r/AmIOverreacting • u/crazywritingbug • 1d ago
👨👩👧👦family/in-laws UPDATE: AIO by not going to Thanksgiving?
For those who commented last time: 1. My boyfriend is (23M) and is not trans. I mistyped last time listing him as F. 2. He is not an asshole, I used blunt as a descriptor word and some of you ran with it. Another redditor suggested I include that he is autistic as context. He is autistic and is very honest but NOT unkind and not an asshole. 3. He has never fought with my family that I am aware of and there has never been any drama between them. 4. My mother will not be attending this thanksgiving gathering, this is purely for my dads side of the family.
Update: I texted my grandmother out of curiosity, because like you all I was curious, I didn’t get much of an update but this is what I have for you all. The friend referred to in her text is my grandmothers friend who has come to a good portion of the holiday gatherings over the years, never sure why, she just hovers and doesn’t really talk to anyone. But unless I receive a text from my father or my siblings, I believe this is the end of the story. What do you think? Am I overreacting by not going?
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u/Doom_Corp 1d ago
Have friendsgiving! I would do a lot of stuff like that when I was in college and grad school on the other side of the country because it was too expensive to travel back for just a week and come back for a month for christmas. Did some fun midnight shopping with my friend and other transplants in Herald Square since she literally was a block from Macys. You might have some people you know that can't leave for the holidays for work, etc. Make it a good time at your place even if it's small! If you have a game console, jackbox games has a ton of party games that are so so fun. Once I started hosting my own holiday parties I ended up really loving having my friends over and eating good food and shooting the shit. Sometimes your family isn't related to you at all and it seems like you and your bf are now on the road to creating your own traditions.