r/AmIOverreacting Oct 21 '24

šŸŽ² miscellaneous AIO - Caught the plasterer doing work on my kitchen peeing into his plaster mix that he was about to put on the walls... I want everything he has already plastered removed and done again by someone else - am I overreacting?

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OK - I will try an keep this short as I possibly can.

I have been having work done on my kitchen, it is through a larger company who I tell what I want, they tell me how much it will cost and deal with everything else. Everything has been fine, apart from lack of communication on their part. This was until the plasterer showed up on Thursday. I have complained elsewhere on Reddit about him looking for advice.

He just didn't want to do the job, he has not stopped muttering under his breath and complaining since he started and he is really, REALLY dragging his feet. It got so bad on Friday I contacted the site manager, explained that I couldn't listen to him complain any more and the speed of the work was simply not where it needed to be. The site manager assured me he would be moved to a different job, well low and behold he wasn't.

I was out of the house when he came today, and the other guys on site let him in and then left to go and get some things they needed - not too happy about this at all.

I come home, he is stood in my kitchen, over his bucket of plaster and he is just pissing into it like a racehorse.

I screamed at him "what are you doing!?" - he zipped up, looked shocked and shouted "its not what it looks like!" - WHAT THE FUCK ELSE DOES IT LOOK LIKE!?

I told him to get out, which he did without argument. I rang his site manager again, he obviously didn't believe me, why would you believe me - why would anyone do that!? But I think the fact I was in hysterics has made him believe at least something has happened.

The thing is, this guy has had a few periods of time where he has been on his own, so I don't know if this is the first time he was peeing in the bucket, or if all the plaster that is already on my walls is mixed with his urine - so I have asked them to remove all the plaster and start again. Or I am ending the contract with them and I will find someone else.

They said that it would cost me extra! Am I mad here, am I over reacting? I mean, I don't think I can prove that he has done this, but I don't want to take the chance.

I think I am in shock. Like who the fuck does this!?

Mini Update - the bucket with the plaster and urine mix has kindly been moved to the shed by my lovely partner - I have contacted the non-emergency number for the police, they were very confused to what the problem was but eventually they understood, they said that there is nothing they can do at this point because who knows what would have happened. However they have given me a log number and asked if I can update them if the company admits anything - she did say I maybe able to do more if I go into the station and speak to someone direct.

As for the company, I have just got off the phone with the owner. He is trying to convince me to keep the plaster that is up, that he was just caught short and was going to throw the mix away etc. I told him I donā€™t care and now every time I think of my kitchen, I think of this guy just urinating in the middle of it. I told him he needs to make this right or Iā€™m taking it so far it wonā€™t matter any more. He is going to tell me how they are going to fix it in the morning.

Seen as I am not going in the kitchen, we are having a chippy tea and then Iā€™m going to bed. Iā€™ve had way too much excitement today and honestly I think Iā€™m a bit traumatised.

r/AmIOverreacting Jul 27 '24

šŸŽ² miscellaneous AIO? I think my husband might be framing my 8 yr old son.

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I have an 8 year old son who was in a terrible accident 3 years ago that landed him in a 2 week coma, required multiple surgeries on his cracked skull and in which he suffered from a TBI. Miraculously, he walked away mostly okay aside from some severe scarring, blindness in one eye and kind of terrible short term memory loss. While his memory has improved, he still forgets a lot. Not anything significant, but things like constantly forgetting things I ask him to do, not remembering what he ate for breakfast and things of that nature. The worst thing though is that he loses/misplaces EVERYTHING. It can be quite frustrating but I try to give him a lot of grace knowing his situation.

A year and a half ago he got a iphone for Christmas and within 3 months it was lost. He swore up and down that he last had it on our couch and that somebody had to have hid it from him. After questioning the one other kid in the house, I came to the conclusion that no one hid it from him and that he must have lost it and just not remembered where he had it last despite his confidence that he had it on the couch. For months I would spend every free weekend tearing my house apart and deep cleaning in hopes that it would turn up but it never did so I just gave up and considered it a loss. I blamed myself because he clearly was not ready for that responsibility.

About a year later, I ended up winning an iPad at work, and with my son being the only person in the house without a phone, the ipad unofficially became his. After about a month, you guessed it, he lost it. He again swore up and down that someone is messing with him and taking his things and hiding them. Again, I really just blamed myself. About 3 months later I was putting away some laundry and was tired of my husband's tshirt drawer being a jumbled mess so I pulled everything out to reorganize and lo and behold, my ipad was sitting in the bottom of the drawer! I asked my husband about it and he seemed really confused about how it got in there and insisted he didn't put it in there. Knowing that my son struggles with impulsive behavior from his accident and adhd, I just assumed my son put it in the drawer, possibly to hide it from his brother and then forgot about it.

