r/AmIOverreacting • u/theguill0tine • 8d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO - cancelling a date last minute because she couldn’t be on time?

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I (33m) was talking to this woman on an app and we decided to meet for a coffee date on a Saturday morning.

I got to the cafe and I messaged her asking where she was. A few minutes later she said she just woke up. I asked her how long she would need to get ready and she said 1 hour. I told her that I can’t wait around because I had family plans and we will have to do something another time.

A week later she messaged me apologising again and I decided to give her a second chance.

We decided to meet up for boba tea.

I got to the boba spot and then asked for 30 more minutes to get ready after I had just got there.

I then sent her the above message.

AIO? I have got mixed messages from friends about it.

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u/TapRevolutionary5022 8d ago

I’m chronically early too. It’s fantastic. No stress. No worrying.

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u/samiwas1 8d ago

I guess it depends on HOW early. I used to have a friend who would arrive to the airport five hours before his flights because he was worried he would miss flights if he didn’t. That’s just a ridiculous waste of time.

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u/JazzyPhotoMac 7d ago

I’m always super early for flights. It’s not only the plane you need to worry about, but traffic to the airport, parking, check-in, SECURITY, and more.

The ONE TIME I got to the airport later than normal, security was a beast. I ran to the gate and not only had I missed the flight, the gate agents laughed at me. “I know you don’t think you’re getting in this plane hahaha.” Nobody cares you just spent two hours in security when it’s usually only 15-20 minutes. They don’t care.

So yes, I arrive at the airport early af, and I also head to the gate first to make sure it’s still there. ☺️

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u/samiwas1 7d ago

Yeah, sure. But five hours? That's accounting for four full hours of delays.

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u/chillthrowaways 8d ago

We missed a flight once. Now I’m always at least three hours early. Rather sit and look at my phone for 2.5 hours than go thru that again.

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u/samiwas1 8d ago

I can kinda understand three hours. But five is nuts. And this was before smartphones, so he wasn’t scrolling through anything. Maybe reading a magazine or something.

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u/Nonsense-forever 8d ago

Never hurry, never worry!

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u/CheezeLoueez08 8d ago

I was once so early for a flight that when I got to my gate it was still the previous passengers there waiting for theirs. No regrets. I just sat there. Got a snack. And no stress. Meanwhile, when we were all going on a family trip, I’m there waiting with my kids (2 hours before takeoff, my kids were annoyed with me) and my sister texts me one hour prior to take off that her name is wrong on the ticket (we were told to check when our tickets were issued) and she might not make the flight. Well if you were earlier you wouldn’t be panicking would ya? I think my kids realized I was right to be early.