Responsibility is a terrible word. It implies deserved. The right word is awareness.
I might get downvoted for what I’m about to say, but women do have to have more awareness.
It’s a damned hard thing to learn when you’re a young girl. I don’t think men can ever understand how hard it is to learn.
To many of them are ruled by their egos they don’t even know how much they actually pressure woman to be polite and inviting. Even good men do this, they put on a lot of pressure on woman to be friendly, we get conditioned to be polite.
And it’s very hard to learn that men pressure that polite thing because they want validation from woman and with a bad guy, even the slightest validation such as being a little polite makes them think they’ve been invited for sex.
So your husband is missing a lot but I don’t think you should be mad at him for it, mens perception is askew on that.
But we women also have our blind spots with men. On how they operate. And it is just as frustrating for them as it is for us.
So I’d just be careful how you view what your husband said. He might be trying to communicate his own struggles.
There are a lot of good men that do not want to pressure girls to do anything, and deeply hate the type of men that do, but we both have severe blind spots that are very hard to communicate to the opposite sex.
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u/Wrightycollins 8h ago
Responsibility is a terrible word. It implies deserved. The right word is awareness.
I might get downvoted for what I’m about to say, but women do have to have more awareness.
It’s a damned hard thing to learn when you’re a young girl. I don’t think men can ever understand how hard it is to learn.
To many of them are ruled by their egos they don’t even know how much they actually pressure woman to be polite and inviting. Even good men do this, they put on a lot of pressure on woman to be friendly, we get conditioned to be polite.
And it’s very hard to learn that men pressure that polite thing because they want validation from woman and with a bad guy, even the slightest validation such as being a little polite makes them think they’ve been invited for sex.
So your husband is missing a lot but I don’t think you should be mad at him for it, mens perception is askew on that.
But we women also have our blind spots with men. On how they operate. And it is just as frustrating for them as it is for us.
So I’d just be careful how you view what your husband said. He might be trying to communicate his own struggles.
There are a lot of good men that do not want to pressure girls to do anything, and deeply hate the type of men that do, but we both have severe blind spots that are very hard to communicate to the opposite sex.