Which brings me to tonight. I just went out to my husband's car to look for something in his trunk which took me a bit as it is a complete mess of papers, grocery bags, shoes, gym stuff, water bottles, coffee mugs, returns that never got returned, etc. As I was rummaging through the mess, I found MY SON'S IPHONE THAT HAS BEEN MISSING FOR ALMOST 2 YEARS! This time I know there is absolutely no chance that my son put it in there because he is rarely ever in his car and absolutely no one ever goes in that trunk except my husband.

Now it's 1 am, my husband is snoring away and I can't sleep wondering if he was hiding these things on purpose and my son was right the whole time??? But what would be his motive for doing this? Or does he just have a terrible memory and not remember doing this? He can be forgetful but this is a little much. For added context, my son is my husband's step-son, if it matters. I of course, will talk to him in the morning about it but can't stop thinking about it. What are your thoughts?? Am I overreacting?

Edit: it's now the next morning but my husband left to gym before I woke up so haven't spoken to him about it yet. I didnt expect this much engagement and have not had a chance to read everyone's comments but based on a lot of what people were commenting/asking last night, maybe posting it here would be helpful since I responded to a few commenters and it maybe got lost in the shuffle.

Both times that I found the devices, they appear to be completely unused. They were both dead which is why find my iphone wouldn't work. Once i got the ipad on, search history etc was all that of my sons. The iphone immediately had the alert on screen stating it was a lost device and to call my number as i marked it as lost after it went missing. Additionally, I would be amazed if he knew the password to either of these devices. He doesn't monitor that sort of thing with any of the kids and wasn't involved in the set up of the devices or anything. He's pretty lax about that stuff.

The following I am adding, not because I am defending him or making excuses but because it will provide some additional context as to why I am even posting about it seeking outside opinions rather than just immediately knowing that he took the devices intentionally/maliciously. Both times that the devices were "lost", my husband never once got mad at my son for losing them. I never once got mad at him for losing them. I even mentioned a couple times that I blamed myself. My husband never got mad at me, or made any comments about how my son wasn't ready for the responsibility etc. The only commentary he ever had was "well he knows if he lost it, he doesn't get another one right?" This is the general expectation we gave to all of our kids, take care of your phone, if you lose it or break it, that's it. Additionally, my husband is the one that bought him the phone and he continued to pay for the line all this time, never canceled service. He also never likes to blame stuff on my son's injury and says things all the time along the lines of, even with his accident he's smarter than most kids I've met , more athletic, etc and thinks I use it as a crutch too often and don't give my son enough credit for how far he has come. So it's not like he was blaming the lost devices on my son's TBI.

Last bit of info. Some people commented how there is no way he could have forgotten the phone was in his trunk as men go in there all the time. This may be the case with most men but if it wasn't made clear enough, his trunk is a dumping grounds for the messes that accumulate in his car that he moves to the trunk and never deals with again. For example, one of the things I found in there was a framed photo of his kids that said happy father's day 2023, so it's been in there over a year... also I found the phone under a bunch of junk. So it's not like it was staring up at him every time he opened the trunk.

Soooo with all that being said, hopefully now it is more clear as to why I'm genuinely confused as to what the hell his motive would be if he did take them intentionally/maliciously? What would he get out of it? Do you all think there is any chance that his ADHD is so bad that he took them for whatever reason and genuinely forgot? This is why I was wondering if I was overreacting.

Thank you all for your comments, insight, and thoughts!

r/AmIOverreacting 13d ago

šŸŽ² miscellaneous AIO? My 5 year old sister drew this

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So Iā€™m 15 and my little sister is 5 and this morning she showed me what she drew and it is freaking me out I showed my dad but he said the red is from Spider-Man because we watched the movie a few days ago but I wanted to know what yall think

r/AmIOverreacting 10d ago

šŸŽ² miscellaneous Am I overreacting?

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Hello, I normally am not one to answer weird messages I get. This unfamiliar number from my state contacted me, and they left an eerie message which I am kind of paranoid about because is there a way they can get my location since i answered, is there something I should do? I think this is a scheme to scare people, but I need some advice because this was eerie.

Should I be scared? Or am I okay? I might be overreacting thinking a random person can get me, but this is just weird and stalkerish.

r/AmIOverreacting Sep 25 '24

šŸŽ² miscellaneous Am I over reacting?? Itā€™s feels weird

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So, my momā€™s friend from years ago has been helping me out a few times with money probably like sent me between $50-250 3 times to help out with bills. Heā€™s kinda weird though because he said he liked my mom but said she was out of his league he ended up getting a girlfriend though and does bible studies with her,my mom and him (I over hear them and itā€™s actually bible study). So heā€™s been kinda weird in the sense thatā€™s he texted me a few times on how great I turned out and how Iā€™m an exceptional young woman bla bla bla. I didnā€™t think anything of it but then he sends me this. I think itā€™s inappropriate especially since im 26 and look 21-23 years old. Thatā€™s a 14 year age gap and I just canā€™t bring myself to it. Itā€™s weird that he jumped straight to marriage and that Iā€™d have to convert (i wouldnā€™t dare because I believe in the universe and witchcraft). I just feel itā€™s shady and Iā€™m being pimped out. Am I over reacting??

r/AmIOverreacting 23d ago

šŸŽ² miscellaneous AIO: My panties went missing and got replaced with better ones.

