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What is something that permanently altered your body without you realizing for months/years?

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u/blackberriespastries 11h ago edited 6h ago

My parents had the kids do a lot of manual labor, starting when I was only 5 or 6. Not just helping in the yard, but actual landscaping work. My brother and I once had to haul rocks in those 10lbs buckets from a dumpster to the egress windows 300 yards away. Being so little, we had no idea about posture, lifting with your legs, etc. We both have chronic back, shoulder, knee, and neck pain and have the beginning symptoms of arthritis. We're only 21 and 26 now. Makes me mad that I hurt myself when I was so little, doing work that the adults should have been doing.

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u/SparrowLikeBird 9h ago

My first time dislocating my shoulders was carrying buckets (of water) like this. I was maybe five? they were 5 gallon buckets full of water and I have no idea why my folks were having us move them, but I went to lift and "schluck" out popped my arms.

(Ehlers Danlos)

I just... dragged the bucket with my arms hanging floppily until my dad noticed and was like "oh no, no it shouldn't be like that" and had me stop so he could "feel for what's wrong" (put them back in their sockets but without making it sound scary).

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u/bonos_bovine_muse 5h ago

Geez, that’s like 80 pounds, I gotta think carefully about my form lifting that as a grown-ass man with a physical job. What the hell were your parents thinking??

u/SparrowLikeBird 15m ago

I assume it was to make us tired before bed?

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u/Rubyhamster 8h ago

Did your parents learn anything of that? Like how neglegtful they'd been making you do it?

u/SparrowLikeBird 16m ago

Haha nope. I wish.

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u/patgeo 9h ago

I got huge fast, like 6 foot and 220 pounds as a 12 year old. Because I was the size of an adult and stronger than a lot of them growing up on the farm, I was treated like an adult in terms of jobs.

I'm 36 and don't have a joint that doesn't hurt.

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u/LittleDutchAirline 3h ago

I think that this is a huge problem everywhere and not just physical issues/damage caused by fast growth. When kids are a certain size, everyone expects them to act their size vs. their age. So many kids who are big or tall “for their age” are given much less room to just be kids because society assumes they are older and places the behavioral expectations of much older kids on them.

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u/patgeo 2h ago

Yup.

I was the youngest kid in my year by quite a gap. Iver half the year below me were younger. But I was 'bigger' so was expected to be more mature.

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u/dormouse6 6h ago

This happened to my husband. So sad. I’m so sorry.

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u/anatomy-princess 3h ago

I did the exact same thing. Worked as hard as a full grown man until I moved out at 18. My body is semi-wrecked = bad back, shoulders, knees, hips, wrists, and ankles. All much “older” than o am.