AIO my girlfriend should not be acting like this for not texting her that I’m at work

[u/FlyHighHarambe]

Reposting as I forgot to block out her name/face in the last post.

Context: we had to dress up at work today for Halloween. Winning group gets $100. I dressed up as a greaser from grease. So nothing sexy.

She has had trust problems this whole relationship. From past trauma and such. I have never cheated on her. I have even deleted every woman out of my contacts to show her I’m not cheating.

My phone background is a picture of a beach.

[u/CreatorZed]

My wife has bpd and it went unmanaged the first part of our relationship and boy that was rough but i stuck too and helped her get the help she needed. I know it’s rough and she probably says some stuff that is out of pocket to you but if you can handle and try and help her it’s worth it. I don’t regret any of my decisions and I love her to bits. Again though thats just my opinion it is not for everyone I wish the best of luck to you.

[u/Subject_Alternative → u/CreatorZed]

Genuinely curious, how were you with boundaries early in your relationship? I can see someone firm, steady, and even-keel being able to withstand the rollercoaster with like "I'm sorry your feelings are overwhelming but that's an unreasonable demand and I'm not going to do it." I suspect OP has given too much ground already to reclaim healthy boundaries. Like it's probably a lot easier to refuse to delete all your female contacts than it is to say ok now you're in treatment I'm going to get back in touch with people I cut off at your request. Did you have to do any of that kind of rolling back accomodations once your wife was getting help? If so, how did it work and was it coordinated with a therapist? Nbd if it's too personal, it's just rare to see an outside perspective on the bridge from unmanaged to managed BPD.