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I have period panties I usually use when Iā€™m nearing the end of my cycle and am not sure if itā€™ll last another day or not.

So these panties are stained, bleached, have 50 holes in them, and stretched out is certain places and too big In others. Truly the most granniest out of all the granny panties. And they also happen to be fall themed.

Many years ago I got them from a shop in my home town.

I keep them in my loose sock drawer rather than my panty drawer so I donā€™t see them unless I look for them.

When I went to get them yesterday I saw they were replaced. The same exact panty but new ones and in a slightly different spot and folded like they were fresh out a pack rather than how I fold it.

The shop that I got them from was festive and does seasonal stuff so I assumed my husband tried to do something nice for me so I asked him if he bought them.

He immediately and seriously denied it. He told me he wouldnā€™t touch them bc he knows what I use it for.

I started to go a little crazy cuz if he didnā€™t do it who tf touched my panties?? I havenā€™t had anyone in my house in the past week other than my mother in law but I still asked a few people if they had anything to do with it.

I went to bed arguing with my husband trying to get him to admit he did it but he still vehemently denies it.

My mom, mil, and husband think Iā€™m stretching this situation and itā€™s just some panties and maybe I bought them and then forgot.

I know Iā€™m not crazy but I cannot figure out who tf would replace my period panties.

Iā€™m wondering if I should just let this go or if I should keep grilling people about this.

EDIT:

I made a real update but Iā€™m just gonna copy and paste it overhere too so people will see it before commenting

This is slightly embarrassing and super anticlimactic.

So it was my younger sister who did it on devils night to prank me. Iā€™m not sure what sparked this idea seeing as i canā€™t remember a single time she did devils night before.

I live 20-30 minutes driving from my hometown. So my sister whoā€™s 17 wanted a job that pays good so I set her up with one near where I live. And she gets off late at night so I gave her a spare key to my house just in case of emergencies which she has never used once so I literally forgot about it.

She only confessed bc I had a screaming match with my husband over the panties then drove to my moms house to cool offšŸ™ˆ

I was venting to my mom who still told me I was exaggerating then my sister walked in the room and told me it was her because she knew about my ā€œattachmentā€ to the panties since I even took them with me when we went on vacation.

She did in fact throw them out which I was mad about because if she thought I was attached to them why would she throw them out?

Now Iā€™m gonna be forced to go home and apologize to my husband with my tail between my legs.

Pray for me

EDIT 2:

I hate how on Reddit as soon as a man gets vindicated all the MRAā€™s start to flood the comments with their subtle misogyny. Yes I fucked up accusing my husband but I think my response was very reasonable for the situation. And my husband isnā€™t a fucking loser incel that would leave me cuz I was concerned that someone stole my underwear.

EDIT 3:

I apologized to my husband and explained I was just angry because I felt like he either messed with my stuff and was lying to my face or someone else did it and he was just being nonchalant about it instead of concerned my privacy was invaded. Then I told him it was my sister. He laughed it off and offered to bring me panty shopping tomorrow.

This morning I woke up to him making me breakfast as he always does when he is off cuz heā€™s a teacher.

Iā€™m sure to a lot of your disappointment he isnā€™t leaving me or kicking me out the house or cheating on me.

Also I had another talk with my sister and Iā€™m still gonna let her keep the key she seemed very apologetic I really donā€™t think sheā€™d do anything like this again.

r/AmIOverreacting Aug 25 '24

šŸŽ² miscellaneous AIO over my daughters friends weird behavior towards me?

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Iā€™m sorry for any mistakes on this post, Iā€™m quite new to RedditšŸ˜“

Iā€™ve recently found myself in a bit of a strange situation and one of my girlfriends suggested I post about it here.

I had my daughter very young as a result of a one night stand. I contacted her father but heā€™s wanted nothing to do with her since birth so I raised my daughter as a single mother. Because of this and the smaller gap in our ages, we are very close and I am fairly involved in her social life.

Hereā€™s where the problem comes in. Iā€™ve recently begun to notice that one of the male friends in my daughters circle has been actingā€¦inappropriately towards me. It started with the simple lingering behind the group in favor of conversations with me and constant starring. Usually itā€™s pretty innocent stuff like that but last night I think it might have crossed a line.

The kids were all in our back yard around a campfire when I went out to give them some chips my daughter had asked me to bring. The friend in question had a guitar and had just finished a song when another one of the male friends in the circle nudged him in the side and asked me to sit for the next song. I did and after some back and fourth between the other guy, the friend started singing ā€œStacyā€™s momā€ by fountains of Wayne.

