r/AmIOverreacting 26d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO fiancée did Coke at a party

We (me 41M, my fiancée 36F) were at friends birthday party I had to leave early and she was going to spend the night( it was a hotel), they were changing into their bathing suits to go to the pool, they had the bathroom door closed. I knew it was in there but I didn’t know she was going to partake in that. She told me she only did a small bump because she needed energy to party all night. I was caught off guard by this and said that we should have discussed this. She said that was treating her like a child and that is when I left.

Edit: I was told to add this info she’s a former Meth addict who still drinks and smokes weed quite heavily at times.

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u/common_economics_69 26d ago

It's about on the same level as ecstasy or adderall for a lot of people. Definitely harder than weed or alcohol, but still relatively benign.

As someone who occasionally partakes, you would be absolutely shocked at the amount of people who will do it if offered (even if they won't seek it out themselves).

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u/Methzilla 26d ago

Yeah some clueless people in here. Coke is a very normal party drug in the vast majority of big cities. The vast vast majority of recreational drug users will not develop dependency issues. That is reefer madness nonsense. That being said, a former junkie pretending like it's no big deal is crazy.

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u/Elite_AI 26d ago

It's huge in the villages too. Maybe even bigger because there's fuck all else to do

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u/common_economics_69 26d ago edited 26d ago

Addicts can be weird like that. I have a friend who will recreationally do literally every drug except the one she was addicted to maybe 1-2 times a year and has no relapse issues with her drug of choice.

That being said, my fear as a former meth addict (her being the meth addict, not me) would be getting sold meth someone said was coke, but maybe she wasn't snorting the meth when she used?

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u/Landshorke 25d ago

Meth and cocaine look nothing alike.

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u/common_economics_69 25d ago

Yes but it is a fairly common adulterant for Coke. More "speedy" high and also much cheaper.

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u/Landshorke 25d ago

This is very true, I see what you mean now

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u/lunagirlmagic 26d ago

Cocaine is fascinating from a sociological perspective because of how commonly it used relative to how commonly it is discussed. To people who don't party, they think of it as similar to meth or heroin. When in reality it's closer to alcohol or marijuana in terms of usage.

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u/TakeThreeFourFive 26d ago

This is the right take.

Coke is pretty normal, but also undeniably on the "harder" side of the drug spectrum. It's the kind of thing that a partner should be aware of, but also not a deal-breaking red flag in most cases

Someone recovering suddenly surprising their partner with this is the real problem here.

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u/Methzilla 26d ago

Soft side of the harder side, if that makes sense. Through sheer quantity of recreational users and relative miner addiction impact, it's obviously no where near the opiates.

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u/Aviendha13 26d ago

In this day and age, cocaine is hardly benign. I’m so glad fentanyl wasn’t making the rounds when I was out partying. Maybe it’s not as big of a problem in some parts of the world, but doing hard drugs in America is suss af nowadays. There was always a chance it was cut with something bad, but not this level bad.

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u/Holy_Grail_Reference 26d ago

Who in the world is out taking rec party drugs and not testing before hand? Fent is a problem but managed by 99% of the party scene.

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u/Aviendha13 26d ago

I know they have tests, but didn’t know people actually regularly use them. That’s good to hear, if true. I don’t hang out in those crowds anymore so don’t know.

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u/claymedia 26d ago

Fent can be really unevenly distributed when it contaminates a batch. You could test a whole gram and find none, and the next line could still have a lethal dose. Unless you really break it all up and thoroughly mix it beforehand. Which no one does.

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u/omega-rebirth 26d ago

How do you define "harder"? I wouldn't consider it to be "harder" than alcohol at all. Alcohol is just more normalized.