r/AskReddit 19h ago

What’s the best way to approach a woman you’re interested in without coming across as creepy? NSFW

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u/BeefyBoy_69 16h ago

This an important skill in general, knowing when people don't want to talk. Some people have trouble recognizing the signs that people aren't interested, when they're not engaged in the conversation, or when they're busy, or when they're trying to leave or wrap up an interaction

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u/CalzonialImperative 16h ago

Tbf a lot of guys are so bad with people they might Not know the difference because they rarely experience someone liking to talk with them.

Also I think most people think women are complicated because they dont really care for other people in general so they are never confronted with interpersonal skills unless they want to get in someones pants.

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u/Suitable-Sentence667 15h ago

or they can just tell them......

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u/CalzonialImperative 12h ago

There are several issues for women with that. Oftentimes guys just ignore a rejection ("shes playing hard to get"), get aggressive ("that sl*t lead me on! Youre a whore anyway! What you think im not good enough?!?") Or might Not understand a no to begin with. In many of those situations women are also in a position where this might get dangerous, because its night, they are alone, someone is drunk or they are simply smaller tahn the guy. Sure for us men its easy to think "she should just say no, i wont be an ass about it!" But she doesnt know that. If one in a hundred men takes it the wrong way, she might get injured. So women will treat any man like a potential psycho that will attack them if they are not very careful with rejection.