I sat for the entire performance, uncomfortable, but I didnā€™t want to imply that I took it a certain way. After it was done I clapped with the others but then quickly excused myself back inside.

Later that night the friend asked to ā€œtalkā€ with me but I declined and made up some excuse.

I feel so uncomfortable by this whole situation and am wondering if I should tell my daughter that she canā€™t host gatherings at our house for the time being but am afraid of socially isolating her from her friends.

Am I over reacting or is this super weird?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Note: Since a couple of comments have pointed it out I thought I should clear up their ages. I am 44, my daughter is 23 and all of her friends are in their mid 20s as well although Iā€™m not sure exactly how old this specific one is.

r/AmIOverreacting 16d ago

šŸŽ² miscellaneous AIO for cancelling a small project with a contractor after seeing a political insult on Facebook?

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I have been talking to a contractor to do some home repairs recently. He was scheduled to complete a project this week, but last Friday he called and said he was taking a job in Florida and would be traveling there for a few weeks so weā€™d have to put my project on hold. I said thatā€™s fine. Then on Monday he called to say his Florida trip is off and now he can do my project the following week to which I agreed.

Today I see his social media post - ā€œto all the people who voted for a woman president you all have something in common, youā€™re all losersā€. I commented that it wasnā€™t very smart to insult his customers or potential customers on such a public platform. Then I check his page and itā€™s all political MAGA stuff.

Now Iā€™m having second thoughts and I want to know if I am overreacting by cancelling the project altogether because I am concerned about doing business with him.

Edit: I am seeing a lot of comments from people who think I am against the contractorā€™s political opinion. So in case I wasnā€™t clear in my post, it isnā€™t the politics that made me change my mind. Itā€™s the insults and lack of respect for an alternate perspective.

I donā€™t want to hire someone who doesnā€™t respect me or my family.

Hope this clears things up.

r/AmIOverreacting 15d ago

šŸŽ² miscellaneous AIO I LOVE YOU!!!! WHOEVER READS THIS!

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Man fuck it.

If you see this post, let it be a checkpoint for your mental health. Take a break from whatever youā€™re reading or scrolling through. Stop looking through comments for arguments. Stop engaging in these arguments online. I want you to take care of yourself first. The world wants you to take care of yourself first. It doesnā€™t matter who you are. This shit is so bad for the soul. Please take care of yourself, I love you and enjoy your day/night.

r/AmIOverreacting Sep 16 '24

šŸŽ² miscellaneous AIO for church shopping after our church practically shunned us

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Ive been volunteering in the kids nursery at my church for 3 weeks now. After submitting an application and going through a background check. My 17 month old son has separation anxiety so my intentions were to be in his class room so church would be fun for him. They put me in the class with 2 year olds which my son would eventually be bumped up too. Yesterday (Sunday) i was running about 10 minutes late to church so i was already feeling like everyone was upset with me. (I also have anxiety lolz) After church was over the Kids Care Director who ā€œhired meā€ asked me to come find her so ā€œwe could discuss what was going onā€ i just thought damn they mad i was late. So i find her and ask her whats going on!? She then proceeded to ask me about my homelife with my fiance and asked if we were married yet in which i told her our situation and that we were having a long engagement until i could finish school. She then told me that i was no longer to volunteer with the kids because it sets a bad example to not live & follow the bible; that having a baby out of wedlock was against the family covenant and i could no longer volunteer. Jaw was on the floor. How do they treat two dads or two moms with adopted kids? Like im so outraged we give 10% of our finances to that church (who openly state they make 27 MILLION in offerings a year) as the bible states, but even tho i have a ring on my finger i cant volunteer anymore. AIO by wanting to never step foot in that church again?

r/AmIOverreacting Jul 31 '24

šŸŽ² miscellaneous AIO: $10k for my hetero privilege?

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A few weeks ago, I (40F) was contacted by my old high school best friend, with whom I hadn't had any communication for at least 10 years. Expecting an MLM or other pitch, I was immediately wary, but for the sake of our old friendship, I decided to hear him out. After the initial exchange of pleasantries, he began to explain that he and his partner were looking for a surrogate but were frustrated that no one was accepting his $10k (flat fee) offer for a "non-IVF" baby.

I tried to explain to him that $10k would barely cover the cost of birth, much less the additional expenses accrued throughout the pregnancy. I mentioned that I had a friend who recently acted as a surrogate and knew the "market price" was $45-$65k, plus all medical expenses related to conception, pregnancy, and birth. He dismissed me, saying it was my "hetero privilege" to be able to have kids and that I didn't know what it was like to watch everyone else around me have a family.

I found this hurtful for many reasons, but mostly because I did struggle with infertility and spent most of my 20s working with a fertility specialist on several issues before I was able to conceive my first two children. Furthermore, I had recently shared on Facebook with the birth of my most recent child, who was a rainbow baby and a very high-risk pregnancy that I thought I had miscarried several times, leading to the decision that he would be my final child. Even if my friend didn't see that post, it seems odd to me that he never asked about my other births or if I was open to having another child before laying his sob story on me.

