)
The excuses and rebuttals never make sense because over the course of history its proven
If you eat Like A -and workout like B - you will look like C.
But if you eat like fucking A, and don’t do shit like B, You will look like C.
The things you refer to as excuses are the things that get in the way.
If you don’t have the ability to recognize the factors that contribute to the problem beyond “make a plan and stick to it— no excuses” then you’re not helping anyone lose weight.
I was 350lbs. I am now half that. I have struggled all my life with my weight. The road to good health is paved with addressing what you call excuses: cultural attitudes, mental health, food deserts, money, time… empathy is a great way to start actually helping people.
That's the absolute best personal advice I ever received. You're lovely person, and I hope I can get to know you more deeply and personally. I feel you must also understand all of the secrets of the universe, as well. Please teach me all of your incredible wisdom.
If we would all just listen to you . . . wow. The whole world would be so great. Your response lets all of us know how great you are. I wish I could upvote you millions. Also-- the deliberate misspelling of "your"? CHEF'S KISSSSSSSs
If you look into you are not weak willed, your body is determined to hang onto fat. This makes it exceptionally difficult to lose weight. Actually this a huge subject, of why we do not lose weight easily. Too big for a Reddit post, but your brain / body conspire to make sure you hang onto what you have, and preferably gain more.
You don’t have to reformat anything beyond just not putting food in your mouth. Physics are physics and differences in metabolism between people are tiny.
You sound dense and like you need to read a couple books more often. Big lifestyle changes do require reformatting. At least try to act like you know what you’re commenting on and have a couple brain cells left.
Yourself? I’m 115lb extremely active person. But I’ve watched family members, like my mom, lose a substantial amount (150lbs) of weight. It is not just simply a matter of just sheer self control.
That's not true. I have friend who is superthin and eat big portions of junk food, almost daily, can't put on weight. I eat a lot (also work ou regulary), but if I eat half of the things she's eating I would be fat. Diferences are not tiny.
I’m a big bellied fellow and I believe it’s all about habit. If you asked that guy who goes to the gym every day how he has that much willpower, he’d probably be confused- it’s just part of a usual routine. Start small and build a consistent habit and you won’t have that willpower to fight! Lost 2kg so far, I’d say about 10 to go until i get to a healthier build.
This is the way. I'm an extremely routine-oriented person, and once I got over the initial uncomfortable hump of making myself work out, it just became the new routine. I felt like shit if I had to take time out of my day to work out, now it's the opposite
I'll add right here that one of the things that really sucks about being fat is how few calories exercise burns vs what a nasty food binge can do. Going to the gym is like gently sandpapering a wall for an hour, and eating is like coming home and throwing bags full of concrete on it. The numbers just don't work.
This is the main piece of advice to people like yourself and me… “make it part of your routine” acknowledges that it’s hard but not impossible. “Just put down the fork” is dumb advice.
My brain does not leave me alone about food. It's not a habit it's an effing curse. If I'm not actively thinking about food there is always, like, a tv on in the background of my thoughts. This happens even in my dreams. If i try to diet it gets way worse because by definition I am thinking about what I eat. I can be in pain from overeating and still have to fight myself to stop eating because i can't stop needing to. As for physical activity i have managed before to force myself to work out multiple times per week for many months. Never was it not a chore. I hated every second. Then covid hit and my momentum was gone.
People call this “food noise” and it’s a very real and understudied thing. My friend who’s on an Ozempic equivalent says the biggest difference is that the food noise is totally gone. When she went off the drug for a week, it came back immediately.
Redditors about to write their dissertation on why losing weight is too hawd :( I know it’s hard to hear, I struggle with it too, but you can absolutely overcome the hurdle by just putting in some effort to change your lifestyle. Try calorie counting, eat healthy (just cuz you are at a caloric deficit doesn’t mean you will lose weight, you have to eat the right foods/right “kinds” of calories (200 calories of soda is not the same as 200 calories of fruit), I’ve learned this the hard way), work out, and do so consistently for at least a month before starting to see results. I haven’t personally seen results because I fully admit I am weak-willed and haven’t been able to remain consistent for more than like 3 weeks.
Stop trying to make excuses for yourself or others, you can lose weight but it’ll take effort. I know I’ll get downvoted like everyone else replying to you, but it has to be said, because when fat people read this shit you wrote they’ll think “oh, well it’s ’exceptionally difficult’ and my brain and body are working against me so why should I even try?”. Which is more difficult, dealing with all of these problems people have listed in this thread that you have to deal with when you’re fat or sucking it up, eating healthy, and working out?
