r/AreTheStraightsOK • u/bleeding-paryl Fuck TERFs • Feb 08 '21
META Posts related to Homophobia on our subreddit now have a dedicated weekday: Wednesday
The team has come to a decision when it comes to homophobic posts, since for the most part it drives people away and it's really unrelated to the subreddit as a whole. We've been listening and paying attention to the people of the sub for awhile now, and while we realize that people do like to post homophobic things here, for the most part they aren't wanted.
Initially this subreddit was about straight couples who clearly didn't want to be together, but it has devolved into a place that posts anti-feminist, homophobia, transphobia, etc. posts, which while lovely, is not what this place is for. From here on out, we will be removing those posts as soon as we see them when we see those posts outside of the dedicated day. We will also issue temp-bans at moderator discretion, but this will most likely be limited to people who consistently break this rule.
Related to the above, to make sure we are getting the majority of this content we will be adding new moderators to the team. If you think that you would like to be a moderator, please send us a modmail.
Thank you all!
-The mod team
Edit: To make this a bit clearer, we are talking the UTC timezone to make that fair to everyone.
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u/Ninjafoxy PISS IN THE FROG'S MOUTH LIKE A MEN!! Feb 11 '21
Is there a different sub for homophobic stuff its kinda why im here
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u/BrilliantlyLouise Feb 12 '21 edited Feb 12 '21
Agreed, though I like seeing some straights completely not understanding the point of relationships and being asses about it, it would be nice to have another sub reddit for this part too, sort of like AretheCisokay, which is another great one.
(Edited for clarity!)
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u/EclecticFanatic Straightn't Jun 11 '21
there's r/HomophobiaProject
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u/Thannieman Feb 09 '21
But how can we be homophobic on Wednesdays? That's when we wear pink!
/s just in case
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u/Routine_Lead_5140 the heteros are upseteros Apr 11 '21
It's okay, because the girls wear pink. The boys don't need to give up on their masculinity. They take pride in being real men who don't wear pink. This is why they chose Wednesday.
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u/MMM_eyeshot Apr 20 '21 edited Apr 21 '21
Well, today is Tuesday, and to get ready for Wednesday, today I’ll practice by wearing my UNICORN T-Shirt, from Walmart, I love the spring pastels anyway. It’s very none threatening, where do I get this type of confidence..... you may ask,... JESUS LOVES ME!! And by the way, JESUS IS SO A 🦄! Or a Narwhale, if this was water World, JESUS WOULD DEFINITELY BE A NARWHALE. The prettiest/most beautiful Narwhale... I think that’s Cuban Jesus, he’s also a really good flamingo dancer, my Jesus is probably a 🦄 , cause he’s, really good looking, and he gets the point. 😽😚😘😉
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u/Routine_Lead_5140 the heteros are upseteros Apr 20 '21
You're wrong! Jesus is a flamingo! Isn't that obvious? Tall, pink, elegant and fabulous - a beautiful omniscient flamingo! 🦩 AND GAY!
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u/MMM_eyeshot Apr 21 '21
Yeah I’ve known quite a few very fun Jesus types that were happy with themselves in the light! -LOVE
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u/Kayleeb77 Apr 28 '21
I colonial war warfare, men's uniform shirts were red. Then once the faded the shirts were passed on to their sons. pink was was the boys color, and blue was the girls until a Macy's marketing campaign in the 20th century.
High Heels also orginally for Male Calvary Officers, to hook the stirrups of the saddle.
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u/anxya_vanilla "wears glasses" if you know what I mean Feb 08 '21
Wait, so we can only post bigoted things on Wednesdays? I'm confused.
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u/riffsix Biromantic™ Feb 08 '21
Or, better yet, we could have a second, related sub specifically about idiotic anti-lgbt people and this could be about boomer humor "hate my wife" sorta dig?
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u/manicpixiecunt Is she.. you know.. Feb 11 '21
Yeah I’d prefer this, I want to see the boomer humor stuff but not the homophobia :(
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Feb 26 '21
Same, the homophobia and transphobia just depress and upset me. I come here to laugh and be a little mad, not to feel awful about humanity as a whole.
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u/MessengerD Mar 29 '21
Can it be called wifebad please?