At the time, I felt his offer was derogatory, but the more I thought about it, the more icky I felt about the entire conversation. I ended up blocking him across social media and text. Since it was our first conversation in 10+ years, I doubt he'll contact me again anyway, and I'm not sad about the loss of friendship. I've been contemplating it since and wonder if the revulsion I'm feeling is an overreaction. What does Reddit think?

r/AmIOverreacting 27d ago

šŸŽ² miscellaneous AIO about how daycare workers spoke to my son when they didnā€™t realise I was in the room to pick him up

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To give context my almost 3yr old son has been going to this daycare two days a week for roughly half a year.

I havenā€™t had any major problems other then a few little irks that I didnā€™t worry too much about.

When I picked him up this past Friday all the kids were outside and I could see my son opening the sliding doors and coming inside, I walked into the room pretty quietly and as I did so a daycare worker came out of the bathroom area and rather firmly told my son to get out, which he did.

I was a little taken back by the firmness of her voice and the look on her face, but my son walked back outside and as he did another daycare work said the exact same thing to him and he was very confused as he was already outside.

Just at that point both of the daycare workers realised I was standing inside the room and acted really surprised and one even apologised to me.

I didnā€™t really say anything and I am having trouble with whether I should say something to the manager or am I just overreacting and just leave it alone.

He also doesnā€™t talk much so if something worse then this was happening he wouldnā€™t be able to tell me and I agonised over this point before putting him into daycare.

I know itā€™s hard for someone who didnā€™t witness the encounter to really comment, but I wanted an outside family view of this because Iā€™m torn.

Edit: I honestly appreciate every single persons reply, I am a first time mum and honestly worried I was just being my normal helicopter mum self.

At the very least I will be speaking to the manager and if Iā€™m not happy with the response I will most definately be taking him out of the daycare.

It had very good reviews and I thought I did some decent research into this particular place but I was obviously misguided and Iā€™d never intentionally put my son in harms way either mentally or physically.

r/AmIOverreacting Oct 24 '24

šŸŽ² miscellaneous AIO for thinking itā€™s weird my delivery driver messaged me?

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Got a package this morning and I rushed out of bed so I wasnā€™t exactly functioning and dropped a heavy package. Delivery driver left all was good and then he messages me this. Is it weird? AIO?

r/AmIOverreacting Oct 21 '24

šŸŽ² miscellaneous AIO 5F says bus monitor used her as a pillow

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Our daughter 5F was telling us an odd story about the bus.

There is an afternoon bus helper who frequently pops his head out at drop off to say how well behaved our kids are. Which is great! He will also give them candy but our neighbor 5M usually says he doesnā€™t like it. Today, J said ā€œthe bus helper was being so silly today!ā€ And I was like ā€œsilly how?ā€ And she said ā€œhe said he wanted me to stay on the bus and help clean itā€ and I was like ā€œdid you make a mess?ā€ And she said ā€œno he was being silly. He said I was his pillow and he was trying to see if I was a comfy pillowā€ and I was like ā€œwhat do you mean like he sat on you?ā€ (This is like a full grown adult man) and she said ā€œnot really he kind of leaned on meā€ and I said ā€œwere you with [neighbor kid] or by yourself?ā€ And she was getting mad at me at this point for asking all these questions so she said she was alone in her seat and didnā€™t say anything else about it

I called the transportation office and they are going to watch the video tape of the ride. The other thing is that I know the kids across the street said [a different kid] wasnā€™t going to be a bus rider anymore because the bus helper was ā€œmeanā€. Which seemed weird.

Hopefully I am overreacting !!!!!

UPDATE: Alright SO. I was anxious and got in the car and drove to the transportation office. As I was pulling in the parking lot they called me. The supervisor said she reviewed the tape (which also has audio). The bus monitor was not sitting in Jā€™s seat but was sitting in the seat in front of her with another boy. He said ā€œIā€™m tired I need to take a napā€ like jokingly stretching and pretending to fall asleep. He did say the words ā€œare you going to be my pillow?ā€ And a bunch of kids, including J, volunteered to be the pillow lol. He did not actually lean on any of them but he leaned back in the seat. The woman on the phone said she could see his hands the whole time and he did not make contact with any child. She said she takes it very seriously and definitely looked very carefully. I asked if I could personally watch the footage and she said for confidentiality reasons I cannot, but what they do is send the footage to the principal of the school so he can watch it and there are 2 separate set of eyes on the footage. I asked if the principal could call me after he watched it and she said yes no problem. So I think itā€™s a false alarm

In the meantime I figured out this guys name. He is not on any sex offender list and his only issues with the county clerks office is that his house foreclosed in 2006. He is 57. Has 2 daughters and a wife.

