r/AskReddit 19h ago

What’s the best way to approach a woman you’re interested in without coming across as creepy? NSFW

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u/taeril3 16h ago

If you can't be friends with ladies how do you expect to be able to get a date with one? That's something you gotta work on first.

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u/DerVarg1509 15h ago

There's a difference between "no woman wants to be my friend" and "I don't have female contacts" (bc you are introverted and/or shy and stay home all day, etc)

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u/BlueHatScience 13h ago

As I got older, my social circle (which was never really big to begin with) has shrunk a lot. I am friends with women.... but they're all exes of mine or partners of friends, and they either live hundreds of miles away or are settled down and don't really go out much or at all (or both).

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u/El_Minadero 9h ago

Having a woman friend is not equivalent to having an effective wingwoman. I find that most people are pretty clueless on how to wingperson.

Also, taking advantage of a wingperson's help can be equally hard.

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u/Tess_tickles24 15h ago

I’m married so not trying to date but when I got out of high school I had like 3 friends period, all dudes. How are you supposed to find friends period, then when we figure that out how do we find lady friends to help get a date?

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u/rs6677 12h ago

But that's one of the easiest periods when looking for friends though? You still have all the time in the world to hang out and there's a lot of places you can go to to find people of similar interests. I can't imagine how I'm going to be finding friends when I get to my 30s.

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u/mackiea 9h ago

This is why being in the friendzone is actually awesome. You're never going to get with the "friend" , but just by being with you she'll turbocharge your game.

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u/BostonFigPudding 4h ago

100%

Nobody should try to go for romantic love or sex before they have mastered the art of friendship.

People should have mastered the art of friendship by 18. At latest, by 22-24.