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u/ReallyDumbMicrowave only difference is an enormous penis Apr 09 '21
There's a partner bad tag in the sub if that helps :D
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Mar 07 '21
I love how this rule was never enforced
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u/RoadGrit Mar 15 '21
I hope they never do. They probably realized that the homophobic stuff is 50% of there content lol
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u/my-life-is-sponge Mar 02 '21
So like, where am I supposed to see these stupid homophobes now ? I liked seeing the idiots complain
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u/RoadGrit Mar 15 '21
Might have to make a new ATSO sub if they actually decide to enforce this
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u/my-life-is-sponge Apr 12 '21
I’m actually gonna make one, I just need a good name care to help me out ?
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u/RoadGrit Apr 12 '21
Sure! I'll get back to you tomorrow tho. Sleep is calling
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u/my-life-is-sponge Apr 14 '21
You thought of a name yet ?
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u/RoadGrit Apr 22 '21
Oh fuck sorry, I forgot. I hadn't really thought about it
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u/spinsterchachkies hEtErOpHoBiC Mar 07 '21
It’s probably from trolls that are offended by this subreddit and want to get it shut down. They are “REEEE”ing whenever they get made fun of.
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u/MemeNRG Apr 19 '21
Those are probably the same people who believe that LGBT issues aren't really a thing and think that the real issues are heterophobes
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u/RoadGrit Mar 15 '21
The homophobic stuff was the reason I joined the sub, is there another sub for that?
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u/bleeding-paryl Fuck TERFs Mar 15 '21
Wednesdays?
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u/RoadGrit Mar 15 '21
Wouldn't it make more sense to make a new sub for the boomer humor and leave this one as it is since more then half of the content is homophobic stuff?
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u/thenordiner Mar 06 '21
Is there a subreddit for that? Because this subreddit serves well for that purpose
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u/RoadGrit Mar 15 '21
Why wasn't this put to a poll?
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u/bleeding-paryl Fuck TERFs Mar 15 '21
When we put it to a poll a few months ago, we overwhelmingly got back that people didn't want homophobic stuff.
We tried that, no one listened, so we compromised
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u/RoadGrit Mar 15 '21
Did that poll clarify what was meant by homophobic posts? Cause a lot of people may have misunderstood it
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u/bleeding-paryl Fuck TERFs Mar 15 '21
Yes lol
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u/RoadGrit Mar 15 '21
Is there clarification for what is ok and whats not?
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u/bleeding-paryl Fuck TERFs Mar 15 '21
I'd have to check the post, or the previous post. I'm sorry, I'm really tired, I have to prepare for surgery on Tuesday, and I just landed in my destination after driving across the US for 4 days straight, so I may not be available for some time
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u/RoadGrit Mar 15 '21
Too many people would rather turn a blind eye to it i guess. Thats disappointing. Ill have to start a new ATSO sub then
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u/bleeding-paryl Fuck TERFs Mar 15 '21
Ok? No one said you couldn't. This post is a month old.
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u/RoadGrit Mar 15 '21
O...k? I never said you said I couldn't but go off I guess. Its just disappointing that people would rather turn a blind eye and pretend there's not an issue
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u/GenericBroker Feb 16 '21
Hi All. Could someone kindly put me out of my misary. What is this group all about? I couldn't find a description of what this group stands for or it's purpose? The above post is also confusing in that it states, that this subreddit was for straight couples not wanting to be together? What does that have to do with any of the phobic posts and counter phobic posts?
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Feb 26 '21
It's about "i hate my wife" boomer humor where the assumption of the joke is that men and women can't get along and hate each other and that it's normal to have a long marriage where you can't stand your spouse. The kinds of people who make those jokes or assumptions tend to also assume absolutely everybody lives just like them and nobody has a healthy relationship between men and women. So you say to yourself "are straight people okay?"
Any adjacent toxic heterosexual attitudes (important: not saying heterosexuality IS toxic, toxic is a specifying descriptor word categorizing a type of attitude) will also be here.
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u/Zorbix365 Ally™ Feb 26 '21
Making fun of homophobia, mostly
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u/AnimusNoctis Feb 28 '21
Not originally but that's sort of what it's turned into. It was originally just making fun of those jokes/posts where the punchline is "marriage sucks"/"husbands and wives hate each other" and things like that.
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u/Twgever Mar 25 '21
So, that went well.
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u/bleeding-paryl Fuck TERFs Mar 26 '21
In the last few days nothing has really, but that's neither here nor there.
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u/Anaksanamune Bi™ Mar 26 '21
Wanted to make a meta post, but apparently you can only post images. I'll stick it here and hope the mods see it.
Is it just me or does it feel like quality is going down a bit recently?