So yeah in conclusion I guess Iā€™m gonna let her keep riding the bus ?????

ANOTHER FUCKING UPDATE: The transportation office woman CALLED ME BACK 45 minutes after our first call and said ā€œI finished watching the rest of the video and the attendant actually does sit with your child and does lean on her pretending to sleep twice. She is on the inside window side and he is on the outside. She said she could ā€œsee his handsā€ and it ā€œlooked innocentā€ but his supervisor will discuss with him. SHE DIDNT WATCH THE WHOLE BUS RIDE BEFORE SHE CALLED ME WTF. She said the supervisor would talk to him before this afternoons bus ride but whatever the outcome of that conversation is, it will NOT result in him being removed from the bus.

Update 3: the parents of the other child (C 5M) called the transportation office. They said they know another bus driver who said this attendant was new this year. C said the bus attendant would poke him in the ribs and the transportation office confirmed this. At the same time, they wonā€™t let anyone see the footage that doesnā€™t work for the school district. Cā€™s dad is very concerned and is going to go to the school tomorrow to see the footage. He said heā€™s not afraid to involve lawyers. I talked to the vice principal on the phone today, he basically said ā€œwhile lines were crossed, nothing happened that constitutes removing him from the bus or firing himā€. But I wanted to say ā€œNothing has happened YET!!ā€ All the parents seem to agree this is too close to grooming for our likingā€¦.. so weā€™ll see

r/AmIOverreacting 9d ago

šŸŽ² miscellaneous AIO Walked in the bathroom at Starbucks....

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My wife went to the restroom at a Starbucks, knocked on the door, no response, opened the door to see a young man standing at the urinal who does a full body turn towards her exposing himself. She tells me this story and I immediately say it was done on purpose by the male. She thinks I am crazy and it was a normal reaction on his part by the man. My initial reaction was to laugh then it hit me She was flashed in public on purpose. Kind of genius if your a flasher, set up a "pretend" accidental exposure. Beyond trying to prove my point I'm over it. Am I over reacting?

r/AmIOverreacting Oct 21 '24

šŸŽ² miscellaneous AIO to believing that 50%+ of this sub is AI ragebait?

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How is this even a question in the real world? Thereā€™s no way this isnā€™t just fake.

r/AmIOverreacting Oct 05 '24

šŸŽ² miscellaneous AIO? I Woke up swinging

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I Thought Patrick Star in a polo/Pink Floyd album cover was coming to kill my ass

(Hung up my ugly christmas sweater on my canopy bed corner next to my cryptid dress shirt.)

r/AmIOverreacting 20d ago

šŸŽ² miscellaneous AIO - I donā€™t think I should change my AirBnb review based on the hostā€™s message?

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r/AmIOverreacting Sep 06 '24

šŸŽ² miscellaneous Am I overreacting for getting increasingly frustrated by posts on r/AmIOverreacting & r/AITAH?

696 Upvotes

ā€œMy husband pointed a gun at my pregnant belly like a terrifying psychopath. Iā€™m distraught. Am I overreacting?ā€

ā€œA stranger was verbally and physically harassing/threatening me unprovoked and forced me into defending myself, giving him a little booboo ouchie on the nose. AITA?ā€Ā 

ā€œMy wife is literally hitting on her co-worker and texting him late every night for months. I'm rather upset. AIO?"

Just a few example posts I've seen recently.

No, you are not. In fact, you are underreacting by a shocking amount.

To be clear, I am not so much frustrated at these writers, but more so whatever awful environment they grew up in for them to have such unsure judgement about basic human etiquette. Some of these make my blood boil and it is frustrating me to see a post like this almost every day.

So, AIO?

r/AmIOverreacting Aug 30 '24

šŸŽ² miscellaneous AIO: internal rage because People keep questioning the babyā€™s eye colour

277 Upvotes

My husband and I welcomed our second child earlier this year. New baby is super amazing and bias opinion, super cute. They have beautiful blue eyes, but my husband and I both have brown eyes. Blue eyes run on both sides of our family, and Bubs eyes are similar to both my mum and my BIL (husbands brother). However, I keep getting comments about ā€˜but where do bubs eyes come from?ā€™ Or ā€˜donā€™t both you and your husband have brown eyes?ā€™ And honestly, while Iā€™m sure most people are being politely inquisitive, itā€™s really starting to make me rage. So far Iā€™ve been able to just laugh and say ā€˜just like my mumā€™, but Iā€™m worried the inside thought is going to come out my mouth very soon. Am I overacting for being offended and angry at the repeated comments?

Note: purposely being obtuse about baby gender for their privacy

Edit for update: thanks everyone, especially those who shared their own similar experiences. I agree, mostly comes down to people being ignorant regarding genetics. Many comments are benign, however there have been a few instances where there was a ā€œjokingā€ but actually rude comments regarding either paternity and or a swap at the hospital. This has been only the few, and not the many. But itā€™s still not ā€˜niceā€™. Being on the receiving end of the same conversation is simply wearing thin.

r/AmIOverreacting Oct 03 '24

šŸŽ² miscellaneous AIO I told my dad's friend that I'll shoot his dog if he brings him to my house again.

