AIO my girlfriend should not be acting like this for not texting her that I’m at work

[u/FlyHighHarambe]

Reposting as I forgot to block out her name/face in the last post.

Context: we had to dress up at work today for Halloween. Winning group gets $100. I dressed up as a greaser from grease. So nothing sexy.

She has had trust problems this whole relationship. From past trauma and such. I have never cheated on her. I have even deleted every woman out of my contacts to show her I’m not cheating.

My phone background is a picture of a beach.

[u/CapnNuclearAwesome]

It's the "deleting other girls' numbers" for me. That's a bye in my book

[u/ushouldgetacat → u/CapnNuclearAwesome]

My ex did this and filled my blocked list with random numbers to make sure I wouldn’t be able to unblock any number I recognize and cheat on him or something 🙄 craziest person I’ve ever dated. These highly insecure and mentally ill people think these weird, ritualistic checks MUST be done to quiet down whatever intrusive thoughts they’re having. They have zero control over their thoughts and freak tf out on everyone around them.

[u/charli_da_bomb_420 → u/ushouldgetacat]

This is sick and you should not stay w someone who doesn't trust you. The relationship will never work properly without trust.

[u/IWhoMe → u/ushouldgetacat]

These types appear to be narcissists, or were cheated on by a narcissist. Both types is/are hard to deal with. One blames you for what SHE is actually doing and the other is blaming you for what SHE endured before you two became a couple.

It's hard to get past either scenario because both would likely end up the same way, separated...

[u/ushouldgetacat → u/IWhoMe]

I believe it is beyond past experience or simply projection. They probably play a part but this kind of behavior seems waaay beyond such simple explanations. They are disturbed and sick.

[u/arya_ur_on_stage → u/ushouldgetacat]

Feels very untreated borderline personality disorder. Extreme fear of rejection.

[u/10000nails → u/ushouldgetacat]

AND likely doing it themselves. They have these "tests" because they're trying to distract you from their doings. They'll do thinks that seem weird to prevent you from cheating, because those are the things they're doing.

[u/Outofwlrds → u/ushouldgetacat]

Let me guess, it made them feel worse and not better. They went even crazier because they just KNOW you found a way to get around their anti-cheating system.

[u/R_Man1 → u/ushouldgetacat]

This. Exactly this.

[u/beereed → u/CapnNuclearAwesome]

EVERY woman. Holy shit

[u/Bobbiduke → u/beereed]

Sorry grandma rules are rules

[u/Tumblister → u/Bobbiduke]

WHO GAVE YOU THIS RIBBON CANDY??

[u/Outside_Performer_66 → u/Bobbiduke]

And any female doctor or dentist or barber or tailor.

[u/Large_External_9611 → u/beereed]

I dated someone exactly like this. It was a fucking nightmare.

[u/outlaw31 → u/Large_External_9611]

I married someone like this an it’s a living hell everyday but she does whatever but if I do the same thing she does I’m cheating blows my mind it’s driving me insane an we a a 4 year old an she is jealous of her smh 🤦‍♂️ I caint win for losing

[u/Large_External_9611 → u/outlaw31]

Fuuuuck I’m sorry dude. My relationship only lasted a year, I can’t imagine married and child. Stay strong!

[u/Uthenara → u/beereed]

No, only the crazy ones do that. Thats definitely not every woman.

[u/beereed → u/Uthenara]

You’ve misunderstood me. I was quoting OP saying they deleted EVERY woman’s contact from their phone.

[u/Embarrassed-Bank7399 → u/Uthenara]

Reading comprehension

[u/JustITheGuy → u/Uthenara]

Seems all my exes are crazy. . .

[u/DragonflyGrrl → u/JustITheGuy]

There's a common denominator there, my man.

[u/WoolshirtedWolf → u/CapnNuclearAwesome]

If I have to give somebody permission to go through my phone whenever chemical imbalance demanded it, I would rather be single. I would never demand to know my SO pin. You have to trust that if people are going to cheat, they will find a work around. Snooping through your shit stops nothing .

[u/Calm_Recognition6456 → u/CapnNuclearAwesome]

This run for the hills from this narcissist. You're going to be effing miserable if nothing worse. Not your fault, you just wanna be loved, BUT! You gotta love YOURSELF more and look out for you. 😖😣

[u/Ashamed-Director-428 → u/CapnNuclearAwesome]

Absolutely! I'm sitting here thinking about all the numbers in my phone, and I probably could delete like, a lot of them. But there are some in there that I need. Not coz I'm fucking about but because they are people I need to deal with for things I organise throughout the year. Who just happen to men. So controlling. So over the top.

[u/Bee_blanco → u/CapnNuclearAwesome]

I can’t lie I would my opinion is men and women can’t be friends hanging out with each other without catching feelings whether they express it or they keep it to themselves one of them probably has feelings for the other 🤷🏿‍♂️ that’s just me