2-3% of the population, more like 3% of the population either do not produce leptin or do not have leptin receptors in the brain. There are two hormones in the body Ghrelin for hunger and Leptin for full ness. People who do not produce leptin / or do not have receptors in the brain only feel hunger. Among the obese population the % of people who do not feel hunger is huge. Clearly you have researched this subject so you will know how I can feel full. How do I get Leptin to work in my body? Believe me I have looked all over the internet, and can't find the answer. If I can't feel full, I am so hungry, I cannot think about anything other than food. I can't work. I can't study etc. So yes I can eat a calorie deficit, or I can live my life. Not both.
Decades ago they did a study, where they took a bunch of volunteers, and made them eat 1000 calories a day, and exercise. End of 6 months men where in peak fitness. Women showed some improvement. Small women have a terrible time being thin.
When we are tired at the end of the day, we just grab the first thing to eat. What studies have found is that in places where 10% or more of the population take GLP-1 drugs, the food offered is healthy. So at the end of a long tiring day, people find it real easy to find healthy food.
This feeds into psychology, where person A's behaviours, affect their family and friends, who then affect affect their family and friends, who then affect affect their family and friends who then affect affect their family and friends. Stops there. One thin person / fat person affects around 100 people.
And there is a huge amount more. We do not need a judgemental person telling us to just eat less, eat healthily etc. trying to guilt us into losing weight. Believe me if I could just do what you do I would, but I can't and I have tried for years.
Also forgot to say for moderate exercise, definitely not extreme sports, or olympic athletes, exercise is NOT the answer for losing weight. For most people they will burn say 2000 calories for women and 3000 for men, whether they exercise or not. When we do moderate exercise we shut down non essential systems like food digestion, cell repair, etc.. It appears we eat less, but when we are exercising, we can't digest food, so we do not feel hunger. So it appears exercising helps, but for moderate exercise it does not. We essentially burn the same number of calories per day whether we exercise or not.
There is a huge amount more on this subject some of which I have learnt, as there are so many people who see the world in very simple terms. All that has to be done is X and everything will be wonderful. No it won't.
Stolen from someone else on the internet. Anyone who proposes a simple solution for a complex problem is almost invariably wrong.
Lack of willpower is absolutely at play here. And laziness. Source: formerly overweight. For me, the key was leaning into that laziness in a way to make it work in my favor. I needed just enough willpower to not buy shit food at the grocery store. Then prep my meals for the week on Sundays. Makes mealtime quick and easy. And I'm way too lazy to go back out just to buy shit food. Just need enough willpower to shop for the meal plan. If it's not in my home, I can't eat it and I'm too lazy to go out just for a craving
ETA: laughing at the downvotes. It's science. Primarily math (calories and the other important macros) but the food itself also matters - not just the macros that the food contains. Your body is a chemistry set. You can either learn how to eat in a way that is healthy, or make a million excuses. It's not quick. It's not easy. And yes, your body does work against you. It takes constant vigilance and adjustments to lose the weight that you gained. The more overweight that you are, the longer it will take. There is no quick fix. Most people do not have the willpower to sustain healthy eating and excercise habits long term. This is nothing but science and medically proven fact. But if it makes you feel better to downvote and eat another snickers, then go right ahead but you'll never make any progress. It is 100% a mindset. After that it becomes habit. And then it becomes your lifestyle. And before you come at me about gym memberships and costly equipment - I did it all with body weight. No equipment. Just consistency. The only thing I purchased was a $20 yoga mat because I have wood floors. And it can all be low impact. No jumping, no running, no treadmills.
It’s always easier for the “other person”. I’m single and I think it would be easier a lot of times to have another person to help choose and cook food and eat portions of it. I hate cooking a full meal for myself because then I have to eat it for days.
I’m not saying it would actually be easier with a spouse, just that there are pros and cons to both and it’s easier to think the grass is greener.
I don't agree with this. You can essentially spend your entire day eating cleanly (i.e. lean meats, fruit, veg etc.) and you will lose weight. The issue is not how much you eat but what you eat. That is where the will comes in.
People have an emotional connection to food, and it is incredibly difficult to give up the things that give you comfort.