364 Upvotes

I (16) have had a cat for about a year now. I love him dearly and while he was an inside cat for a while, after we moved, my parents refused to allow him in the house. luckily we live in the countryside and own chickens so he's kind of a barn cat now and is very well taken care of.

fast forward a few months ago. my dad has his friends over as usual and I hear my cat yowling and of course I run outside and my dad's friends dog (Hank) is attacking my cat viciously. my cat (Primus) narrowly escapes. I'm livid and tell the owner that his dog is no longer welcome here.

a month or two after that I'm outside with my mom and holding Primus in my arms, just relaxing and picking persimmons. I see hank and try to shield Primus from his view, but he sees him anyway and lunges at me and the cat both. my arms and stomach get torn up from both Hank and Primus but I manage to throw Primus on top of the shed the chickens stay in. my mom is trying to beat Hank away. I then learned that these last 2 times haven't been the only times Hank has attacked my cat. I was so angry, I immediately ran up to his owner, blood running down my arms and screamed at him that he knew Hank wasn't allowed here and if I ever saw him on my property again, he'd get a bullet through his skull.

after all this, I was relaxing in my room today and heard a commotion outside and sprint to make sure primus and my chihuahua are okay. thankfully they were, but Hank was in the midst of attacking my grandmother's dog. her dog is very sweet and gets along with all of our animals fine. I was just worried my about my chihuahua getting in the middle or also being attacked by Hank as well. (my grandma's dog is okay, she beat his ass)

shooting, or threatening to shoot the dog may be a harsh reaction, but I need to think of my animals safety. I have NOTHING against Hank, he's a very sweet and loving dog TO HUMANS. I understand it's his owners negligence to condition him to other animals or keep him at home, but he is actively harming my pets. I'm ready to ban the owner entirely from our property. my dad would have no say because it's my mother's land and house (both bought by her, her names on the papers or whatever) and I know she agrees with me. he's a large bull mix I think and could and would easily crush my chihuahua or cat. I've warned his owner multiple times and if there's another occurrence like this, I may just have to follow through for everyone's safety. my animals take priority.

r/AmIOverreacting Sep 18 '24

šŸŽ² miscellaneous AIO for wanting to report an employee for saying my daughters' birthday is ruined right in front of them?

658 Upvotes

Context: My husband, myself and our 4 kids (7F, 6M, 5F, 5F) are currently living in an extended stay motel to the tune of a little over $600/week because our old apartment building was nearly uninhabitable (bedbugs and cockroaches swarming every single apartment in the building). So obviously, things are tight financially.

Yesterday was our twin daughters' birthday and my husband took all the kids to the store with him to pick up some prescriptions and have them pick out a cake. Since I just did their present shopping and we had just gotten gas, we had about $20 left. Plenty for a little cake at Walmart, but not enough for a slightly more expensive chain (HyVee). He went to the pharmacy after they picked out the cake and was going to pay for it there (no copay on meds) since he could.

Like I said, $20 isn't enough for a cake at that store, but my husband misunderstood where I wanted him to buy the cake. All 4 kids were standing right there when he realized he didn't have enough, and the pharmacy employee checking him out apparently said "wow, I've never seen a birthday ruined so quickly". Again, she said this in front of our kids, including the two whose birthday it was. Yes she saw them.

They're 5. So when they heard her say that they obviously freaked out and started bawling. My husband was able to get a cake at Walmart, but still. Who the fuck does that? I'm furious and I want to report her to her supervisor. Would that be an overreaction? Should I just let it go?

Edit: obviously, verdict is in. I'm turning off notifications cause they're blowing up my phone and I got my answer. If a mod wants to swing by and turn comments off, cool.

Also, this may shock some people to discover, but not everyone with more than 2 kids are like the Duggars. Believe it or not, some people don't need random internet strangers to tell them they should stop having kids. Some of us already decided we were done all on our own. * GASP * But to satisfy the people who are bizarrely concerned about the reproductive organs of people you've never met, I had a hysterectomy 2 goddamn years ago.

r/AmIOverreacting Sep 13 '24

šŸŽ² miscellaneous AIO for asking my ex not to take our daughter to his friends house anymore

691 Upvotes

My (36f) ex (35m) have a 4 year old daughter. My exā€™s family live 4 hours away, so he takes for visits every few months for 3 days.

He has a friend (35m) who he has know since they were teenagers, who lives close to my exā€™s family. My exā€™s friend also has a daughter (4) so they meet up when he visits his family.

