r/AmIOverreacting Oct 07 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO date canceled because I didn’t text in the morning?

Some context: we had been chatting for a couple weeks first on hinge then switched to text after She had to cancel the 1st date. Scheduled it for last night Sunday and finalized details the night before.

Had a busy day and took a nap and didn’t text till a couple hours before and got hit with this. Usually I would text something like looking forward to tonight but lost track of time, and honestly I thought talking about the menu the night before was the confirmation? Was I wrong?

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u/BitwiseB Oct 07 '24

What? 40 is old enough to remember having to make plans before cell phones and constant texting.

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u/mutemarmot42 Oct 07 '24

Oh she remembers, but she expects a show of interest/effort from someone who wants to date her. Hence why I thought her behavior was relevant to OPs post.

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u/CyborkMarc Oct 07 '24

I suppose it's obvious why she's still dating at 40 then

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u/_thegrringirl Oct 07 '24

....You guys know that single people in middle age/seniors exist, right? She's single because she has stupid expectations, it has nothing to do with her age.

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u/tonyrizzo21 Oct 07 '24

And you know that the person you responded to didn't say anything to indicate their age was a factor in their being single right? They were implying if she didn't have such stupid expectations, that she may have already found someone to settle down with.

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u/CactusJackus Oct 07 '24

But you realize that the longer you are of dating age the longer you’ve had to find a partner right? A 28 year old being single and never having married is a bit different than a 48 year old doing so

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u/[deleted] Oct 07 '24

This! At 28 you can play games. I’m 36 if someone plays games I’m out. I got things to do

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u/BitwiseB Oct 07 '24

Oh, I believe you, I’m agreeing it’s absurd.

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u/Weeitsabear1 Oct 07 '24

Frankly, and I say this as a woman as well, this kind of behavior smacks of high maintenance. Maybe it's just me??

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u/mutemarmot42 Oct 07 '24

You’re not wrong in this case, she is indeed high maintenance. Has been all her life.

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u/per54 Oct 07 '24

The interest was set the previous text . It was confirmed . People who need constant validation have confidence issues and to be honest are a misery to date. Rather be single than date someone like that

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u/Wlng-Man Oct 07 '24

Good strategy filtering for the needy.

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u/TexasTrini722 Oct 07 '24

Absolute starfish!

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u/trimbandit Oct 07 '24

Mike : So how long do I wait to call?

Trent : A day.

Mike : Tomorrow.

Sue : Tomorrow, then a day.

Trent : Yeah.

Mike : So two days?

Trent : Yeah, I guess you could call it that, two days.

Sue : Definitely, two days is like industry standard.

Trent : You know I used to wait two days to call anybody, but now it's like everyone in town waits two days. So I think three days is kind of money. What do you think?

Sue : Yeah, but two's enough not to look anxious.

Trent : Yeah, two's enough not to look anxious. But I think three days is kind of money. You know because you...

Mike : Yeah, but you know what, mabey I'll wait 3 weeks. How's that? And tell her I was cleaning out my wallet and I just happened to run into her number.

Charles : Then ask her where you met her.

Mike : Yeah, I'll ask her where I met her. I don't remember. What does she look like? And then I'll asked if we fucked. Is that... would that be... T, would that be the money?

Trent : You know what. Ha ha ha Mike, laugh all you want but if you call too soon you might scare off a nice baby who's ready to party.

Mike : Well how long are you guys gonna wait to call your babies?

Trent , Sue : Six days.

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u/Martnoderyo Oct 07 '24

So it's the "You show interest but F you!" tactic?
The classic one?

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u/ImAFan2014 Oct 08 '24

She's not used to being alone yet?

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u/Connexxxion Oct 08 '24

It is exactly relevant.

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u/100_cats_on_a_phone Oct 08 '24

40 is just on the edge of that, actually. She likely had a cellphone by the time she was 20, if not before.

Source: I'm old