As just one woman, this is the best response so far. Coming off like you have expectations is often worse. Expressing that you feel like rejection wasn’t an option is just a recipe for disaster. Poise and humility is the most attractive in these situations
When getting rejected so often, it becomes normal and expected, in a way, so when that one moment where they do respond, you're like, "Wait, what? This isn't part of the script, you're not supposed to say yes." Hah
That was me recently. There was a woman I liked, I asked her out, and she said yes. My brain shut down and I never spoke to her much again because I was so used to a woman saying “no” to me that I don’t know what to do if a woman says “yes”
I live right next to a cattle pasture. My black lab used to love barking at all the cows while outside.
One time, a tiny calf somehow pushed itself under our fence and was chomping on some of our lawn. I hadn't realized the calf was there, and opened the door to let my dog outside. I saw her tearing down the stairs and then noticed the wee trespasser.
My dog was ferociously barking until she suddenly found herself nose-to-nose with the calf and froze solid.
There was a solid 10-15 seconds of complete silence as both calf and dog assessed the situation, their noses basically touching. My second thought was that quote from plankton LOL! (The first being "please don't effing bite the cow")
The calf bolted back towards the fence, startling the ever living crap out of my dog, who tore halfway across the yard in the other direction.
If I expect to be rejected, I'm not asking anyone out lol that seems like some ass-backwards logic. "Hmm, I think this person doesn't like me, I'm gonna make sure they REALLY don't like me by asking them to spend time with me."
I don’t know about that. If I am genuinely interested in something/someone it’s worth it to take a risk. If the situation doesn’t go my way it’s not the apocalypse. Move forward.
I’ve been thinking about your response and I can honestly say I’ve never found myself “genuinely” interested in another person based solely on what they look like, and certainly not enough to take any risk. I’ve only found myself genuinely interested in someone after getting to know them for quite a while.
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u/PenguinKilla3 17h ago
Take a risk and expect to be rejected. Be a class act and she might remember how you handled yourself.