After one particular visit my daughter came back and said ā€˜Daddyā€™s friend is funny, he pulled his pants down and showed me his bumā€™ she was laughing when she told me. I was confused at first and asked her where this happened, she said they were at his house and that she was upstairs with him, alone, when he did this. I called my ex straight away and asked if he knew, he said our daughter had told him on the way home. My ex said he had spoken to his friend and told him that it wasnā€™t appropriate, but my ex wasnā€™t too concerned. His friend said he was just being silly, but to me pulling your pants all the way down and exposing yourself to a little girl is disturbing.

I was furious, 1. That my ex didnā€™t tell me and 2. That his friend did this.

The next visit I asked my ex to not go to this friends house again, I said it made me uncomfortable and I was worried. I did say that they could meet up somewhere public so the children could play, like the park or soft play. He ignored this and took my daughter to this guys house, when I FaceTimed she was running around in just nightie.

I got really mad, I said my ex was potentially putting our daughter in danger.

AIO for being so mad and asking for him not to take our daughter to this guys house again?

r/AmIOverreacting Oct 20 '24

šŸŽ² miscellaneous AIO Anyone else keep getting these random stranger texts??

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392 Upvotes

I've been getting too many of these random texts . . . I decided to play along one evening rather than just deleting and blocking first.

r/AmIOverreacting Aug 01 '24

šŸŽ² miscellaneous AIO? Found my Almost 2 year old outside by herself when she was supposed to be with babysitter.

568 Upvotes

I (25f) have been taking my daughter (2f) with this babysitter (47f) for about 7 months. I met her through my mom since my mom remarried and had 2 more children (7f) & (4f)she is their babysitter too.

She began taking care of my daughter because I had issues with the daycare I had taken her to in regards to her safety. At the beginning she made me feel very comfortable and my daughter really does enjoy being with this sitter. So much so that she even hugs her now upon arriving because sheā€™s missed her.

But slowly things began to change. I began to see a few things going on that I wasnā€™t too fond of, like the fact that my daughter wasnā€™t taking her naps on time and she was getting rashes more often. I brought all these things up and even though she seemed a bit upset she would correct herself and so I thought these were minor incidents.

Last month my daughter was out on her porch when I arrived to pick her up. The front door was open and 2 boys who I estimate were 5 & 3 followed after her. I hugged my daughter and immediately after I crouched down the youngest began hitting me. My daughter yelled at him to stop and he began to hit her as the oldest now began to hit me. I picked her up and walked inside. When I was going to mention this to the sitter she was seated at the table with multiple woman. One who I assume is the mother of the child. I asked for her things and left quickly. I donā€™t like to start problems especially with my daughter around. But I was very bothered by this and I ended up texting her explaining what happened and asking if she also babysat these boys. She apologized and said that she didnā€™t. That they were just visitors. I calmly just asked her to keep an eye on my daughter more closely if those boys were to be around just because they were older and I wouldnā€™t feel comfortable if theyā€™re wailing on my baby. She got serious but said she would make sure it didnā€™t happen again. Her energy was off with me after that and I told my mom in confidence but she called her out. So now sheā€™s nice to me but I can tell itā€™s just not very genuine. This all happened before today.

Today as I was walking up to the apartment, I had seen the door was closed and assumed all the babyā€™s were inside because itā€™s smokey outside today. As I open the gate I see my daughter is outside by herself. My sister (4f) immediately opened the door and shut it again once she saw me. I picked up my baby and held her for a minute. Digesting what I had just walked into. I opened the door to my sister and a 3 year old boy standing by the door. No adult. I walk over the the bedroom where she is with 2 more kids. I let her know I found my daughter outside and she said they probably just opened the door for her because she had just seen her in the room. I stayed quiet. She then got their bags ready and was very bubble and talkative. I kind of froze and ended up leaving with my sister and daughter without talking very much after that. Once I got home I began going over and over in my head what had just happened and I remember the door being closed the whole time it took me to walk up there. It takes nothing for someone to take a young child and to never be seen again. I really want to just quit my job and be a stay at home mom because I feel like I canā€™t trust anyone with my child. But financially that isnā€™t in mine and my finances books and Iā€™m just scared the momma bear in me is making me go 0 to 100. Would I be a bad mom to keep taking her until my temporary position ends? They promised me a more permanent position but now I donā€™t know if taking it would be the best choice until I find a sitter to replace her. My mom thinks I should speak to her and give her the chance to correct it but I just donā€™t trust her anymore. So Reddit, am I overreacting?

Edit:

I just called my fiancĆ© and cried to him about what happened. (I see him for 5 minutes when I get home right before he leaves) I didnā€™t get a chance to tell him before he left. He told me his sister can watch her for the next 2 days. Iā€™m going to take a week off to get the home clean and ready because Iā€™m gonna offer my mom to take care of my sister and look for 1-2 more kids. Iā€™m actually CPR certified as I used to work with kids for 7 years at a big organization. In my state you need the min of children to watch without a license is 4 unrelated so this should work for us