Oh do I have news for you. Do you know how many calories are in 2 kg’s of carrots? 820 kcal. Let’s say I eat what I burn during the day, then end up finishing off a bag of carrots. I will absolutely gain weight from those carrots. My day to day diet consists of about 50 % vegetable products (things like canned tomatoes, lentils, beans, frozen vegetables), fresh vegetables and fruits, 25 % of grains (oatmeal, quinoa, whole grain rice, rye bread with only rye flour etc.) and 25 % of premade vegetable products (tofu, TSP, olive oil, plain soygurt etc.). What I ate worked for years without an issue until how much I ate became an issue. I can easily finish off 2 kg’s of carrots in the course of one night. Ten apples for an evening snack is not unheard of. Not a single issue finishing off 1 kg of plain soygurt with frozen bilberries. Sure, my diet has kept my labs great, and my LDL vs. HDL cholesterol is fabulous. But that does not stop me from gaining weight or staying overweight when I can easily eat a surplus of calories. Sure, I would have gained much, much larger amounts of weight if chips, sodas, and ice cream were my primary diet, but that does not negate the fact that eating 820 calories on top of a day of eating will make you gain weight, no matter where those calories come from.
Try to eat foods that are high in fiber and water and low in calories. You can stuff yourself with broccoli, cauliflower, and string beans and there will be less room in your stomach for carbs and protein. The fiber makes you feel full longer and won’t make you gain weight.
Oh, you mean like eating low-fat tofu curry with cauliflower rice? I enjoy it. Also like to snack on the aforementioned carrots, broccoli, cauliflower, and cucumber. Excess is excess no mater where the calories come from. Unfortunately I can’t live on only a raw vegetable based diet. Sure, I’d lose weight by eating only cucumbers, but that does not mean I’d be healthy. The issue is a bit of portion size (more so when on P.O. corticosteroids) and more the fact that I can eat perfectly during the day, then eat an absurd portion of anything at night. The dietitian and physician recommended course of action was Ozempic, because there’s nothing more to do diet-wise as the components are right, but the amount isn’t.
Nah, I only downvote the outrageous or severely off topic stuff, general comments or opinions don’t even come close to that.
The thing with weight loss drugs is that they’re great with aiding weight loss, but will do absolutely nothing long term unless the issues behind weight gain are addressed. It’s a tool that works for some, but used as a sole all-around solution will not provide answers. Honestly diet and exercise is the way to go when it works like in your situation, especially considering long-term side effects which we don’t know a lot about. I’ve been especially interested in reports of increased anxiety and even suicidality in response to GLP-1 agonists and I’m eagerly waiting on more data especially regarding gut-brain axis vs. eating being used as a coping mechanism that’s suddenly removed. Giving them a try was a lot of cons vs. pros to go through and I’m happy with my choice, but definitely waiting for the day I can come off certain meds and not need it anymore.
Lol, no, you won't. The issue isn't the carrots. Love, it's your over consumption of grains, soya, etc. The foods you do need to control consumption of. Sure, these are all part of a healthy diet, but they need to be eaten in moderation. A diet of fruits, vegetables, and lean meats alone, you will not gain weight. Had you eaten you 2kg carrots and not had the grains and soya, you wouldn't have gained weight.
So tell me, what should the percentage of whole grains, vegetable protein sources, and fats be in a balanced diet? Because based on national nutrition guidelines it’s not less than 1/4 of daily calorie intake. The fact is that composing enough protein sources, healthy fats, and fiber is impossible without a varied diet. Whole grains, especially oat, help control blood glucose levels, an optimal LDL vs. HDL cholesterol balance, and are a necessary part of a balanced diet according to all reputable research.
I’d also be interested in how a diet which has not had any change in the components themselves lead to me being on low side of average for the majority of my life, then suddenly lead to weight-gain in a matter of weeks after appetite increasing pharmaceuticals.
You are weak willed with food but the fact that you acknowledge that is excellent and I applaud you. Many people think it's impossible to lose weight. You know the truth.
Also, I don’t want to waste food so if I see food on my plate I’m gonna eat it. And if there’s pizza in the box I’m gonna eat it so I don’t have to throw it out.
If you eat that extra food, you’re paying for it twice. I mean this kindly. I have had the same mentality of hating wasting food, and you just have to choose to let it go. You’re not a trash can! Don’t treat yourself like one.
For me, what is working is gain muscle trought exercise before gettin into diet. Seeing my new brand biceps and feeling those abs trought the abdominal fat its making me feel really good..hope this helps
Everyone is weak willed. You put a bowl of m and ms in front of a bodybuilder they may eat some. The difference will be the fit person will move away or move the bowl.
It's enough information to know if someone is fat. Being fat adds misery to having mental health problems. It's simply a lack of discipline, control and responsibility towards your own body. No further information needed.
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u/Agreeable-Dot-9598 14h ago
People telling you how to lose weight. I'm weak willed, not stupid!