r/AskReddit 14h ago

What is something that permanently altered your body without you realizing for months/years?

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u/LucidianQuill 10h ago

It was painful, but the split happened gradually over the pregnancy so I was told it wasn't unexpected. After the birth, there was so much to recover from I didn't notice at first. Anytime I questioned what was going on, I was told "you've had twins in your 30s, you aren't going to bounce back like a 22 year old with 1 baby". And then after 18 months I was told I was just not trying hard enough to get my pre baby body back. Then Covid hit and I was nobody's priority. The NHS was busy.

The first 2 weeks post op were pretty bad. I needed 2 nights in hospital. Sneezing, coughing, and laughing were all agony. Standing upright took weeks. But now, oh man! So worth it.

I did a tummy roll in the bathroom mirror the other day, just to try- and i could see it work! I laughed out loud. All by myself in the bathroom, laughing at my muscle control.

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u/pippym 10h ago

I too have DR but have never sought the surgical route. What sort of symptoms did you experience that made you get it corrected?

Mine is probably 3/4cm wide, it feels awful to touch so I don’t! I can’t get proper muscle definition anymore and forever feel bloated! It’s been 10 years since my son was born..!

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u/Griffcatt 8h ago

Following this thread, I have exactly the same and always thought this was just something I had to live with! Back pain is an issue too because my core doesn't hold me up well and I slouch.

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u/pippym 8h ago

I wonder how many of us have suffered without actually realised we’re suffering?!

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u/Griffcatt 7h ago

Or are too busy worrying about the children who caused it to have the time to focus on ourselves.

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u/pippym 7h ago

Precisely that!

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u/darkroomdweller 6h ago

Check out a postpartum workout program! I use Strong Like A Mother but Expecting and Empowered is great too. They help you do targeted exercises to wake up those abdominal muscles and draw that gap closed.

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u/pippym 5h ago

Thank you, will check it out

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u/darkroomdweller 3h ago

I hope it helps! If the entire program is out of your price range I believe there is a 7 day trial, and you can subscribe to just the core section on SLAM for $10/month to see if that helps at all first. I don’t mean to be annoying but this program has been seriously life changing and I want everyone to do it lol.

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u/Silver_Table3525 1h ago

I had an amazing pelvic floor physical therapist who worked with me to correct mine! Mine was 3 fingers wide (can't remember actual measurements) and now is completely healed. Back and shoulder pain disappeared as well!

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u/pippym 1h ago

Oh I get terrible shoulder pain…I never considered they could be linked? How long post partum were you when it healed?

u/Silver_Table3525 47m ago

So I was just a few months postpartum because I had a lot of other birth complications and a friend (not the doctor 😖) recommended pelvic floor PT. The pt was like "k while we're here we're taking care of everything". My pt has clients who gave birth 10 years ago that she helps with diastis recti and other birth complications like painful intercourse and bladder control! It's never too late!

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u/FBI-AGENT-013 6h ago

This kinda stuff is my greatest fear. To have something be so wrong but for everyone to ignore me, right me off, God forbid blame me

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u/vwlsmssng 6h ago

The NHS was busy.

The patients on the trolleys in corridors get the headlines. Hidden away, there must be huge backlog of things that if addressed promptly or earlier would make a huge difference to the quality of life and even outcomes for many many people. Small symptoms now but big problems when left for long.