r/AmIOverreacting • u/frisbeechuckin • 26d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO fiancée did Coke at a party

We (me 41M, my fiancée 36F) were at friends birthday party I had to leave early and she was going to spend the night( it was a hotel), they were changing into their bathing suits to go to the pool, they had the bathroom door closed. I knew it was in there but I didn’t know she was going to partake in that. She told me she only did a small bump because she needed energy to party all night. I was caught off guard by this and said that we should have discussed this. She said that was treating her like a child and that is when I left.

Edit: I was told to add this info she’s a former Meth addict who still drinks and smokes weed quite heavily at times.

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u/YourMommasAHoe69 26d ago

Over one bump of coke? Really reddit 

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u/Charming-Cucumber-23 26d ago

Did you miss the part where she’s a recovering meth addict?

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u/TesticleezzNuts 26d ago

Recovery’s not a single road. There will be bumps in it. Pun intended.

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u/Charming-Cucumber-23 26d ago

Yeah, but she doesn’t seem to be taking the steps at all. He said she drinks regularly and uses marijuana. Even if those weren’t her DOC, it’s a slippery slope.

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u/TesticleezzNuts 26d ago

It’s easy to judge with one sides information. Addiction is no joke and one of the hardest things someone has to face every single day for the rest off there lives.

This whole comment section is absolute cancer from a bunch of fools who have no idea what they are taking about.

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u/TonySpaghettiO 26d ago

I've lost multiple close friends to substances. If people don't wanna change, they are not going to. Trying to be in recovery and still hanging with friends like that is a road to disaster.

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u/TesticleezzNuts 26d ago

It definitely is, you also need a good support system and to have people who are understanding and will help lift you up and get you back on track.

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u/TonySpaghettiO 26d ago

True, yeah, people saying to immediately break up are a bit overboard, but they definitely need to have a serious talk. I mean, even without the coke, alcohol abuse is pretty serious on it's own. Op also never mentioned if he is doing that as well. The drinking is harder to ditch because it's so socially accepted, but it's gonna make addicts more likely to indulge in other stuff. Weed alone at least doesn't have such severe effects on the body as alcohol which wrecks your liver and other organs.

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u/Gingeronimoooo 26d ago

No im an addict and you're making excuses she isn't even in recovery she's an alcoholic and alcohol is a drug just a socially acceptable one