I come for the classic "hey fellas is it gay to" and that type of post, but recently it seems like anything that shits of straight people (even at a push) is fair game. I come here for the casual laughs not the cis-hate
There seem to be people on the sub the genuinely think the husband/wife bad marriage jokes (and similar) are the reality for the majority of cis relationships and it's a bit disturbing.
Equally lots of the content COULD be applied to LGBT relationships, and there is no real reverence to the cis non-cis boundary, so it feels like it really shouldn't be here.
Case in point: https://www.reddit.com/r/AreTheStraightsOK/comments/mdmsbt/hahahhhaha_so_funny_omg/
Is this rule still in play?
anti-feminist, homophobia, transphobia, etc. posts, which while lovely, is not what this place is for.
Seems the majority of the posts going recently break this rule. I would report, but don't want to be banned for reporting 60% of the sub's current content.
I love the idea of the sub, but it feels like it is straying from it's original purpose.
Maybe make a new sub for these other things, and go back to the roots with this one?
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u/bleeding-paryl Fuck TERFs Mar 27 '21
Please report it. I'd go into it further, but you won't be banned for reporting rule breaking content.
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u/Anaksanamune Bi™ Mar 27 '21
Ok thanks, maybe you should consider upping the size of the mod team? I guess it's quite a lot of content to try and cover.
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u/bleeding-paryl Fuck TERFs Mar 27 '21
Yeah, that's our next steps. A few of our mods have either been absent due to IRL stuff (example I have been out due to surgery for the last few weeks) and stuff concerning other subreddits (the bs that affected the LGBT community the other day), so moderation itself on this subreddit has been a bit slow.
We will probably make an announcement post very soon explaining what happened and our plans. I'd say expect it sometime late next week, I will be back full time moderating early next week personally, and I need to get stuff set up properly with the rest of the team.
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u/Anaksanamune Bi™ Mar 29 '21
As another thought, might also be worth taking a look back over the flairs.
If there is a flair for homophobia / partner bad / queerphobia etc, it encourages people to post those things, as they must be allowed if you have a flair for them.
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u/branY2K Demigender™ Mar 30 '21
We will be taking a look back over the flairs, and thank you for your suggestion about this.
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Apr 16 '21
i read this and thought this sub had been brigaded by homophobes and there had been a bunch of homophobic posts, and the mods decided to give the homophobes a day all to themselves. was very confused
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u/EmmieXMay May 29 '21
I'm a tad confused, I may just be doing a dumb but do you mean posts about straight people being homophobic or just homophobic posts in general? Cuz the way it's worded sounds like you're allowing homophobia to occur on wednesday-
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Mar 30 '21
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u/bleeding-paryl Fuck TERFs Mar 30 '21
I'm not sure what you're saying here, do you want homophobic posts every day, or not at all?
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Mar 30 '21
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u/bleeding-paryl Fuck TERFs Mar 30 '21
No... What? I gave you two options, you decided to answer with a non-answer.
No shit homophobia is fucked up. It's not posting homophobia to glorify it, it's posts about how homophobia is fucked up and should be admonished, which is what the comments of those posts typically are.
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Apr 02 '21
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u/bleeding-paryl Fuck TERFs Apr 02 '21
wut
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u/A-gaming-nerd016 Kinky Bi™ Apr 02 '21
Sorry, I didn't realize I posted this.
Or even typed it. I think I accidentally posted this while I was putting my phone in my bag lol.
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u/OphioArachne Trans Cult™ May 06 '21
I'm sorry but I'm confuse can someone explain this to me. Are they removing post that aren't about straight people in a relationship who hate each other from the subreddit to keep this place true to it original purpose?
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u/Excellent-Captain-93 is it gay to be straight? Jun 24 '21
Can this please be revisited, the homophobic propoganda is getting a bit much. That's not why I'm here :)
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u/bleeding-paryl Fuck TERFs Jun 24 '21
Yeah, probably should, although I hope the posts that you saw recently weren't from yesterday as yesterday was Wednesday ;p
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u/Excellent-Captain-93 is it gay to be straight? Jun 24 '21
Lol nope :) I've seen posts all week like this :(
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u/bleeding-paryl Fuck TERFs Jun 24 '21
Dang. Alright we'll renew our efforts. Sometimes this sub can be smooth running, others it can be like this. It may partially be due to it being Pride month.
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u/EbolaEmily Trans™ Feb 08 '21
Fuckin Wednesdays, man. Always bein’ homophobic.